i always talk about things women do wrong so in this entry i want to talk about the things men do wrong in relationships these are in no particular order we watch porn watching porn is like relationship suicide.. the changes it makes in a man's mindset and behavior are subtle but they ultimately lead to the dissolution of a relationship you're more tired, your less alert, more aloof, you're hurting your own libido, you're dampening your desire for your wife, you're less excited about regular things, you're more bored, the list can go on i remember back in audio engineering school they said there's no one major thing you do in mixing and mastering that really changes a song.. but if you make 100 little tweeks, then it makes a huge difference in the end imo this is what porn does to men.. it causes 100 little changes that you and other people probably won't be able to pinpoint on an individual level.. but at the end of the day they just know something is different about you.. if you watch porn you won't have the same attractive presence you once had, and people may not be able to put their finger on what happened, but even if it's only subconsciously- they will see a difference and they will want to get away from you or their opinion of you will change we have to stop watching porn as men and just be in monk mode unless we are married, otherwise we are just shortchanging ourselves going for that easy pleasure is a trap i remember one time i was watching an old interview with ol dirty bastard and he said he does drugs because "normal life is boring to me" ....well, we all know the end of that story.. r.i.p. odb was what he said true? no. life was not boring and causing him to turn to drugs.. the truth is the drugs caused him to think life was boring... and that's also how porn does people another thing to remember is you need your life to be congruent for your own sense of integrity, and also because you want everything to work toward your goals.. when you cheat or take shortcuts you think you are getting over on the system but ultimately you only end up cheating yourself and lying to yourself.. so cutting out your vices is like cutting out incongruent habits and "cheats" or self deceit we must cut out our vices so that our inner life is congruent with our outer life.. that will help us immensely because believe it or not the two are connected we don't put enough effort into how we look the thing about this is- if you have the money for the clothes that will make the statement you need- then this is low hanging fruit.. if you have the ability to dress nice then you should go ahead and look your best because believe it or not, women are far more superficial than men just think about all the women cam'ron must've gotten when he had the pink range rover just think about all those times women noticed some small detail like how long your fingernails were or think about how they come up to you and fix your collar if people are going to judge you on how you look then why not take advantage of that and look amazing because even if you aren't amazing- they will treat you as if you are based on what they see and yes this can even be important for a mgtow, appearance is not just for pua's.. and not only that but it is likely easier for a mgtow to project his best appearance because his money is less likely to be tied up in some woman if you're too skinny eat some protein.. if you're too fat eat some fiber.. just try to put more effort into this and see where it takes you if you're like me and you need money for new clothes then just write out a plan like "ok i'm going to deliver pizzas for a little minute but in 6 months i'll be on point" i'm not saying this for vanity's sake.. i'm saying this for like practical reasons.. i'm not saying get diamond earrings and spend 4 hours in the gym and get an s-curl.. i'm not saying to only wear name brands, i'm not even saying to wear cologne.. i'm just saying consider putting more thought into what you're projecting.. for example, for many people- looking more professional is synonymous with looking more mature.. and that's how we want people to see us right? so many of us can probably try to project a better image in some way, shape or form and we may be surprised at how much it helps us in day to day life.. other people (including potential employers and desirable women) may take us more seriously and we may even take ourselves more seriously sometimes our women don't respect us because of how we look and how we present ourselves.. if they see "unkempt" they tend to also see "lazy" and "incompetent" etc.. those may not be true about you- but women tend not to isolate information, they seem to collect it and bunch it up.. to us men, a smart guy with a stain on his shirt is a smart guy with a stain on his shirt.. but women seem to perceive it like, a smart guy with a stain on his shirt is a guy who isn't very smart part 2 of this hopefully coming soon
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i wasn't going to post this video but someone commented on my comment and when i looked, i got like 41 thumbs up in 2 hours since i got so many i figure maybe this video is important so let me speak on it real quick *language warning* first, here is my comment i left:
