"Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it."
i'm no preacher but this is my opinion:
there's no point dating or getting in relationships at all unless you feel like the Lord is the one behind it
there's no point in looking for someone online
there's no point in talking to anyone at a grocery store
there's no point in going to a club or bar
there's no point in wearing yourself out to impress the opposite sex
the Bible tells you to delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart
He will give you the desires of your heart, in other words you will not get them on your own and if you do get your desires on your own chances are they will come at a price
you might as well just pray, do what the Lord tells you to do, and be patient
ok so in the first entry i explained that my ex grew up without any type of financial privilege but she still acted like a spoiled brat and an entitled child
so i explained how an unprivileged woman was still able to grow up without emotional maturity
in that first one the reason i gave was because she was not properly disciplined with the belt, the rod, spankings, etc
now we're at part 2.. the second reason why a woman may still be spoiled even though she didn't have much growing up is because of..............
HER GOOD LOOKS
these women are approached by men nonstop.. online and offline
this stuff can really go to their heads.. this is imo one huge reason why women are not into commitment these days... they say they are because it makes them look mature and responsible but the reality is women are ruining relationships left and right
this is why many women will say things like "no guy has ever broken up with me before" .. because more often than not, they are the ones who decide to leave..... this is also why 80% of divorces are initiated by women..
they are fickle and they feel that they have infinite options
they always think there's something better right around the corner
ask yourself, what does your best mean to someone who feels they can replace you in less than 24 hours?
let me say that again...
WHAT DOES YOUR BEST MEAN TO SOMEONE WHO FEELS THEY CAN REPLACE YOU IN LESS THAN 24 HOURS?
women skate by through life because of their looks.. and i don't even just mean because they are sexually attractive, i also mean because people assume women are innocent more often than not
they can stab someone and dodge sentencing because even when they are the perpetrator of a crime they oftentimes are still portrayed as the victim
over time, a woman's looks can just flat out ruin her personality... the entitled attitude can just run amok.. especially when you add a college degree or two to the already blazing flames of high mindedness
my ex was GORGEOUS.. and not just pretty, but like legitimately sexually desirable
she told me one day "people have been telling me i'm pretty my whole life"
it was one of those moments where you think in your head "oh, that explains it"
these women just begin to believe their own hype.. all the men who approach them, all the men who compliment them, all the females who envy them, all the preferential treatment they receive, all the attention, all the help, the deference, all the politeness, the general ease that is afforded to them
let's face it, a lot of these beautiful women might as well be celebrities with the way they are treated and handled in our society
this causes many women over time to be arrogant, entitled, difficult, and spoiled
one quick thing i want to point out that i've noticed is that spoiled and entitled women are oftentimes still nice to the women in their lives but they treat many men like dirt
anyway, i read in a book somewhere that it's important to praise people based on merit as opposed to based on things they have no hand in... good looks unfortunately allow women to be praised based on something they have no hand in.. God gave them those looks, they didn't earn them.. so i guess the problem is that receiving undue praise can cause an imbalance in a person since it is not weighed against a corresponding effort
someone reading this is probably saying "well can't men have this issue too?"
i would say not to the same degree as women for 3 primary reasons
1. men don't have "insta-pretty," aka men don't wear makeup
2. men usually have to work out to be sexually attractive (meanwhile women can forgo the gym and just be thick, plus size, bbw, or even ssbbw and still be sexually desirable)
3. women don't approach men nearly as much as men approach women
so anyway.. that's the jist of part 2.. their good looks have the ability to make them forget the things that may have previously humbled them
if your girl grew up poor but looks amazing, a lot of times that is what is contributing to her haughty attitude, entitled mindset, and spoiled nature
the exchange is supposed to be a woman's virginity for a man's commitment
and today we get neither
this is how terrible women are.. and the government and court systems weaponize these awful women against men
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i am so over people and their foul and disrespectful language
i've said this before so this is nothing new but i just want to vent right now
n-word this, b-word that
earlier i heard someone say something like "do you remember that song called queen b*tch?"
