another thing to look out for when trying to determine if a person is toxic is this
if you are getting into arguments or issues with family or friends over that person please keep in mind that this can be subtle it can be hard to realize when this is happening because you may just chalk it up to and "up and down" or you may say "this family member is always blah blah" or "this friend is blah blah" but really take a step back and look at how many of your issues with your friends/family stem from the relationship u have if u begin having issues with people and they are stemming from that relationship then that person 9 times out of 10 is toxic maybe u told ur dad ur girl was emotionally abusive and he told u its your fault, and this caused a rift in your relationship maybe u told a friend your g/f disrespected u and ur friend in turn lost respect for you because you didn't leave her whatever the case is, if u look around and u start seeing strife and it can be traced back to something with your spouse.. then your spouse is likely toxic in my experience, some of the main issues may be, someone telling u to get away from her and u not listening, or u telling someone how abusive she is, and they don't believe u i guess my issue was i wanted understanding and i wanted to know how to deal with the crap so i could keep her.. but it doesn't really work that way because u can't really get understanding from A. people who literally do not understand aka people who have not experienced narcissistic people before B. people who are telling u to leave and u refuse.... and u can't deal with the crap because it is nonstop.. u can literally do everything perfectly and that abusive person will still find something hurtful to point out about you anyway.. just keep this in mind, if u find some of your relationships are being strained while u try to hold onto someone.. realize their antics are driving you nuts and subtly affecting other relationships you have and think about the opposite scenario if you found someone who was great, they would fit with everyone in your life and possibly even enhance your relationships with those around you
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