"do these women understand that this leaves them in perpetual friends with benefits situations? like you are basically saying you want anything but love (since love is expressed through time, patience, effort, and attention)" now.. let me say a few more things this is a perfect example of what we men deal with when we try to approach women in a legitimate way.. they don't react well to love, they only react to the guy who doesn't care anything about them i have spoke about it before here on the site.. and now here you see it bluntly coming from a woman now someone left a comment on my comment saying "only thots think that way, not classy women" ... smh.. another woman trying to gaslight me into believing a current widespread phenomenon is an isolated incident women always say things like that- for example, if you say "women like thugs" then women will say "only little girls like thugs, real women like good men" they can't argue with the truth so instead they just separate people as if that means anything like imagine me saying "children like candy" and someone following up with "whatever, you meet some weird kids, i only know kids who like vegetables" that's what women sound like when they say "not all women are like that" its a joke because they're telling us to just hold onto hope waiting for that 2% of women who are different the sad reality is this video really represents how most women think.. i know from experience.. giving a woman love is like asking to be stabbed in the back, laughed at, cheated on, and lied to repeatedly ignoring a woman or treating her like dirt is like the best way to get her to be all over you but how do you build a lasting relationship on ignoring someone? this is why we no longer have relationships, we have friends with benefits.. and this is why we no longer have families, we have baby mamas and baby daddys (sidenote: i think a lot of the problem is the very fact that women have options on who to choose today... women were never meant to choose a spouse.. this is why the whole game is screwed up because women will choose the guy who treats them like dirt 9 times out of 10, commonly mistaking a lack of care for "confidence" then she blames all men when all she had to do in the first place was ask her dad what he thinks of the man, or ask an uncle, or a pastor.. because women DO NOT have the ability to choose a good man, we've seen this time and time again) this woman's mindset is NOT a small microcosm of the population.. this woman's mindset represents the overarching problems we men have with the vast majority of women today another reason why you can't say "that's thots, not classy women" is because unfortunately, more often than not today the "classy women" are just thots in disguise the whore is more open and honest.. she might talk openly about her sexual behavior.. she might even post some videos on the internet showing her sexual prowess.. the "classy lady" is the exact same as the whore except A. she has a semi professional job and B. she keeps her skeletons hidden.. she keeps that closet door shut don't believe me? ...go on plentyoffish.com one woman says "i'm not looking for sex" one woman says "i want a fun fling" what do both women have in common? they are both going to be spreading legs for one of the tallest dudes in that inbox come friday true or not? both of these women i've just described (since they partake in the same activities) ultimately have the same mindset.. so this video represents not just strippers, but most women in today's garbage dating pool do you have any idea how many guys aren't "bad boys" but TRY TO ACT THAT WAY TO GET WOMEN? my point is that men literally CAN'T approach a woman with love! women say men only want sex.. no, THATS ALL YOU ACCEPT, IDIOT!! the guy with the flowers who wants to keep you in his life is boring right? he's not man enough right? he's "too nice" right? he's square right? you want the guy mc lyte described in ruff neck lol.. u want a grown up child with poor impulse control.. u want a guy who doesn't call you back right? .. u want a straight up expert in bed- forget getting married and growing in intimacy together, screw that concept because you just want a certified fornicator lol.. women think this man will protect them because he has muscles.. lol he is fornicating with you so he is showing you he doesn't care about your walk with Christ or the condition of your immortal soul.. yet he will "protect" you right? ..when you end up pregnant and he says "well you know what you gotta do" that sounds like "protection" to you too right? LOL you want a man who sees you as another booty to wax as opposed to seeing you as his future wife and potential mother of his children right? well.. have fun with that enjoy your dysfunction, i'll enjoy my peace we have nothing more in common, and nothing more to speak about my bros and i (you know, those nerdy commitment minded men you've ignored for the past 10 or 15 years) are done with you have fun destroying yourselves this is one of the realest videos.. this is just the legitimate truth and I could say so much to go with it but I'll just say a little something below the main places I see blatant satanism in feminism are as follows:
abortion sexual promiscuity (which is synonymous unfaithfulness/infidelity) pride/selfishness and male/female role reversal i first want to say i've talked about this before but this entry will be a different aspect of this subject
my ex used to always say she wanted me to put me in her place and i never understood what it meant after the relationship ended i learned a lot and realized a lot.. (not having someone constantly pick at you allows you to think clearly) one thing i learned was that putting a woman in her place basically means always being ready and willing to leave her and mean it but i want to add an element to this that may possibly be overlooked when i say you must be willing and ready to leave her here's one thing to consider sometimes you should try to leave the ball in her court let me give an example say a woman says something disrespectful to you.. there are a number of options -you can argue with her over it -you can ignore it -you can insult her back -you can ask her why she said that -you can leave -you can tell her not to speak to you that way ok so the best option out of these is to tell her not to speak to you that way because it sounds authoritative and it doesn't give her a reaction and............ ????? it leaves the ball in her court see here's what i'm trying to say being willing to leave doesn't necessarily mean actually leaving being willing to leave means being able to set a boundary or a parameter and then allow her to choose the consequence i wanted to point this out because over and over i say you must be willing to leave a woman but i don't want to give the impression that leaving is necessarily the first resort just say what needs to happen or not happen again and be done with it.. don't give a tit for tat and don't dwell on the issue at that point its on her whether she wants to argue or not but you told her what you want and so if she defies it then just allow her to dig her own grave but if you argue or insult her back or leave without explaining the "rules" or the boundary she has crossed, then she is likely to view that as a reaction and this is where women begin to think you're weak or they decide to push your buttons or treat you with contempt because they interpret it like.. "if i can make him react then i'll do it whenever i feel like it" so when you stand in frame remember to leave the ball in her court whenever possible and allow her the chance to right her wrong or allow her to wrong you again.. either way, what's important is that her intent reveals itself to you i want to talk about another thing to look out for with women
women who don't want to be at home women who go out a lot are useless my ex used to always talk about how she wants to travel, but like most women they talk about it like its just going to happen.. like as if you (the boyfriend or husband) don't need to be consulted in the matter she used to talk about how she wanted to do a girl's trip and how she wants to go to vegas... i've been to vegas before and it is a seriously indecent city.. so why would any self respecting man want his woman there with her cackling slut friends for a week and a half? if your girl starts talking like this, trust me- its not even worth the argument just tell her you won't stand for it and ghost that tramp how can u trust a woman who is always talking about leaving you for days? why does she have to be away from you? another thing my ex used to say was that she was looking forward to one of her friends getting married and having a bachelorette party yep.. she was one of those smh so anyway.. i don't think i really need to flesh this out- the potential problems are obvious.. and if you tell your girl "hey i don't want you out there with your friends, ogling over some muscular guy with no clothes on with alcohol around" and she says something like "you don't trust me?" or "you treat me like a child!" that means she is an insatiable whore with no moral compass and you need to drop her .. any woman who shames you for loving her is an empty void, destitute of common sense any woman that far gone will also have a literal inability to learn decency.. DROP HER under no circumstance would i get married and then tell my wife "hey me and the guys are going on a trip to cancun for a week and a half" like women never fail to impress me with the depth of their stupidity and hypocrisy you don't get married to remain independent and go on trips away from your spouse u dense whore and some of these women even have the nerve to legit tell their man he can't come along even if he wants to this is why i'm so glad mgtow is here.. because we men have dealt with women's crap for so long that we barely even realize how bad things have gotten anymore.. but since i have been single for a while and i'm clear headed and not dealing with a woman's incessant head games, complaining, nagging, gaslighting, and attitude.. i can see a lot more clearly who and what women are and what i will and won't put up with and i WILL NOT deal with any short-bus skank who talks about planning trips away from me or going to crazy debauchery filled bachelorette parties or any of that you dumb broads messed up when you forced men to realize being alone is more peaceful than being with a maniacal femlin there's no more "wait, don't leave" or "stay with me baby please" or "don't go i need you" on our parts now it's just ... "you can see the door, thot" I WILL NOT PUT UP WITH THESE WOMEN WHO THINK ITS OK TO REMAIN SELFISH IN A RELATIONSHIP.. YOU EITHER REALIZE THIS IS A COMMITMENT OR GO BACK TO YOUR PITIFUL LIFE OF WHOREDOM... BECAUSE THE TRUTH IS, I AND MANY OTHER MEN ARE AT A POINT WHERE IF YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO BE A GOOD WOMAN, WE NO LONGER CARE WHETHER YOU LIVE OR DIE i have to admit lately I've been somewhat overwhelmed