30 or 40 yrs ago, calling someone a queen b*tch would've been a huge diss
telling someone "you're the queen of all b*tches" would've been crazy
but today its a compliment
guys in the rap game literally rhyming the n-word with the n-word and people are saying the song is hot
so many songs are about taking someone else's woman and defiling her and giving her back
i tried to listen to that guy tekashi because i saw he was getting popularity so out of curiosity i took a listen.. i skimmed like 4 songs and every single one had parts talking about having sex with someone's girl
if you deleted all subject matter about taking someone else's girl, or smoking weed, or "shooting a ngga" then nearly all these rap albums would just be blank discs
what's with this whole "i'm a savage" crap now? there was a time when people detested being called a savage.. but today?
i sometimes find myself looking at something within the hip hop culture, like an interview or maybe i'll check out a song to see how it sounds but its always full of this awful language
there are very few exceptions.. kb sent me a song from jaden smith called preach and it was fire and it had ZERO cusswords in it
why can't other rappers do that? why does every young black person talk like they just got out of prison?
dang man you dusty rappers are such a disappointment sometimes lol
i'm not even a prude i don't really pay attention to cussing if its here and there- its just the fact that its NON STOP for so many... like dude i heard you say the f-word THE FIRST THIRTY TIMES YOU SAID IT!!!!!!
why is everything so dirty? why is a penis a d***? why is a vagina a p****?
everything is just foul, and there is no shame to any of it
blah, i can't deal
NO WONDER I JUST SIT IN MY APARTMENT LISTENING TO SHOEGAZE!!!!
I didn't like this diss
i have no bias in this because drake irritates me with his pandering to women and pusha irritates me with the way he acts in interviews sometimes
the reason i didn't like this diss from pusha is because i didn't really hear disses, i heard exposing and personal things
drake mentioned the fact that pusha is engaged in duppy
pusha then took that and used it as justification to just go in on a lot of personal things about drake
i don't agree with pusha making it that personal
when i say that personal- i mean like.. bringing drake's mom into it, and bringing his dad into it
i think the stuff about drake having a child with a porn star is fair game because that's drake's life, but his parents?
drake's parents aren't in the rap game why are you bringing them into it?
drake says something like: "you didn't really sell coke the way you say you did"
pusha says something like: "your mother has never been married"
like that's just weird.. its not even the same "sport" anymore
pusha just took it too far in this to where it's not funny or entertaining.. for example
he had a line where he said if he goes to hell then its worth it.. even as a rap bar, that's just too far.. rap or no rap, you're on wax saying being burned and tortured forever is "worth it?"
another thing he said was that drake's friend 40 is hunched over.. referring to him having multiple sclerosis
you don't even have beef with 40 yet you're making fun of him having a disease?
i don't respect pusha's diss at all
the hidden child thing was fine to me but a lot of the other stuff was ridiculous, absurd, and unnecessary, irrelevant, and too far
if i diss you and i say your raps aren't true, and you diss me back and say "your best friend has a debilitating disease" then its like... that's not a battle anymore, you're just a sick person with issues, and i feel like that's what pusha was basically doing.. it wasn't a good DISS it was just a lot of very low level petty personal attacks
i've noticed some other people feel the same way i felt also.. here's one reaction that seems to encapsulate it
she has a "friend" you don't know about
when you met her you asked her if she was single and she said yes to the question
the problem is, if she has a friend with benefits then she doesn't consider that to be a relationship
so she's telling you she's single but she's having sex with some guy everynight.. she might even have more than one of these guys
that's a little piece of information that definitely sounds like something you'd like to know right?
welcome to modern women
well there's reason number three as to why you can't please her
if you run into one of these whores then no matter what you do it doesn't matter, she will let you buy her dinner, spend your time and money, try to make her laugh, and try to show her a good time like a dancing monkey..... but it will get you absolutely nowhere and she will laugh at you with her sex buddy behind your back
let's continue the conversation
ok so another reason why you can't please her is because she can't feel
a few years back here on the site i remember saying there are some women you can't seem to please.. they just seem to have no interest in anything, you take them out and treat them well but they never seem excited and they never seem particularly happy and they never grow attached to you
i remember wondering why that was
well, what i'm about to say is part of the answer
many women today can't feel
the reason they can't feel is because some male in their past hurt them and they are just ruined by it
imo this is part of where the term "damaged goods" comes from.. because women get hurt and it's like they never get over it, they take it with them and in many ways it just plain ruins them altogether because it continues to manifest in their actions for years
when you come into the picture- you meet this girl and you try everything to win her affection but she never seems to warm up to you.. you see this and for a while you just try harder but over time you just realize something isn't right
you begin to see that she will never show you that she cares or that she appreciates you or that she is beginning to enjoy spending time with you as much as you enjoy spending time with her
everything is available with these women except their heart
their heart can't be won.. it's just plain off limits
as a man, when you see this the best thing for you to do is to cut ties
you can tell her you care all day everyday but she either won't believe you, or won't allow herself to believe you.. you're better off being with a woman who has the capacity to care, attach, love, and reciprocate
