they accuse you of lying when you're not lying
when i say "accuse" it sounds more dramatic than it actually is.. because it may not sound like an accusation, it may just come across like an offhand comment.. like "whatever i don't believe you" ..but either way its still oftentimes an indication of a problem when i look at my life.. usually when people have thought i was lying when i wasn't- i find out later that that person is a liar themselves... because someone who lies is typically suspicious that other people are lying in other words.. when someone accuses u of lying when you aren't- then A. watch that person or B. get away from that person because chances are you will see that there is a reason they think the way they think.. its because of their awareness of their own lies so that is the third way u can determine toxicity.. when you are being straight up and a person doesn't believe you and make no mistake.. liars ARE toxic.. they bring confusion, frustration, they also are the same people who cheat, and so in turn they are the ones who bring defilement to your doorstep i have a few more things i want to say concerning lies.. one is an example of what i just spoke about, the next is an example of just a dumb lie, and the 3rd thing is information on lies in general +++++++++++ so to give an example of this.. i told a girl this past summer i don't have sex because i believe its for marriage she said something like "i don't have sex either, its been some years" well later when we hung out she was wanting to have sex and she was telling me to get us a room i was like yo i already told u i don't have sex she said she didn't believe me so later one day i pointed out she had a hair on her chest and she said "oh its because of the birth control" this showed me that whole "it's been some years" was a lie so there's one example of someone not believing me when i am telling the truth, and then later i find out that that person is not truthful i have more examples of this but i will skip those for now +++++++++++ i had a "friend" lie to me like a month ago it was a dumb lie too.. he said these certain characters were in the old video games we used to play i happen to know these characters are fanfic characters who were created AFTER the games tho.. so when he said this, i said "oh word? which games?" and he magically didn't respond i don't even get what was the point of lying about that +++++++++++ lies come in many forms i didn't realize how many forms up until i was in my last horrible "relationship" here are some forms: 1. a straight up lie 2. playing dumb 3. gaslighting 4. omitting information 5. distraction 6. deflection 7. selective memory 8. virtue signaling i didn't get these out of a book or anything, these are just things i dealt with in my last horrid "relationship" u might say "ok so what, they're all lies" well the things is this if one type doesn't work, then another one might.. so this is part of why u should really be aware of what they might pull out of their hat if u are only looking for the straight up lie, but they hit u with a distraction, a gaslight, and a deflection then it's safe to say you were caught off guard, and this allows them to continue their facade u want to be aware of the tactics these maniacs use but your best defense (imo) is to recognize who people are quickly and deal with them accordingly.. meaning don't try to wait for more manipulations and lies to catch them red handed.. just get away from them when you see who and what they are.. protect your sanity because it is likely that no one else will.. your sanity is your responsibility (i learned that the hard way)
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