as men we naturally want to please our women
i want to share one of the main reasons why you can't please her this is one reason why no matter what you do she isn't happy this is one reason why you try your best and it's still never enough its because she is disingenuous when i say they are disingenuous what i mean is they are not loyal, they are not honest, they are not real, they are not upfront with you what this essentially means is what she shows you and what she actually is are two different things so when you are around she is one thing but when she is out of your presence, it's a totally different story how does being disingenuous translate to her being unable to be satisfied? its like this- since she's not telling you the truth, you can't ever properly scratch her itch for example.. say you notice your woman is acting irritable a lot lately, so you sit her down and you ask her what's going on she may say something to you like "money issues have me scared, i want you to make more money- if we have a family i want us to be able to get a home" so upon hearing this you might take on more hours at work, or start applying to higher paying jobs, or maybe you'll enroll in school.. you do this stuff because you want your woman to be at peace but over time, as you are working harder than ever- you realize she still isn't happy.. she's still not satisfied even though you've begun sacrificing your evenings and weekends you also notice she hasn't taken any extra hours at her job and she hasn't decreased her spending you sit back and you wonder what is going on she told you she was acting different because she wanted you to make more money so she could feel secure but one day you find out the truth the truth is she has been talking to one of the male managers at her job.. he makes about double what you make, and he is taller than you, and he works out a lot, and has a nice car, and all the women in the office flirt with him even though he's married and he cheated on his wife with one of the women, and she heard he's good so you thought she wanted you to figure something out to make more money so you two could have a brighter future... but the truth was just: A. she's been talking to another man and fantasizing about him B. this causes her to uncosciously treat you with disdain C. when you sat her down, she came up with some bs and blame shifted to you D. she basically told you to compete with this man from her job.. someone you don't even know exists in other words.. she is disingenuous she may tell you some type of truth, but she won't tell you the reason behind that truth this is why you cannot ever make her happy, because she isn't being honest with you let me break this down a little more ok say you have a teenage daughter and you ask her what she wants to eat for dinner she then thinks "that guy i like from school works at mcdonalds, so i'm going to ask to go there" so she says "i want mcdonalds" so you say ok and you two get in the car to head up there, but then you remember you want to get something from the hardware store too, so you say "there's another mcdonalds about two miles up the street next to the hardware store, let's go to that one instead" then your daughter gets an attitude with you and you don't know why and you ask her what her issue is but she just says "nevermind, forget it" so you are totally confused and you don't understand why your daughter is mad at you when you're taking her out for what she wanted to eat THAT IS HOW IT IS WHEN YOU'RE WITH A WOMAN WHO IS DISINGENUOUS you can't please her because she doesn't tell you the truth oftentimes we as men say "we don't know what women want" or "we can't figure them out" the truth a lot of times is just that they are disingenuous.. they are fake, they are phony.. they are telling you one thing but thinking something else if she would have just said "i want to go to the nearest mcdonalds because there's a guy i want to see who works there" then you would have a chance at giving her what she wants but since she wasn't upfront with her intentions, you can't make her happy it has nothing to do with you- its that she is a liar and/or a coward she doesn't have enough backbone to tell you the full truth so you get half truths that lead only to displeasure on both sides and essentially destruction of the relationship women have so many lies and secrets that it can really be mind boggling after i broke up with my ex i realized so many things and i saw how little she was really sharing with me.. she would just tell me these surface things.. once we broke up and things started to become clear (without her constant lies) then things began making sense when you are with a woman and nothing makes sense, chances are its because her existence is a lie i'll even give an example from when i was with my ex ok so one day my ex texted me and said she was praying for her enemies i was sitting there looking at my phone like "what in the world?" this just didn't sound right at all (stuff like this would happen all the time.. like i'd just be sitting there confused yet not wanting to ask because she would always give these fake answers that sound like the run around and if i pressed to get the truth the whole conversation would become an argument... this confusion is a sign that something just isn't right- but you have no way of knowing this in the moment because A. if you probe, the person will just lie or manipulate you further, and B. you don't even understand why a person would be dishonest about the issue at hand... this is why you feel like you never