another thing to note is a lot of these women actually think they are empowered by not caring and not being able to attach
so the very thing that is repulsive to you is the primary thing that she is proud of about herself.. this means she is completely worthless to you because you can't teach her that not caring is not a strength.. she won't view it as you removing a roadblock to love, commitment, and solidarity.. she will view it as you trying to "weaken" her
by the time you meet a woman she has gone through many emotional highs and lows with previous men, so when you meet them they are like a numb shell and they've built an insurmountable wall
she can't feel anymore
lets break this down:
can't feel = lacks true emotions
oftentimes the primary ones you will find to be lacking are sadness, empathy, and basic contentment
the lack of these then equals out to her feeling numb more than the average person... being numb = boredom and/or emptiness
this woman can be awful because she may actually seek to feel something... she might say something like "i need some excitement" ...she may be the type to flirt with other men, and/or cheat, or she may be the type of woman who picks fights and won't allow you to have peace etc.. because just having a regular day with you is boring to them
they can act like everything's good for a while but when they start causing issues oftentimes it's because she can't feel... she is numb and must be on an emotional rollercoaster just to feel something.. this is why you always feel like she's testing you and/or is totally unpredictable
this is part of the reason why i say women lack self awareness because many times they think not being able to feel is a good thing.. they reason "if i lock my emotions away and become a cyborg then can't be hurt!" ..but this numbness is the same thing that causes them to always have turmoil in their lives and never have steady peace or a steady relationship.. it also causes a total lack of emotional intimacy for her and the guy (i would say especially for the guy)
note, being unable to properly "feel" is not just mental and emotional, it's also physical which is why many women say they are not satisfied sexually.. women go from man to man thinking it won't affect them but it does
so watch out for women who cannot feel because this is a category of women you will either not be able to please or will have a very hard time pleasing
they have had pleasurable sex with men, they have had their hearts broken, they have played and they have been played, they thought someone was the one but realized he wasn't, some of these women have children by previous men, some have abortion memories, some have been engaged, some have stds, some have been divorced, some have a complex, they have been through it all
what i'm saying is, by the time you get her, she is used up and oftentimes just numb
take nicki minaj for example.. in the past few years we've seen her go from safaree, to meek mill, to nas (no telling who else behind the scenes) and she also has at least one known abortion under her belt
imagine you're next in line for her.. do you think you're going to get a woman without baggage who is open, vulnerable, and ready to love you?
even worse yet, look at amber rose.. how sincere do you think she really is in any relationship she's in?
even look around at women you know in your own life
the bottom line is you can't properly or fully please a woman who can't feel... and many of these women are numb to a man's love, touch, time, attention, compliments, etc
you take her out, you show her the best you have to offer, you try to keep a smile on her face, but her heart isn't even present
don't waste your time.. if you realize a woman can't feel, cut her loose.. she can't feel she can't attach, can't care, may not be grateful, may not even be able to grow
you deserve better than to be with someone you can never please
you're worth more than an empty shell
This is how my ex was.. all that deflection and distraction and changing the subject and talking over people
I tried so hard to love her but she continually acted like this demonic whore on the video
The man in this video is gaslighted.. that’s why he said “do you see how hard my life is?” he doesn’t know it but he is looking for some type of validation because everytime he says something she twists it into a different issue..
these women will talk and talk and talk until you no longer know reality.. you won’t know up from down anymore and so you will look to other people to help you validate your feelings
The thing is, he won’t see the truth unless he gets away from her.. because as long as you’re with a woman like this, she uses every moment of peace and quiet as an opportunity to twist your reality into what she wants it to be
She will talk over you, threaten to leave you, put false guilt on you, I mean her tactics are literally endless
The only thing she has no real defense against is you leaving her, and even if you leave her she still has a tactic, and that tactic is to act like she doesn’t miss you even if she does, so when you see she never reaches out and never expresses remorse for her actions, you may be tempted to feel like maybe you have hurt her and maybe you’re the bad guy
It’s the same manipulation behind why people never apologize for their actions, because they want you to accept their reality
If you leave one of these demons you have to mean it, you can’t think “well maybe I should’ve…” no.. just leave and never speak to her again, cut your losses and put her in a category in your mind of “evil demonic reptilian whore” because that’s what she is
(sidenote: when you leave her she may actually not miss you at all, that's another possibility you must consider.. but either way, whether she misses using you or she doesn't miss you at all- both scenarios are bad)
the bible says that a prudent wife is from the Lord so it's safe to say this man didn't get this woman from the Lord.. as men we have to throw out the idea of getting a wife through our own efforts.. we usually try to attract them through our money, our physique, our education, etc.. but we need to be patient and wait on the Lord's leading to get wives because trust me there are some real scumbag whores out there
a woman may be everything you want on the outside but be utterly foul and rotten on the inside.. so men, let's all put God back in the driver's seat when it comes to women
(I may do an entry on how to do this in the future)