one thing i dislike about women is how many of them try to act strong and stoic and unmoved to you (an interested man or boyfriend) but behind closed doors they cry and show emotions and act like actual women
i truly hate that as men we really just want to give women what they want and satisfy them when they act like robots it just comes across like they don't need anything, they don't need any help, they don't want any help, they don't want encouragement, they can pass on love, they don't desire affection, etc etc meanwhile you find out two weeks later from her friend you bump into at the mall that she wanted ALL of those things but you were just totally unaware because she ran off and cried to her friends instead of opening up to you and giving you an opportunity to help fix whatever the problem was this ROBS us men of some things we truly desire which are to feel useful, competent, helpful, and significant and it robs women because they don't get to feel closer to their man or grow in trust toward him.. instead they just run off and cry to someone in their circle because they don't want to look "weak" to you... but as a man you don't desire the trait of strength in a woman and a woman's vulnerability is actually attractive to us men so i despise this trait of modern women.. they always come across to men like they are perfect and have everything together and never have negative thoughts and never feel sad, and every day is just another success for them nothing is actually further from the truth.. and trust me when i say we men WANT THE TRUTH a woman in need is a woman a man wants.. no man wants some buff 6-pack having bulletproof warrior chick who is headstrong, shrewd, and emotionless i feel like men and women will never come together the way our grandparents did as long as women are full of pride and arrogance and wrong ideas about what makes them attractive
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i have noticed men and women generally have certain things in their lives that they have a hard time finding a middle ground on
there may be more examples than these two, but i want to give an example for each gender both of these examples are like proverbial tight-ropes for many people.. the concept of navigating properly can be difficult to grasp first lets talk about women women tend to have a hard time balancing being real with themselves and with others.. what i mean is you have women who are described as a b*tch (for lack of a better word) ... and you have women who are like human doormats the b*tch woman is selfish, cold, crass, loud, unapologetically crude, uncaring, and not well-behaved... she is ultimately too loose with her truth the doormat woman doesn't speak up for herself, she will say yes when she really wants to say no.. she is like a house with no front door.. anyone can just walk in and take something and walk out since there are no boundaries.. she doesn't show any potentially negative sides to her personality in an attempt to avoid coming across as unpleasant or to avoid conflict what is the middle ground here? the b*tch has no filter and the doormat is all filter the b*tch cares about self, neglecting others the doormat cares about others, neglecting self that is one tight-rope walk for women.. and i want to delve into why there may not exactly be an easy solution for identifying the middle ground in an upcoming entry but as for right now.. i just want to point out that we see this in women a lot.. you tend to see women one side of the spectrum or the other.. (btw im mostly talking about from a social stanpoint here.. i am not referring to a woman's personal life) now lets address the men with men what u often see is they have a hard time finding a middle ground between nice guy and player i even said this in a song when i said "i'm a nice guy who's been burned/ so now i treat a skank like an unpaid intern" in that line you can see i went from one extreme to the other that's how a lot of men are we can't seem to find a middle ground between the nice guy and the guy who just uses women as a nice guy though i can say that our heart is to bless, provide for, uphold, and uplift our women i have to be honest i don't see how these things are negative, but i will say they don't really work because women find these things to be repulsive lol i guess women feel that being with a good man is a responsibility while being with a player is like an opportunity to have no duty, restraint, or liability and honestly i would agree with women on that... but that's where they have to figure out whether they want to be baby mamas or wives anyway.. the player type of dude just gets what he wants out of women which is sex and deference.. he doesn't commit he doesn't put too much stock in women he just has his way with them and lets them come and go what is the middle ground? is there a middle ground between the guy who wants to respect a woman and eventually marry her and the guy who just wants to gratify his sexual desire? just like with the women, i'm not sure there's an easy answer here and i guess i should say perhaps the middle ground isn't the answer anyway.. in both cases you have a person who operates on base desire and impulse and another person who has a more "by the books" mentality i guess i'll just try to leave some tips for each person described b*tch - think about where you want to be in 5 to 10 yrs.. now ask yourself if you will be there if you continue acting this way doormat - are you speaking or just hinting? good job on having class.. keep that, just try to open up a little player - bottom line be not deceived fornicators will not make it into the kingdom of heaven good guy - keep your standards both for yourself and others.. just try to add value to yourself especially extrinsic because that (knowing your priorities) is likely to have been neglected on some level lately i've been feeling like one of my female friends just lets me talk but they don't say much of anything and it has gotten to be kinda tiresome to me i have begun to feel like i don't want to share anymore of myself without getting more from them i have been kinda putting this thought out of my mind for