one reason why women don't learn or grow these days is because as soon as you put your foot down as a man, instead of taking "rebuke" she just goes and gets another guy u get in a fight and u leave.. but u don't leave to LEAVE.. you leave to teach her that what she is doing is not ok.. your hope is that they will see that you are upset and they will think about their actions, and best case scenario is she will apologize and tell you she won't do the offensive behavior again but what women do these days is they just go get another dude during the disagreement.. this is why women a lot of times never seem hurt and never apologize for things the way a person should why be accountable when you can just get another guy? what is integrity? realize i'm not always right? what do u mean? all they do is call a backup guy they were keeping on standby as a man you wonder why your girl never seems to learn or grow.. she does something massively offensive to you and you tell her you won't put up with it and you leave.. then you think "wow, its been 3 days.. she's had time to think about what happened but it seems like she doesn't care, she doesn't reach out to apologize or anything" the fact is she doesn't care.. she is selfish.. an argument or disagreement or stalemate in a relationship used to be a thing that could bring a woman to repentance, or bring her to a place of being ready to listen.. but today women are so selfish and prideful and "empowered" that an argument, disagreement, or separation is actually a fun thing for them because they are thinking "hey a break, now i have a reason to go on a date with so and so" or "hey my boyfriend isn't acting right so i'm going to bang this guy who's been flirting with me for the past two months" so then as a man, you cool off and you wonder "why hasn't my girl reached out?" "why won't she apologize for what she did to me?" "why doesn't she seem to care at all?" its because she is selfish and sneaky and a person like this can't really ever grow they are always just out for self let me explain this in a little bit of a diff way say you have a child who is outside playing but they're not playing nice so you yell at them and tell them to go to their room well if their bedroom has a playstation and a laptop and legos and action figures and a stash of candy.. then your "punishment" holds no weight.. you sound like the parents on charlie brown to them.. in one ear and out the other basically that's how women are today.. you hope she will see you're really upset this time and she needs to shape up.. but no.. she is just looking at it like a vacation from you where she can be with any other guy you express disappointment in your girl and she might even make the situation worse on PURPOSE so she can have the "free pass" women began working in the 60s, 70s, and 80s and that created a plethora of new male options for women.. well guess what social media did? you guessed it... so go ahead and multiply her pool of eager men by about 100 this is why a lot of times when ur girl comes back u find out she did something crazy and you're like "why did you do that?" and she's like "we weren't together!" and she will likely take it up a notch higher with the manipulation and say something like: "you left me and i was vulnerable" even though the whole reason you left in the first place was because of her classless behavior that she still likely hasn't properly apologized for.... so one 30 second apology has been replaced with her having sex with another guy, and in her mind that decision made sense its safe to say she WILL. NOT. GROW. and they even do this A. without guilt from God because their pride leads them to justify their actions and B. without guilt from you because they will just say "it wasn't cheating because we weren't together, you stormed out remember?" or "you got angry at me remember?" so it's like every argument to them is a license to be with someone else they don't see how their own selfishness and disloyalty lead to broken relationships they think: "i've found a cheat code where growth and maturity and accountability are no longer necessary.. it's called backup men" they are stunting their own growth.. moments where she could learn from self reflection or where she can take time to empathize or understand her man's side of an issue or see where communication broke down or see a hidden pattern are all thrown away in exchange for a fling with a different man this is why women never grow.. this is why the relationship never gets better.. as a man you see the issues clearly so you try and try, attempting to help her to see that things can be peaceful if she would just understand this, or realize that, or put forth an effort in this, etc but she will never get to a place of maturity while she is living this sneaky, manipulative, and deceptive double life.. she will never accept the words you speak or the stance you take or the direction you lead or anything because to her its all a game with no consequences.. like i said- women don't see how this is leading them to a life of constantly having new relationships or flings but never any stable, lasting, loving relationships, or strong marriages with peace a guy tries to love a woman but when women realize that love comes with discipline and correction, they rebel against it i feel i need to say that again.. love comes with discipline and correction no parent who lets their child do whatever they want is a good parent.. its the same with a husband and wife when women rebel against these things- they not only keep themselves from true love.. they are also stunting their own growth and delaying their own happiness and contentment women these days are taking a man's stern discipline and correction as a vacation.. so you can't effectively discipline her.. you can't be her husband as you can see it says "a person who cultivates the land, a farmer" ..this is what a husband does for his wife, he cultivates her and makes her better.. what's another word for husband? groom.. men are to groom their wives and make them better.. show them the way, bring them up to a higher level
but women today say "you can't tell me nothin" "i'm independent" "i don't need you" they are hard-headed and refuse to listen and you can try anything to help them to grow but they refuse **you tell them to stop, they give you backtalk **you ask them to stop, they say "why should i?" **you try to logically explain it, they say "that's the way you see it but not the way i see it" **you give them a back and forth and argue with them.. they just focus on getting the last word so the discussion becomes about one upping as opposed to the actual issue u have with her **you back her into a corner, she changes the subject **you prove her wrong, she gives you the silent treatment **you leave, she talks to another guy and is way nicer to him than she is to you even tho the truth is you love her but the other guy just wants sex so.. with all of this said.. what does all of this information amount to? if you feel that these traits are lurking in a woman, then she's not wife material.. if she hates the husbandman's function, if she rebels against the groom's grooming.. she is not a wife i hope i have made you aware of why nothing you do works with your woman.. it's because she sees arguments and disagreements and stalemates as a license to be with some other guy who she has been keeping on the side you can yell you can argue you can leave