We give women too much credit
we can’t always treat them like they are using their minds, we have to just recognize sometimes they just plain don’t make sense We treat them like they are mature and accountable and reliable when oftentimes they just aren’t we have to just understand women are not on our level sometimes.. oftentimes they are easier to deal with once you realize you’re basically talking to a 6yr old with boobs one time I told my ex about the cash me outside girl saying she made dr phil who he is.. my ex literally said she was right.. I was like “dr phil has been doing his show since before she was born” and my ex had another stupid rebuttal at the time I was like “she can’t possibly believe that” …but if I were to deal with that again I would just change the subject because I realize now that we have to allow women to just be as dumb as they want to be Again, we give women too much credit.. u can only debate with or argue with an equal.. and women are not that.. their ability to reason is like.. stunted People say women mature faster than boys.. that’s not true at all.. women have adult voices and adult bodies and they stop being hyperactive sooner than boys.. but mentally, males are always ahead of women I think we have to realize who women are enough to understand arguing with them is utterly fruitless.. we just have to stop giving them too much credit.. just because she looks professional doesn’t mean she operates with logic or reason if u speak to a woman thinking she will make sense, you will be disappointed time and time again Just think about the dumb things women say in public.. and think about how they contradict themselves on facebook and things talking about how they’re Christians but they also support abortion or whatever… stuff that is utterly glaring to you as a man just doesn’t even register to many women Think about how they say they “want a strong man who knows how to take control!” ..but then they turn around and say to that man: “don’t try to control me!” We give them too much credit.. half the time they just don’t know what they’re talking about.. we have to stop treating them like they are operating on our wavelength and just look at them like an annoying child sometimes, because u can’t use logic and reason with a person who is unreasonable and illogical DON’T: expect too much out of women, don’t take the things they say seriously unless they become disrespectful DO: create boundaries.. a boundary isn’t an argument or a debate.. it’s an opportunity for her to straighten up.. either she will take the opportunity and straighten up or she will forego it and end up on her own We have to stop giving women too much credit.. give credit and respect to men but women should be seen in a different light When they don’t make sense we have to just chalk it up to them being women.. trying to talk facts just backfires.. right or wrong? when we treat them like they are on our level it causes frustration on both sides because we men just don't get why they don't make sense.. and because women know how irrational they are even if they don't admit it- and they are looking to us to not "repay" them for their impromptu mood swings and illogical banter You can’t have a man to man talk with a woman.. so sometimes u gotta leave it alone, and keep it pushin the sooner we get this the sooner we will get to peace in our dealings with women pt 3 coming soon hopefully! in my last relationship i remember i wanted the Lord to come right out and be very specific on whether i should be with her or not
i wanted Him to give me something super specific.. like i wanted Him to appear to me in a dream and show me who she really was, or tell me very clearly "get away from her she's no good for you" or something i think i realize why the Lord gave hints and clues as to what was going on as opposed to coming out and slapping me with a wet fish or whatever i wanted i think i got the answer as to why things happened the way they did remember the rich man who went to hell and the poor man who went to heaven? the rich man in hell speaks: 27Then he said, I pray thee therefore, father, that thou wouldest send him to my father's house: 28For I have five brethren; that he may testify unto them, lest they also come into this place of torment. 29Abraham saith unto him, They have Moses and the prophets; let them hear them. 30And he said, Nay, father Abraham: but if one went unto them from the dead, they will repent. 31And he said unto him, If they hear not Moses and the prophets, neither will they be persuaded, though one rose from the dead. so that's where my issue was.. i had direction from a literal prophet (pastor of my church) who basically said i was in the wrong relationship.. also i was getting hints and clues as to the true character of my ex... so i was in a place where if i wasn't going to listen to the things i was given- then a more specific sign still wouldn't have changed anything the Lord used that situation to develop my sensitivity to His leading because honestly, the Word can guide you or you can go out and bump your head meaning i realized there were certain things in the Word that told me to let go a long time ago.. for example God is not the author of confusion.. so when i found myself confused in that relationship i should have let it go instead of trying to wrack my brain trying to figure out why she never seemed to act like a normal person also i had no peace around her but the Bible tells us clearly to follow peace.. so looking back i can see i was driving through all the warning signs... and the pain and regret really hit me when it was over- because all i could see was all those warning signs i drove over i feel like i need to write this so i hope it is helping someone let me point out the main point again "And he said unto him, If they hear not Moses and the prophets, neither will they be persuaded, though one rose from the dead." if you aren't paying attention to the bible, and you don't pay attention to everyday warning signs, and you don't pay attention to the words of people who give u impromptu or offhand advice, and you don't pay attention to the pastor of your church (especially if he's a literal prophet), etc etc then you shouldn't expect a goodyear blimp to float past your house with specific instructions.. you shouldn't expect