a while and just letting it go but it was brought back to my remembrance today i took this screen shot today just as a basic example: do you guys think i'm overthinking this or does it seem like i didn't get a real response to my question? this is how i've been feeling for a while now.. like i am not getting detailed answers from her it's like i am getting the political version i feel like i'm honest with people and i share my life and experiences and feelings but some people only share their representative with me like ok lets delve into this screenshot above: i said hows your day.. she totally stepped over any particulars concerning her "rough" situation this is what i mean when i say i am just getting the political version of this person.. i am not getting "i got out of the car and slipped and fell in the mud and then when i got in the office i spilled my coffee everywhere" i am getting "my day started out rough but i'm better now, how are you?" like i am just tired of this.. if you're really my friend then share your life with me.. i have gotten to a place with this person where i'm no longer willing to share my life and experiences with them until they start opening up to me that's why i didn't even answer her question, i just asked her about a baby's name from a previous conversation i didn't even acknowledge her "how's your day going" because i don't feel like she answered my initial question with any sort of detail.. its just "let me give james this vague answer and then put the spotlight back on him" like i'm totally over that.. i'm down with being friends but friends SHARE things with each other.. they don't just send their perfect "i-already-got-over-my-problem-before-i-texted-you-so-we-don't-need-to-discuss-it" representative send the real you, not this fake person who is 100% happy about everything 100% of the time.. i don't want to hear from this mannequin of a person who damage controls everything that could possibly be perceived as negative and i'm not saying she has to diss herself or moan and complain.. i'm just saying give me more than this generic talk once in a while.. like i don't feel like i'm getting the real version of her i could be wrong but this is just what has been swimming around in my head.. do u all think i'm overthinking it? i feel like a lot of christians do this thing where they strive to be weak and feeble people
a lot of times (imo) Christians have beliefs that seem self defeating i was talking to a Christian friend recently and I said I wanted to focus on money and they said “why?” I was like “why not?” they were like “it can take your mind off of God and bring a lot of problems” I said “well that’s one way to look at it” I know money isn’t everything but when I said I’d focus on money I never said “I’m also going to lose sight of God in the process” so I didn’t get why they even had to say that To me that was like someone saying “I’m going to get a snack” and someone else chimes in and says “well you shouldn’t be a glutton” I never said I was going to go to this place of abandoning God for money.. I don’t get why Christians act this way sometimes.. sometimes I feel like they find a way to make things wrong that aren’t actually wrong Don’t get me wrong- I’m a Christian so I’m not trying to diss Christians... but real talk- if you go to work full time, (which this person does) imo you are pretty much already pretty focused on money yourself, so I just don’t get where their comments were coming from for the record, saying I want to focus on money for me just means, like trying to gain knowledge on how to make money outside of the hand to mouth rat race type of system many Christians seem to have this unspoken rule that going after, or having an abundance is a bad thing.. but i don't feel that way.. i feel that having more is better than having less.. i also feel that having money affords a person options (where to live, what to drive, if they can donate, if they can lend, if they can eat healthy, if they can get something fixed, etc) no one will ever say money is bad but there's a certain hinting that people do.. they will never come out and say "you spent too much on such and such" instead they just hint that you have the wrong priorities or that you are overlooking something or that you are being worldly I just find some of that belief to be odd because I feel like a lot of times those are the same people who are in need.. while the people who don’t view money or success as bad things oftentimes have a measure of both One Christian guy cut my hair for $10 earlier this year.. a $10 haircut.. you can’t even get that on a discount day at a regular barber shop.. so at the end of the cut I gave him $20 and he was very happy to receive an extra $10 but I was like don’t thank me man you should charge more But that’s what I’m saying like why do some Christian people act this way? Like why put yourself in that position in the first place? "money isn't important" is your belief and so you underchage and shortchange yourself someone gives you what you are actually owed and you are nearly celebrating.. like your thankful attitude shows me that you needed the money.. so just accept the fact money does have some importance from jump then and that's my whole thing.. why act like we don't live in the united states where money is a thing? just keep it 100, money is something we all use right now imo, when you shun abundance you tend to throw yourself under the bus for no reason.. i mean seriously why do that? “don’t think about money” “don’t think about dressing nice” “don’t be trying to get education” Like why do some Christians seem to shun power and influence and money and a good outer image? just because you have power doesn't mean you're a tyrant just because you have influence doesn't mean you're misusing it just because you have money doesn't mean you're greedy just because you have a nice image doesn't mean you're living a lie The bible tells us to humble ourselves, it doesn’t say “throw yourself under the bus daily” the bible makes it clear we should know how to be abased and abound meaning we should be able to walk in humility and in righteousness whether we have