you can throw things you can be stoic no matter what you do it doesn't work when women are already fostering and harboring deceit and infidelity in their heart (and smart phone) there was a time where a man could say something and it held weight.. but in today's gynocracy, its like women have an exit plan for everything.. they have no respect for your relationship or anything.. also the abolition of shame and the implementation of government benefits all have helped to "empower" women to rebel against the men God has placed in their lives to love, protect, lead, and guide them, and give them children and stability. women have no sense of honor or accountability so giving them options and power leads us to where we are today.. in a culture of no-fault divorce where women frequently divorce their husbands over ridiculous things (over 80% of divorces are initiated by women) (one woman literally told me she wanted to divorce her husband because her previous last name had a better ring to it... a few months passed and i saw her and she was divorced lol) anyway.. if a woman is feminist, stubborn, contentious, or full of pride or lust, she will be unable to be planted, watered, cut, pruned, or shaped.. she won't grow.. she will always find that backdoor.. she'll always have men on standby in her past, on her phone, or on social media.. and thus she will always have her finger hovering over the eject button out of the relationship this is why nothing you do works, and this is why she never apologizes, and this is why she doesn't seem to care at all she is just plain not wife material so all in all.. this is why women don't learn today.. so if you've tried this and that and that and this and your woman still doesn't seem to act in a way that promotes peace in your relationship, just cut your losses and drop her.. go mgtow and build your life in peace, or find a woman who is submissive, malleable, and doesn't resent or minimize your function in her life respect yourself enough to not cast your pearls unto swine.. if you are a good man, live in that- if no women appreciate who you are so be it- continue to lead.. even without followers.. LEAD. may the Lord bless you if you are a man and this has touched you ** update 3.4.18 ** i came back to say some more on this recently i was going through my emails sometimes i send entries to myself from work to my email and typically i'll post the entry when i get home well i ran across an entry i sent to myself that i never uploaded.. the entry is from three years ago, 3.6.15 well the entry actually goes along with what i said above.. so i thought i'd share it i never finished the entry, i got about 85% done and didn't finish it but i'll try to wrap it up today one other thing i want to point out is this.... this was written when i was less jaded toward women.. you can tell because i was trying to speak as nicely as possible anyway.. again- i wrote this 3.6.15 and never posted it.. and it coincides with what i wrote above, so here it is: I have been on lipstick alley lately reading the confessions a lot Some of them I find to be like.. I don’t know they are just insane I wanted to speak on one I just saw because I think it was worth bringing to the light.. heres the part I want to talk about.. here is her direct quote (its not her whole confession, but this is the only part of it I want to speak on) “for the first time in my life i'm dating a younger man/i'm almost 30 he just turned 20/but whats crazy about it is i think i'm falling in love and that was not the plan/i just had wanted someone to be with when my main guy acts stupid” Ok I just want to talk about this way of going about things in a relationship. Obviously she is keeping multiple dudes on deck so that she can sort of shield herself from being hurt.. like: “oh u don’t want to take me out? That’s fine cuz I got another guy who wants to take me out and since ur acting up I’m going to let him bang me too!” She has guys on deck so that disappointments and disagreements lose their sting.. instead of them hurting or instead of her being alone, she can just go to the next guy and have her way she may feel that this works for her for the short term, but I want to dig deeper and explain what I feel is wrong with this way of going about things First I want to say that I am not saying she won’t find what she wants while living this way, because of course stranger things have happened.. but I just want to explain how I feel she is kinda missing out Its fairly simple.. its like this: EVERY RELATIONSHIP IS BOUND TO HAVE SOME UPS AND DOWNS I don’t know if there is any relationship that is just ALWAYS happy, peaceful, fulfilling, fun, etc. Remember the Bible says that love is first PATIENT. This is what she is mainly disregarding when she goes off with another guy anytime her “main guy acts stupid” She is not acting with patience.. so while she feels she is sort of getting over on her “main guy” in reality she is cheating herself out of the benefits of patience, such as maturity and wisdom and learning proper love and care and how to foster a long term relationship I understand we all feel bad when our significant other does something that feels like a violation.. but patience is what will allow for that situation to turn back around in our favor.. maybe not in every situation, but to say “well I didn’t get my way so I’m going to this other person” is not the way to get, have, or keep a serious long term relationship If she is just out to have fun and doesn’t care about having a relationship then that is one thing.. but in that case why have a "main guy" at all? Because if she does want a good functioning long term situation, then she will have to learn how to be patient and flexible This is also something we go through in our relationship with God. If we don’t get our way sometimes we are like “screw it, I’m going to get alcohol” or “forget it- If you’re not giving me a wife I’m getting a prostitute” or whatever crazy thing we concoct But if we learn patience it can help our understanding and we can remain in our place without falling out and coming back or whatever So I just wanted to speak on that.. she is keeping herself from getting hurt and from being vulnerable but she is also keeping herself from having a stable and lasting relationship believe it or not, men know when women are doing things behind their back.. he might not have evidence but your relationship will die from the lack of sincerity.. you can't gain ground (i.e. trust and love) when you are running around like that ok i'm back.. this is sad to me.. it's sad that this is what we see today.. women keeping one man for a relationship and another man for a fling and 5 more on standby i know my ex cheated on me just based on how she acted and it caused me a lot of pain mostly after the relationship because i started to see her lies unfold once i stopped hearing her lies i was able to see and think clearly again and all i could really see was her cheating on me once you get out of the relationship you no longer have them lying to you and so you see all the places where they were deceptive and the picture gets a lot clearer anyway.. if you're a man reading this i'll just say this A. don't get in a relationship without God's "ok" B. if you're already in a relationship and its starting to feel weird.. either leave, or pray, or do something as simple as ask to see her phone
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