i can relate to this.. being treated like ur useless when ur very useful basically he talks about the reasons why i've talked about this years ago in my own way too (will finish below) in my opinion, when u run into this- its a woman passing her job off onto you as a man
her job is to submit when she wants u to basically force her to do something its basically a lack of submission for example my ex used to say "put me in my place" but she should have already wanted to be in her place as a woman or let's say a woman gets an attitude with u to try and force u to make her stop the truth is she never should have got an attitude with u in the first place so they are basically saying "instead of me submitting, u babysit me" they are blameshifting.. they are not acting the way they're supposed to act, and instead of saying "i'm not submissive" they are saying "you're not a real man" the issue is they're not submissive.. its not my job to contend with you though.. if you don't want to submit- just keep it moving.. when they want u to yell and cuss and threaten them and get physically aggressive- they are basically saying "i don't want to submit" because if they were submitted, we wouldn't have to treat them like a child to get proper behavior out of them now- the only way i can look at this in a somewhat positive way is this if a woman is basically trying to understand where the boundaries are in the relationship for safety's sake meaning... "i want to get close to a boundary to see his reaction so that the boundary becomes clearer, this way (with very clear boundaries) i now have increased my relationship security because i know what not to do" i think sometimes this is what women are doing and its basically the same thing as what i explained above- however the difference is that if a woman moves like this, then she sees the boundary and improves... but if she's only doing it to pass off her duty onto the man, then chances are she won't improve, she will just do something else annoying the next day one says "i will push the boundary to know where the boundary is.. once i know, i will submit to that and i will feel safe in this relationship because i know what not to do now.. i know how i can and can't operate" the other says "i won't submit, if he wants me to do it he's going to have to force me, scare me, manipulate me, me, me, me, all the attention is on me" ...this chick is a grown up child
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