i want to say something about modern women who are trying to find a relationship
modern women are in a weird and unprecedented position today back in the day, a woman who was a single mother didn't usually really have money this was good for her because a clean up man could come along and be with her both parties would get something out of it the man would get hero status and a woman who is compliant.. (because she knows she can't go back to being alone as a broke single mother.. her desperation manifests itself as cooperation... no desperate woman is going to be a loudmouth stubborn feminist) the woman gets rescued from the issues of poverty, instability, and fatherless children well here's what we are seeing today single mothers who make a good deal of money, and men in many cases who don't so what is happening is, people aren't getting together the woman can't be "rescued" and the man can't be superman.. so people just aren't getting together believe it or not i saw this upclose recently because my sister was doing better financially than the guy she was with they got married and he moved into her house when he ran into issues he was asking her for money long story short they are no longer married now women asked for this for the past 50 years with feminism.. now that its here and in full force.. women feel like they have no "real man" options single mothers today are not being rescued, they are just remaining single mothers.. the dynamics at play don't allow for a sustainable and fulfilling relationship its like this.. a single mother today is in a conundrum because of these reasons a man who makes less than her- in her eyes is another child.. another mouth to feed.. she does not want him and a man who makes more than her is likely to be doing well for himself.. and that man who is doing well for himself has options.. and he is not typically going to choose the single mother, he is going to choose the woman with as little baggage as possible so thats my point.. single mothers are in an unprecedented time.. their options are slim.. think about the overworked single mother who makes $80,000/yr good luck finding a man who makes more than you and if u do find one who makes more- good luck finding one who is likely to choose you over a woman without kids (and without a demanding career that takes away from her time as a wife/mother) the dynamics aren't in her favor like they were 50 years ago single motherhood today could truly lead to a life of loneliness
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