understand where women are coming from) so anyway.. the thing that confused me was basically: why did she have enemies? she only lived in this city for a few months so i didn't want to argue again so i sat there trying to figure out what she was talking about before i probed.. well i just couldn't figure it out so i asked her who her enemies were she gave me some surface answer about females at her job trying to break her down or something so i was basically still lost over how she has enemies at work or what the situation was well one day later on we were having some conversation and it came out that the people at her job were making fun of her for smelling bad because of her bacterial vaginosis this is the type of thing that women do.. they tell u the most surface thing and when you probe they act like they're mad at you so that you back off from the truth looking back i think the whole truth was this: A. she was having sex with some guy off and on behind my back B. because her body is so sensitive to germs and things, this caused her bacterial vaginosis to come back C. the women at her job began smelling her and making fun of her she initially only told me the surface of "i'm praying for my enemies" but didn't tell me who her enemies were, or what they were actually doing or saying, or why they were doing or saying these things etc the only reason she eventually told me about her smell and her b.v. was probably because A. it came up in the conversation B. she probably was mad at me and close to telling me she cheated on me and just chickened out i had no idea that she even had a smell, and i didn't know she had bacterial vaginosis, and i didn't know people were making fun of her... so all of this came out one day and i had no clue.. this was supposed to be my girl and i didn't know about any of this.. so even without (what i believe to be) the scandalous nature of the situation, it was STILL bad because i didn't know any of this was going on.. imagine you think you know someone and then one day they tell you all of this stuff, so for weeks or months they just acted like none of this was happening.. this is what i mean when i say you can't give the right prescription, because they aren't telling you "where it hurts" so this is why you can never please your girl, because she doesn't tell you the whole truth you can never scratch her itch in her life because she is always basically lying to you.. she is lying to you about why she's upset, she's lying to you about her day to day life, she's lying to you about being over her ex, etc etc... this is why you feel like you can't do anything right around her.. because she lies so much that each lie tells you the incorrect way to approach the "issue" you might wonder why she's acting weird and she might say she is stressed from work.. so you might say something like "oh i'm sorry babe, how about i come over and pray for you?" she will say no and you will be confused as to why she refuses.. and you will likely even internalize it and reason: "i can never do anything right" "i can never give her what she needs" but the truth is, she told you she was stressed from work, but she's really stressed from having to juggle two men at once you can't please a woman who is disingenuous.. because you will never be able to know what they truly want but ITS NOT YOU, ITS THEM if they say things that don't sound right, realize there's probably a HUGE messed up story behind it and another thing.. as men we will likely just say, why doesn't she just go to the guy who she won't feel the need to lie to? why doesn't she get the guy she will allow to scratch her itch and call it a day? but the thing is sometimes they can't get that guy (a lot of times this guy is the one who initially imprinted her and left her or dogged her) also keep in mind that these women are so selfish that they don't care if they are using you, lying to you, or leading you on their level of selfishness is so high that they just don't care about the destruction they're causing because they just want to have their "needs" met a lot of these women want a bad boy and good guy.. they want the good guy for social status and dates and for emotional support.. they want the bad boy so they can let their inner whore out and take off the heavy load of acting like a feminist and submit behind closed doors... but they know that guy who they have sex with on the side is not "tameable" meaning he will always have other women and won't really do anything for her beyond sex women ultimately reject both men eventually, thinking the good man is not exciting and the bad boy isn't husband material (which is why we need to go back to a patriarchal society where women are chosen by men and given away by their fathers as opposed to today's society where women just pick and choose what they think they want, making decisions on whims) anyway, these women are just so selfish that they don't care about the pain they cause you they know they have you running around trying to please them meanwhile they are repaying you with ungratefulness, attitude, and infidelity they just literally don't care so i hope this helps some guy out there to see the truth if your girl fits the criteria i've mentioned then look a little closer and you might see that she is really a foul whore i am writing this in hope that you will open your eyes and see the reality of the situation if you find that you can't please her, stop looking at yourself and take a look at her.. you might see a different narrative
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