i had to post this.. this was SO true... as soon as he said it has more to do with them wanting to avoid their own issues than it is about you messing something up- i was like wow i think he's onto something, then when he explained it i was like wow he is 100% on point with his analysis here this video may help any man who is frustrated with being ghosted.. as men we are natural problem solvers so we want to know the "why" behind the situation, and i believe this video helps tremendously with the "why" behind why we are ghosted by women sometimes
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wow look at what the media does with language to throw men under the bus daily one of the worst things a woman can do is have sex outside of marriage
when women do it, it causes men to not feel comfortable with them as a longterm partner... which is what women ultimately want- that longterm partner type of validation and security another thing it does is it ruins the man's sense of ownership over that woman.. that sense of ownership is like a glue that keeps the man close to her women complain and say things like "you don't own me" but then they turn around and say things like "i want to be yours" or "i'm his" or "he caught me" which are statements that show possession a man's protection and love for a woman are like a possessive type of thing.. why would you attempt to protect and value and pour into something you don't take ownership of? a man needs to feel like a woman is really "his" to feel secure and to feel like she is really worth sacrificing for so this is where many women screw up they go out and have sex with different men and then when they finally find husband material, the husband doesn't feel nearly as comfortable with her as would be necessary for a lasting commitment he imagines her having sex with the men in her past and it ruins his whole image of her.. she's not perfect in his eyes anymore and they both suffer for it she doesn't get his pure love and he doesn't get her pure love the best thing for women to do is really just wait for marriage the reason i talk about this with women more than men is because women don't seem to care about this as much.. men are the ones who take sexual past seriously.. women on the other hand just don't seem to care, they think things like "he's sexually experienced, this is great" while men think "she's sexually experienced, she was some guy's whore" its really hard to see a woman like a sweet princess when u know she has taken on multiple wieners... i mean.. it really plays on your mind.. you're thinking of her sweating, you're thinking of the bed creaking, you're wondering what she said to him, you're thinking about what secret thing they shared and if they are still keeping in contact, you wonder if he satisfied her more than you and if she misses him, you feel like your interactions with her are now tainted a woman having sex outside of marriage is seriously one of the most destructive things to the concepts of marriage and longterm relationships because she essentially makes herself hard to love when it comes to men, i think men have a different criteria of things that are important ... i think for men its good for us to be able to make money and provide and also protect and have wisdom etc in other words.. while women should make sure not to make themselves hard to love, men should make sure not to make themselves hard to respect btw i'm not saying men should have sex out of wedlock.. i believe we all should try to remain pure.. i just think its worse when women do it based on gender dynamics anyway.. just wanted to speak on this stuff i want all men reading this to just sit back and think on something imagine the last one or two women you really liked now imagine if you knew they were virgins......... what would that have changed for you and for the relationship? feel free to leave a comment and sound off have you ever noticed women hate humility?
i've done this thing where people call me and i tell them thanks for calling because they took time out of their day to check on me or chat with me or whatever women have had a weird reaction to it where they tell me to stop saying that, or they bring it up and make it a big deal any act of humility is hated by women they want you to act in an arrogant type of way or they will feel like you're not a "real man" just another example of women taking kindness for weakness i have more examples of women punishing acts of humility but i'll try to speak on them another time i know I've barely been back long enough to say hello but i have been wanting to get something off my chest recently
I've just wanted to talk about how we identify ourselves as men we oftentimes fall into this trap where we get our identity through what women think of us but i believe its time out for that we have to be able to be ourselves even if people threaten to not like us because of it women can cause us to stop playing video games women can cause us to overspend for things women can cause us to stop being content with the success we've garnered they can cause us to compare ourselves to others they can convince us that our clothes aren't nice enough they can convince us that our cars aren't nice enough they can convince us that we are boring and not entertaining enough the list goes on but we really have to get back to who we are.. i think the reason why many of us men begin seeing ourselves through the eyes of women is because we want them so bad and we've been ignored by them for such a long time so when we truly want them, we think "ok if i become what she wants then she will want me" but that won't work.. all that will do is make her continue to move the goalpost you have to be yourself and live your best life and not allow a woman to move you this mindset is what keeps you as the leader of your life.. the captain of your ship and the captain of whoever seeks to sail with you you want to be the leader and not co-captain.. u want to be the sole leader of your operation and you doing your own thing the way you feel it should be done (of course within the Lord's guidelines) is what will keep you in the driver's seat don't give women too much power and/or influence over you.. when they tell u video games are immature, blow them off.. when they tell u that you need to broaden your horizons aka "spend your time and money and take me on a vacation" when you know you don't feel like it, tell them no.. when they try to mold you, just stand firm in who u are and why and don't allow them to sway you even if they try to redecorate your place.. we have accepted that women decorate in our society but the truth is if its your place she still needs your permission my point isn't "say no to everything" my point is, u be the captain of your ship.. there is no co-captain, there is one captain and everyone else is a passenger.. this mindset will allow u the room you need to be the man you were destined to be hey peeps.. I haven't been on here in 2 months
my life has been nuts but i'm ok I tried to explain everything in a post a minute ago, but it got to be too much so i'll try to give a short version I started talking to my ex again.. we aren't back together but through our conversations I finally got healed of all the pain I received from our relationship I got laid off from brookdale my apartment in spring hill's lease ended I moved to Jackson, tn with no job so I could be with my church.. I didn't like it there but luckily I only signed a 3 month lease I ended up getting a job back in Nashville where I currently work.. but I am still hoping to get something more lucrative I currently stay with my parents.. I am staying here waiting for a new apartment complex to open in spring hill because I decided I just want to move back there because that's where I feel most comfortable this new complex opens next month my life has been insane lately but I am hoping the Lord allows me to get to a better place everything i'm saying right now is like... i'm leaving out a ton of details.. but maybe i'll say more another time alright well i'm out for now peeps peaCe |
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