a lot or a little it doesn't say "just diss money and that will make you humble" or "don't focus on money and you will go to heaven" you can go for money but just keep it in its proper place.. don't be a judas and sell out the Lord for money.. but at the same time the Bible says a good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children.. so there's nothing wrong with having your ducks in a row as far as money is concerned Like I can have money and a nice car and a fresh haircut and still be giving, loving, and righteous.. one does not negate the other I just don’t get why some Christians act like choosing one thing causes you to lose another thing.. its like a lapse in logic.. its a false dichotomy when people think one fact equals another fact when that's not the case like if someone says "you're black so you must like basketball" or "you're a republican so you're also racist" or another example is recently I told a girl I like video games and she went on this rant about guys being addicted to video games.. smh.. me liking video games doesn't make me a video game addict caring about financial wellbeing doesn't make you a bad Christian imo some Christians have to understand we are told to humble OURSELVES meaning like look in the mirror and check ourselves and check our hearts and inspect our conscience.. its a head thing and a heart thing.. its not necessarily about imposing self made restrictions on ourselves.. its about us remaining humble and staying in line even without restrictions they're like "i made sure to be broke so i'm humble" or "i made sure to not get my hair cut so i'm humble" but what about "i feel great about myself and where the Lord has allowed me to be in life, but i'm still humble" being weak and feeble and broke and ugly isn't a virtue knowing how to conduct yourself properly regardless of where you are in life is if money was wrong there would be no such thing in the bible as a righteous king.. but we saw that a few times didn't we? as you can see- i just don't really get the self-defeating talk that i hear from some Christians at times Anyway.. let me know what you think .. aight peace One thing I want to point out is I had a conversation with my mom about how I cut women off when they don’t live up to my standards
She said something about "well get used to being alone" I was like "cool cuz I’d rather have peace" so we apparently see the same phenomena here, however we appear to have different outlooks on it The thing I refer to us seeing is that the fact that my standards tend to keep some women out of my life.. it either runs them off or I step away from them myself here’s where we have a disconnect: She appears to think my standards are a problem and I need to just allow women to come in my life and do and say whatever because “it’s a new day” or because “it’s not the 50s” or “its modern times now” However, I believe the problem is not my standards, my belief is the problem is the women who do not live up to my standards.. they think they can just come in my life and do whatever they want.. they think I should change when that is backwards women want a man to lead.. how am i the leader if you don’t follow me? if you don’t mold to me- and instead I mold to you, then which one of us is the leader? these women want to be the man in the relationship.. they want to be the strong one while I am the flexible one, but that is not what nature intends i've seen this thing for a while now in society where women want to be the boss everywhere except in the bedroom but let me tell you something.. a woman who is only submissive during sex is also a woman who is only good for sex when you see a woman.. whether its someone at work or a family member or whoever- and she seems to always be sexually active but she never has a real relationship or never gets married.. there is a reason for that it's likely because she doesn’t know her place.. a woman only has value to a man in the areas where she is willing to be submissive.. this is why pump and dumps, no strings attached situationships, and friends with benefits are such huge things today.. because women today are largely only submissive in bed, and (again) therefore only good for sex.. there will not be a meaningful relationship if women don’t abide in their proper place with that said- my standards aren’t the issue, women who aren’t in position are the problem anyway, my mom and i see the same situation, my standards keep women away.. I think having standards is good she thinks it's bad but check it out.. I can legit say to anyone reading this: I have legitimately NEVER placed too high of a standard on a woman.. I can legitimately say that for the most part if a woman has been willing to work with me I have been willing to work with her -Is not smoking too high of a standard? -Is not having two kids by two diff men out of wedlock too high of a standard? -Is being honest too high of a standard? -Is being fathful too high of a standard? -Is being respectful to me too high of a standard? even physically my standards aren't too high because i like bbws, so women don't even have to hit the gym for me to be interested I have never placed women in a position to where they just can’t reach my standards.. the problem is not my standards, the problem is that women are no longer women and they don’t want to be who they are supposed to be anymore -She doesn’t want to be honest (yet she wants me to be) -She doesn’t want to be submissive (yet she wants me to be loving) -She doesn’t want to take my last name (yet she wants a ring) -She doesn’t want to stop rolling her eyes at me (yet she wants me to overlook her past…meaning she doesn’t want to respect me as a man but she wants me to respect her as a woman) -She doesn’t want to go to my church (yet she wants me to lead) Twilight zone logic the problem is not my standards, the problem is women are just not up to par so let me bring it back to you... which of us has the right outlook in your opinion.. me or my mom? imagine me abandoning my standards.. what do you think i'd end up with? i have a kindle fire... on the kindle fire it was showing the mobile version of my site
