i just want to point out how women give men horrible advice when it comes to dating.. i was on a forum, i will show u what a female said, and what i said
here is what the original post was about the guy in the post said he was upset because his girlfriend wouldn't text him back, but he would look on social media and see her commenting meaning she saw what he said but is not responding he said he brought up breaking up but she said she didn't want to here was my response to the guy: these women want someone there to abuse.. when i say they want someone to abuse, it sounds crazy and extreme.. but in their minds they don't see it as emotional abuse in their minds they see it as "this clown keeps me company" or "this is the idiot who makes me look like a good girl to my friends and family" or "this is the cuck who buys me dinner after i bang someone" they are totally selfish and don't care about your wellbeing they don't even consider or care how u feel i remember with my ex for example one day i was like "do u realize u left my apartment angry 3 times this week?" she said "it makes me feel wanted when u come after me" i said "ok but how do u think it makes me feel when ur ready to leave me over nothing all the time?" she said "i never thought about that" my point is- they are trash man.. don't waste your time on a skank who doesn't even have empathy when u ask these beasts if they want to be with you THEY WILL SAY YES, (because like i said above, you are providing some type of benefit for them) BUT THEIR ACTIONS WILL NOT MATCH THAT "YES" ONLY PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR ACTIONS then some girl said this to him: Honestly, unless it's excessive I wouldn't bring it up since that can be seen as clingy or smothering. If she still hitting you back in a reasonable time just keep yourself busy and let it be. then i said this to her: "let it be" leaves him in the same situation he came in here with also who cares if she thinks he is clingy? if that is his truth "that she pays him no attention" then so be it.. what he feels is valid.. why should he hide that? that is what keeps simps in a box to be toyed with there's nothing wrong with saying "i feel like this and i don't like it" being afraid to speak up for fear of being labeled is still being a simp he needs to realize he isn't a priority and A. cut ties B. demote her in his mind or C. keep her around but talk to other females and make no mistake, C. is what the female is doing to him.. she has him on standby while she entertains other men everything i just said was facts.. then she responded with this: Why do people assume because she not talking to you she talking to someone else? Talking about it will probably leave him more frustrated because more than likely he still won't get the response he desires. No man has ever told me that and in response I texted him more often and quicker. Why? Because if I wanted to text you faster I would do so without your nudge. He has a right to tell her how he feels. But if you think telling her will change things for the better you're wrong. The only way is really to establish more interest. Like you said demote her or busy himself. Or, find ways to make her want YOU more. then i responded: i'm not saying he needs to tell her for her to change, i'm saying he can tell her because that's how he feels, whether she likes it or not or changes isn't the point he needs to stand in what he believes REGARDLESS of what she says or does.. i know how modern women are and as for this: "Or, find ways to make her want YOU more." smh AGAIN that is what leads men to becoming simps.. your advice is horrible.. you are telling him to alter himself to be what she wants, he needs to be concerned with making a life he is happy with and proud of- not pleasing some female who barely likes him anyway he doesn't need to bend over backwards trying to figure out how he can get her to like him, that is just more simp behavior Who said bend over backwards? Who mentioned simp behavior? Who said alter himself? I said demote her, busy yourself, or make her want you more. I'm a "modern woman" that will ignore THE FUCK out of somebody while I'm doing who knows what for a plethora of reasons. If you're boring to me or don't hold my interest I'll text you back when I want. If anybody is qualified to speak on it it should be the person doing the behavior he's concerned about. i didn't respond with this but i want to answer these questions here: Who said bend over backwards? when she said: "Or, find ways to make her want YOU more." Who mentioned simp behavior? the original poster mentioned it- he was basically saying "am i a simp for being bothered that my girlfriend ignores me, or for allowing my girlfriend to ignore me" Who said alter himself? again, "Or, find ways to make her want YOU more." which translates to: she is not showing interest, so change or do something different to make her interested.. spend money, be more exciting, shift your personality, dress better, etc etc.. u are saying to appeal to her EVEN THOUGH she has not done anything for you- she has essentially low key rejected this guy- yet this female's advice is "try harder" if you really break that down, she is saying "reward her lack of interest" "reward her disrespect" "when she ignores you, give her more attention" in what universe is this good advice? now at this point i felt that her response was ridiculous because she was feigning ignorance, so i stopped addressing her directly, and here is what i said.. first i highlighted this section of what she said and reposted it I'm a "modern woman" that will ignore THE FUCK out of somebody while I'm doing who knows what for a plethora of reasons. If you're boring to me or don't hold my interest I'll text you back when I want. then i said: like i said originally: "they are totally selfish and don't care about your wellbeing they don't even consider or care how u feel" also like i said THEY DO NOT SEE THEIR BEHAVIOR AS EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE EVEN WHEN IT IS they see it as "whatever i can ignore u, i'm doin me" they don't care if they are leading u on or if yall r supposed to be committed or not, they don't care what the scenario is, they are self centered they won't say "hey i don't want to talk" or anything and like she said she could be doing anything and yes that includes being with another guy it is what it is so there you have it, she proved my original point.. this is the primary thing she was not looking at- THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP how is it ok for you to hit up your girl and she ignores you blatantly and she just carries on like "i'll hit him back whenever, i have better things to do" that is emotionally abusive and disrespectful- yet they (modern women) are too selfish to acknowledge it the guy literally said he brought up breaking up (obviously because he does not feel valued or respected) and the female said she didn't want to why would she say no yet still not respect him enough to stop the behavior he has issue with? again, like i said- because she is deriving some type of benefit from him the "relationship" is one sided this is essentially the equivalent of a woman telling a man to stop texting his ex, and he says no.. so she says maybe u should go back to her- and he says no, i want to stay with you he does not want to comply because he doesn't respect or love his girlfriend enough to change, yet he also does not want to break up because he is getting a benefit from her (that benefit likely being sex) that is abusive the thing is though- people only seem to understand abusive behavior when it comes from men when it comes from women they say "its her life" or "she's independent" or "you're too controlling" or "you're too insecure as a man" but this is disrespectful and abusive.. what kind of man wants to call to his girl and she basically hits him with "i'll get around to it" ??? like how does that make u feel as a man? even women know that is a dysfunctional picture its even in the bible, read esther and u will see vashti was disrespectful to her husband the king that way.. he asked her to come out and she didn't that is not a good woman or a submissive wife.. so all in all i just wanted to point out, women give horrible advice and i hope this guy took heed to what i said if they weren't in a rel. maybe it would be diff but if that's your girlfriend and that's the extent of the respect you get- you need to keep looking
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