a specific dream or vision if you've already overlooked everything else you've been given i think for me, my situation happened in a way to make me more sensitive to the Lord's leading i've realized i don't always need a sign or a vision or a dream, sometimes all i need is the Bible by itself the signs you receive can escalate but you only want them to "escalate" to certain point signs might be like this: conscience, bible, random person gives u advice out of nowhere, u hear a sermon at church that sounds like your situation, you see a circumstance or situation is off or weird, you get direction from a pastor.... after this things are probably going to get rough for you... if the signs "escalate" to physical (things like car crashes, or getting evicted, getting an std, losing a job) then its pretty safe to say u let things get too far sidenote: let me break down what happened with the pastor of my church ok so one day i was exasperated dealing with my ex and he called me.. like right when i was at my apartment alone just stewing over the situation he called me when we spoke, i don't remember him saying "let her go" i remember him asking questions and making a few comments.. when i told him what i was going through, some of the things he said were: "it sounds like she has a man spirit" "you two are unequally yoked" "do you think you should keep talking to her?" now when you look at these they aren't exactly stern, however looking back- these were him saying let her go -"it sounds like she has a man spirit" ...i was wrestling with someone who was not ready to be in a relationship.. she was operating in the opposite of the spirit she was supposed to operate in -"you two are unequally yoked" ...looking back, this actually meant "let go" ..because the Lord commands against that -"do you think you should keep talking to her?" .. i answered him with this: "no, i feel like samson" and THAT SHOULD HAVE ENDED IT but since it came from my mouth instead of his- i didn't take it seriously.. but looking back, just hearing myself say that should've been enough for me to let go also- the fact that he called me right when i was stewing in that should've been a sign to me saying "God sees where you are and He wants to guide your path" so hopefully you all really get everything i'm saying here i look at entries like this almost in the same way that i view apologizing to a person i reveal something i'm ashamed of and i hope to be set free from the burden of my foolishness i hope this helps someone peaCe in this one i'm just talking.. there's nothing important here, skip if you wish
today was a pretty typical day right now i'm on the couch listening to shoegaze i've had a lot on my mind lately.. i have a ton of thoughts and ideas running through my head to a point where i sometimes feel like i could go on and on and on and never run out of things to say i think part of this is because my life has "slowed down" quite a bit.. i don't really talk to many people or anything and you have a lot of thoughts and ideas when you're in solitude i stopped reaching out to people because it began feeling like i was "chasing" them around.. stopping that has quieted my life down a lot i guess in some ways i have surrendered more to the Lord.. because if you believe the Lord will bring the right people into your life then, oftentimes you feel free letting others go i spoke to sondra recently.. she said her mom asked about me and then told her she would put me on her prayer list lol.. i thought that was nice of her mom to do that.. btw sondra is a girl i've known since kindergarten who lives in oregon now i texted the joshes today.. they were both my best friends in middle school and high school.. i'm glad they're both doing their thing, they seem to be in good spirits.. its really good to know your old peeps are alright when it comes to games i've been playing that ratchet and clank on ps4.. its really good.. even better than i expected.. its pretty funny and the graphics are great and there's a lot of attention to detail when it comes to music.. i haven't been listening to music too much.. but when i do it tends to be shoegaze.. i don't listen to rap very much these days.. if i could find some rap that didn't use so much foul language and talk about illicit sex so much, maybe i'd turn it on.. but as it stands.. i tend not to enjoy that stuff too much i'm still looking for a new job.. i want some real money on my next job.. i don't want to be making this bachelor wage i want to be able to support a family.. even without a family- my goal is always to be the best man i can be it took about 2 weeks but my beard is pretty much back.. its not as thick as it was but its there.. once i get my hair cut i think i'll look normal again.. i'm so glad its back.. i told sondra when they cut my beard off i walked out the shop lookin like a pedophile lol.. that was extreme of course but the bottom line is i just don't do the no facial hair thing.... speaking of which.. two interesting things about my dad.. i've never heard him say a cussword, and i've never seen him without his beard anyway.. just some random thoughts.. peaCe In this one I want to talk about another way the Lord speaks to me I am saying this hoping that it will help someone who reads this One way He speaks to me is through people For example.. one day I asked the Lord when I should go get a haircut and this guy at my job came up to me at the end of the day and said something about taking his kids to get a haircut, so I took that like the Lord speaking to me through him that I should go get a haircut that day (and I know asking when to get a haircut is small but two things 1. Going on the right day can help me avoid traffic and possibly a few other annoyances 2. These small instances of looking for the Lord’s leading serve as learning experiences and so they shouldn’t be taken for granted) Or one time I was asking the Lord if I should try to go with some peeps out of town for a few hours and this same guy from my job stood at my cubicle and we were talking, and when we got on the subject of the weekend, he was like: “you should try to get out the house more.. see more things and people” So I took that as the Lord telling me through him that I should go and not ignore the outing This sort of thing also happens a lot to people with