see here's the thing.. I updated my resume and so now it's the best it's ever been my resume was already decent but then I had my mom take a look at it and she gave me a few suggestions.. ever since I made those alterations I've been getting a lot of responses that resume is incredible seriously- I can tell that people see it and it immediately catches their attention the issue I've been having though is people call me and I'm dealing with limited information and they set me up for interviews like right there on the spot so I don't necessarily have the time to really think through whether I really want to move forward with them or not.. and not having pay rates can also be frustrating (although I have found that the glassdoor website can help with salary information) like for example right now I have an interview today after work and another one tomorrow after work.. this is cool in the sense that I can see I'm finally being recognized by employers but I'm realizing how it can be overwhelming trying to keep up with all the calls and emails and companies and people and voicemails and texts I've always been the type who HAD TO apply to like 10 million jobs but maybe I should just scale it back now? I am extremely thankful to the Lord for giving me such a great looking work history, education, and resume I just have to learn how to navigate with all of this extra attention.. I've actually blocked a few employers who continually called me... that's definitely a change of pace for me i probably need to pray because i have to be honest on some level this can come with stress because I'm not exactly used to turning companies down or telling them that their offer isn't good enough and I'm not saying that like I'm some baller because to be honest, I'm broke.. but the thing is I HAVE A JOB, meaning even though I'm broke- i still need a somewhat significant raise to justify leaving my current position where i have a certain level of comfort anyway.. just wanted to share some of my life u all stay out of trouble ok.. peaCe i'm going to tell you the easiest and quickest way to tell if a girl is a whore
all you have to do is say something against whoredom in conversation, say something against amber rose's slut walk or if maury comes on tv and a woman can't find the father of her baby and they've already given like 5 guys a dna test.. just say something like "wow she's a thot" just wait for something sexual to come up and speak on it in a conservative type of way say something like "i think most guys want a virgin wife" just say anything remotely conservative about sex or maybe even just say "what do you think of friends with benefits?" try to make this as conversational as possible because this way she will speak freely and not realize you're baiting her if she defends whoredom then she is a whore... even if she hasn't had sex in a long time or something.. if she defends whoredom then realize she has the heart of a whore there's a difference between a woman who is free of sexual sin and a woman who is a slut on a break one time i was talking to a girl and she was talking about friends with benefits like it was a good thing.. basically defending it.. i said "that's whoredom" she said "no its not" i said yes it is.. and we had a back and forth but looking back- i should have just immediately realized the conversation was futile.. the reason she defended that lifestyle was because she has a heart of compromise.. she doesn't base her decisions on principles, she bases them on situations.. (this is the type of woman who will be faithful to you only as long as she gets her way in the relationship) that conversation was basically a manifestation/sign of her disloyalty so always look at the things women defend.. if she defends something stupid then there is your clue that she is worthless to you i want to make it clear that this also goes for the concept of female submission in marriage.. if you mention submission and a woman gives you all types of lip about it.. don't waste your time saying things like: "hey, that doesn't make sense because you go to work and submit to your boss so why is it ok there but not in marriage with the man who loves you?" or "hey why are you against this when the bible clearly tells wives to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord?" don't waste one word, just realize she isn't submissive and therefore isn't wife material (and therefore