my ex g/f lies about everything
she always lied back in the day when we were together to avoid having uncomfortable conversations.. but now its like she just lies about everything one of the main things she lies about is she continually lies about receiving messages or emails one time we didn't talk for years and when she reached out to me she said "james, i just saw this email" she tried to say she JUST saw an email i sent 4 years prior.. instead of just saying she never responded to the email, she claimed she didn't see it for 4 years because she happened to be looking through her email or something and finally ran across it that was years ago another thing she used to do was if we would be talking, she would disappear and if i contacted her later and said "why didn't u reply?" she would say something like "oh, i thought the conversation ended" or there was one day she said she was going to chattanooga for a week.. she had said this a few times and i kinda ignored it because i knew in my head she had to be staying with someone- most likely a guy, and i didn't really care to hear about that at the time.. finally she said it again and i said "who are u staying with?" she quickly made up a lie about staying with her old college roommate.. i could tell she was lying by her demeanor i remember there was another time we were talking a lot and spending time together and she up and disappeared and just stopped answering her phone and everything.. i kinda lost it and did something i never do which is, i called her mom and asked if she was ok.. so this prompted her to contact me as soon as she left whatever rendezvous she was on.. so she was in her cab or whatever on the way back and we were on the phone and i started asking questions about where she went.. as i probed, she was just like "i gotta go" and hung up in that moment i realized A. where she had been and B. that avoiding confrontation is a common tactic among women i've since heard it said that oftentimes men lie, and oftentimes women avoid telling the truth, and that seems to be true.. a man may directly lie, a woman will create a facade so that you believe a lie without her saying it, or just avoid the questions altogether even when we first met, i believe i remember the first lie she told me.. we were teens at the time and i think i said something about how the skater look is cool or something and she said she liked to skateboard.. i knew that was a lie from jump because A. imagining her on a skateboard was crazy B. she was chubby and not built like a skater C. she was basically legally blind.. she could see, but she was technically legally blind due to complications there was one time she sent me an email back in the day and she accidentally copy and pasted an email she sent to another guy about me.. so imagine receiving an email from someone , and in the middle of it, u see an email they sent to someone else talking about u i confronted her about it and she said she didn't do that.. i read it outloud to her and she said i was making it up so those are all previous lies from years ago.. the thing is- back then she would lie to avoid tough conversations, and every once in a while she would come to me and admit that she lied ok so fast forward to last year one day she emailed me and i responded.. once i responded, i was waiting for her to send a follow up email.. it took her 17 days to reply when i saw that i didn't respond back to her our next contact was her birthday 2022.. i emailed her saying happy birthday she never replied fast forward to a few days ago, i created a facebook and i messaged her, she never responded i started talking to a mutual friend of ours and in the conversation i said my ex doesn't use facebook, the mutual friend said she had just spoke to my ex that same day so it was obvious my ex was just not responding to me.. i didn't say anything about it, it just came out in the conversation and that was it i guess the mutual friend told her about the conversation we had and so then my ex finally contacted me.. she sent me an email and then 2 more lies came the first one was "i got your birthday message, but i was so sick i forgot to respond" the second lie was "i didn't get the message u sent me on facebook" i know she got the message because its literally still there right now in the conversation thread i looked through her facebook pictures and i saw she had two pro-lgbt pictures.. her and i used to go to church together twice per week, also her grandmother was religious too, so i asked her if she is pro-gay now and what happened to make her start supporting that first she avoided answering the question i asked again and she said she already answered me, and she said she doesn't support lgbt then i sent her the actual pictures from her profile and she said... actually here is a copy/paste of what she said: I think that rainbow image was added to your photo? I don’t remember the details. Still don’t understand why I never got any messages from you. so here she's not taking any accountability, she's saying facebook just took her face and put it on a rainbow automatically.. like facebook is basically photoshopping people on rainbow flags without asking.. also, her explanation doesn't explain why there were two pro-lgbt pictures.. there wasn't just one also, in her reply u can see she's still lying about having not received the facebook message from me that she previously ignored before our mutual friend talked to her on facebook today she sent me a picture of an animal, and just above it is the message i initially sent her anyway... my point in writing this is i guess just thinking outloud im just acknowledging all of this and taking it in i can genuinely say today that i'm glad she and i never worked out as a couple sometimes in the past i used to think "maybe she's the one who got away" but today i can genuinely say, no.. i believe our relationship ended for good reasons she was a liar and a manipulator and also a cheater (the cheating part is a long story i would have to tell another day) i always viewed her lies as like.. a character flaw we could get past.. but today i see her lies as just constant inconsistency, manipulation, lack of accountability, and calloused deception as of today i look back on our relationship and i see the Lord's hand protecting me from her since i've tried to talk her her its been lies and inconsistency non stop.. even after something as simple as me just reaching out with a quick "happy birthday" ..my reward for that gesture is just weirdo head games in my experience, there is no sincerity or truth in her anyway.. just wanted to share.. i'm out for now
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