children People are just living their life like normal but their child says something profound or encouraging out of nowhere and the child doesn’t even realize it but the parent could be moved to tears I think a lot of times the Lord speaks through children that way, but also adults and maybe even people you don’t particularly like Speaking of which.. this was one thing I hated about my ex g/f.. I used to try and tell her certain things but a lot of times she wouldn’t receive what I said I tried to tell her: “YOU’RE NOT TUPAC.. it’s not you and God against the world, because God sends people into your life as well.. you can’t just say you and God are tight and decide not to listen to your parents and not listen to your boyfriend and not go to church!” But she just didn’t seem to get it.. if I were to guess why, I’d say that was pride.. meaning.. if you want guidance, you should humble yourself because honestly the Lord could speak to you through someone you think is “beneath” you.. and if you’re looking down your nose at them- chances are you won’t receive the message Please remember the Lord can use ANYTHING to speak to you.. he can come at you in any way, so don’t be upset if you don’t get dreams or visions.. He can use anything, just remember when you pray to believe He will respond, and keep your eyes and ears open I might speak more on this with time ** update 4.7.18 ** i randomly ran across this video that further explains what i described here with my ex g/f that whole "me against the world" mentality i just want to put this out there
sometimes we think we need direction in our lives and we say "why won't God speak to us?" but one thing i've noticed in my life is sometimes its not about God not speaking, sometimes its about us not being obedient for example.. you might ask God if a woman is your wife and not receive an answer.. but if she isn't trying to serve the Lord and you are then that means you're unequally yoked meaning you already know the answer and you're being disobedient same thing for if she's not submissive.. you already know the answer same thing for if she's showing jezebel tendencies.. you already know you shouldn't be tolerating her so its not about "why won't God answer" its about WHY ARE YOU IN SIN? asking the Lord if you should marry with a woman with jezebel tendencies is like asking the Lord if you should rob a bank or not but those are just examples, so search yourself.. because this word is for anyone who is asking the Lord to reveal something and you haven't been receiving answers are you being obedient to things you already know? and if so- are you being perceptive to the ways the Lord may speak to you? such as dreams, or things people say to you, or are you paying attention to unctions, are you overlooking rebuke? ..have u overlooked anything that seemed like a confirmation? i mean there are many ways the Lord can speak so always remember to make sure you're doing what you know to do FIRST then if u are, then remember to be perceptive to the Lord's leading.. like for example if you're not recording or writing down your dreams you have to accept the fact that you could be forgetting some serious information again, sometimes its not about God not answering.. sometimes its about you being disobedient this video is 100% true and 100% what i went through in my last relationship once he got to the 20 ways of knowing you've been gaslighted.. i pretty much had all of them that relationship was so traumatic.. i mean it was just full of bitter pain.. i look back and there were really almost no good times, just short pauses and "breathers" sandwiched between emotional abuse and manipulation
it was L.I.T.E.R.A.L.L.Y. like being in a relationship with a demon for months i've noticed the devil LOVES to get ahold of beautiful women.. this is why so many exceptionally beautiful women are awful people.. because beauty is automatic attraction and influence.. aka tools the enemy can use against people if an unattractive woman is a jerk she can't really hurt anyone because people won't have any patience for her in the first place if a beautiful woman is a demonic whore scumbag, she can hurt tons of men over the course of her lifetime.. they will see her and feel happy to be able to have her in their life but she will turn on them in an attempt to "infect" them with bitterness and hatred, then she'll disappear and do it again the man's desire to keep her in his life will be the very knife she uses to repeatedly stab him, and many times he won't realize it until it's too late.. because i've said it before but i'll say it again.. men oftentimes take accountability for things in general- so many times we think think things are our fault or we think we can change the situation but no.. the problem isn't you.. the problem is you're with a demonic woman anyway... as i was listening to him list all 20.. i was up doing something, but the stuff he was listing felt so familiar that i sat down and just listened quietly.. its crazy to really see how sick that relationship was.. and i've had bouts of sadness over various aspects.. one day its anger over lack of closure, one day its frustration that i didn't let go sooner, one day its realizing how much she was really doing to hurt me, one day its a struggle to forgive myself for putting up with and trying to love a person who was just awful all the way around and its so crazy that most people around me truly have no idea how bad things were.. again i've said it before but try telling someone your spouse is driving you insane.. they will hear you but they won't HEAR YOU... it is so hard to really get someone to understand what is truly going on you legit get to a place where you no longer know yourself and no one gets it because everyone thinks "hey relationships don't always work out" or something generic like that... they don't realize you have been being systematically destroyed over a period of time and you're telling them how you feel as a cry for help anyway.. i just felt like speaking on this because when he listed off the 20 traits.. i was just like... "wow" i know what i went through and i'm familiar with what i dealt with now, but i'm still amazed at how bad it was.. i was legitimately being emotionally abused and broken down for months |
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