should be left to rot in her endless revolving door of temporary sex partners) even if she just hits you with a question like "what's your definition of submission?" realize she still just failed the test because that is just another trap that she is setting up to put you on the defensive so she can try to poke holes in whatever you subsequently say... her asking that question is like a gay person asking a christian "what's wrong with being gay?" .. meaning they don't really want an answer... she also failed the test because in the slight chance that she legitimately doesn't know what submission is and needs you to define it- she is still worthless to you quick recap.. again.. one of the quickest ways to see if a woman has the heart of a whore, or an unsubmissive heart is just to bring one of these things up in conversation and let her hang herself if she isn't a whore why does she defend whoredom? if she is a good woman then why does she defend unsubmissive, stubborn women? one thing i want to say tho.. you will quickly find that 95% of women will fail these tests don't let it get you down.. it can be disheartening to see that the vast majority of women are useless disloyal morons, but look at it like this.. each time one of these skanks disappoints you- that's one less vapid soulless femlin you have to sift through today hasn't been the best day
i got a haircut after work and the guy must have misunderstood me because he cut my beard off thanks a lot, now i look like a salamander smh i don't even have sideburns anymore dude wow.. mirrors are officially the enemy at this point the other thing that happened was i wanted to go to a real estate seminar when i got in the car, i put the address in my gps and the arrival time said it would basically be halfway over when i got there i sat there in disbelief for a minute.. i guess i misjudged the time it would take some other stuff happened also.. but whatever blah my life has been in a weird space lately
financial issues my barber quit my job is lame i don't find myself around very many likeminded peeps don't wanna renew my lease this yr my church is moving away school's over i have no relationship etc i've been faced with a range of emotions over these things but i don't think God has thrown me away i've been thinking over everything and i think He has allowed me to reach this place because He wants to push me a bit i've been just thinking and mulling over my experiences and i think i've come to the conclusion that my goal is to move to memphis this year yep.. i LOVE spring hill but i think its time for me to dip on out of middle tennessee and head to west tennessee i've had different thoughts concerning all of this but the process of my thoughts has led me more and more to wanting to go.. the more i've thought about it, the more it seems to make sense besides... when there's a town 3 hours away where the women are built like this... who am i to argue? i was at the gym and that old movie pretty woman came on
i was looking at it and seeing how women like the idea of being "small" to a man she was so out of her element but she seemed to like having to live up to his standards its so weird because if you let women tell it, they want men to live up to their standards, but in all the romance novels and movies, the opposite is true the women want to live up to the man's standards women don't want power and are turned off by it one thing tho is men don't view everything through the "strength" and "weakness" lens so what happens is a guy is thinking "how can i make my girl happy?" but a woman sees that as "he is weak, because he does what i want him to do" men are like "i'm doing this to show my love" but women think "he's doing this because he's desperate" when i was looking at pretty woman i was thinking about how women want to be chosen if they feel you're desperate then they feel less special.. they feel like you're just choosing them because you can't get anyone else (sidenote: i'm going to go on the record and say that i've never taken a girl out of desperation.. i've always legitimately wanted whoever i spoke to.. this is especially true for me because i don't have sex, so i have no reason to waste any woman's time because i'm not getting anything out of the deal except for the hope of an eventual marriage) women a lot of times want the guy who is out of their league because to them it proves that they are wanted... because he could've chose 1,000 other women but he chose her... that seems to make women feel more secure men are like the opposite... if we see a woman with 1,000 options its like we tend to feel less secure.. and if a woman is desperate that's actually like a plus to us.. like for example look at the whole "damsel in distress" thing.... all that is is a desperate woman... men love that.. we love to rescue a woman women are the opposite they look at it in a totally diff way these types of differences keep us from coming together in a lot of ways since we read things so much differently.. the different outlooks manifest in our behavior and then we further misunderstand our interactions what's the solution? |
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