i wanted the desktop version so i looked up how to change the site and its pretty easy if you scroll all the way down you should see an option to change from the mobile version to the desktop version so that's just a tip for anyone who ran into the same issue i had the desktop version of my site is always better than the mobile version imo ok holla back peaCe i believe that some people have evil spirits in them.. the spirits don't always come across as evil, sometimes the spirits are just there to cause confusion, or to get you to trust them so that they can later lead you into false belief.. or sometimes they want to be able to steer your life somehow or exude a type of control over you
so with that said... some of these spirit-led people can be like normal people you come across on a day to day basis or they could be someone you're in a relationship with, or maybe you just have a chance encounter or maybe they are in your family or whatever i am basically speaking from experience because in my last relationship my ex was led by the jezebel spirit (which also comes with the spirit of pride) so here's what i want to point out here is one way to know when someone is dealing with a spirit have you ever heard someone described as "never at a loss for words" ? a lot of times when you run into a person who is never at a loss for words, they have a spirit in them that is sent to control or persuade or get you to question yourself and your beliefs.. the whole reason they are never without another rebuttal or “comeback” is because the spirit that controls and compels them essentially tells them what to say to you.. they do this so that they can keep their claws in you long enough to ultimately bring about harm, pain, bitterness, resentment, etc if you are a person who A. has beliefs backed by the Bible and B. typically uses logic, then for the most part your outlook will be based in some level of truth.. you may not always be correct on things but with the Bible and logic- you should generally have a sound view of things and be able to at least come to some reasonable common ground with others however, if you find yourself in arguments with a person and you are giving logic and quoting the Bible and yet you continually find yourself in a crazy loop of nonsensical debates and "facts" that you can't disprove- chances are you are dealing with a person who has one of those evil spirits (sidenote: when I say they have arguments you can’t disprove I mostly mean things like “that’s not true because my uncle’s wife’s third cousin had a situation where….” Trust me, these people know how to make an argument that has no backing rooted in reality.. they use these arguments that you can’t disprove with the intent to shut you up. What they are saying could be true or completely fabricated, but either way the purpose is to get you to doubt your conviction which is often times a conviction that exposes them or their associates or makes them feel guilty or sheds light on their foolishness/sin) when you think about logic.. here's the thing.. a logical person will likely at some point in their life be at a loss for words because the way logic works is like precept upon precept.. you abandon one belief for a higher belief so when you run into a person who is introduced to a higher belief and yet they find a way to continually debate you and try to tell you that their lower belief is "still better" then you know what you're dealing with think about it like this: if you say "1 plus 5 equals 7" then i say "well, actually 1 plus 5 equals 6 because of blah blah blah" and i show you this clearly.. then you should technically at that point be somewhat at a loss for words meaning you should be at a place where you stop touting your previous belief and instead you accept this new higher belief that I have presented that has the truth what happens with people who are led by evil spirits though is they will not ever stop defending their own wrong beliefs.. you will try to show them a different viewpoint and you will be able to prove it- but they will have these weird limitless arguments that you cannot disprove on deck to confuse you (the fact that the arguments are limitless should show you that you are likely talking to a spirit and not a person, because an evil spirit will stop at nothing to confuse you and throw you off- that is their job, to derail your walk with the Lord in any way possible) these evil spirits are allowed to abide in that person in many ways because of that person’s pride.. and since that person is ultimately leading you to confusion and bondage, it's easy to see what side they're on from a spiritual standpoint since God is not the author of confusion and will not lead you into bondage my ex g/f used to have all types of weird confusing arguments and statements and feedback loops of weird logicless rhetoric here are a few things to look out for (in no particular order) "well maybe you see it that way but i don't" (if you have a simple and understandable 2 + 2 = 4 type of statement and someone says this, you may want to get away from them) "you think you're always right" (they are basically telling you to shutup and not acknowledging what you're actually saying) "not all" (the 'not all' argument tends to mean- "you're right but i'm going to find a way to make you sound wrong") "that's not true because i know someone who..." (similar to the 'not all' debate... it focuses on the exception and not the rule) "i'm done" (this means: even though I don’t have an immediate response i'm still not going to concede.. i'm just going to give you the silent treatment and act like you have done me wrong until YOU concede.. that way i still "win" and remain in pride) changing the subject (this means they are hiding something and trying to pull the wool over your eyes) framing (framing a lot of times consists of saying something before the question even comes up, so that a person's opinion is framed before they think to ask.. for example: if a woman says- "i'm not that type of girl" early on or without any real prompting; if you believe her initial framing then she will have succeeded in avoiding certain questions from you... the thinking is "if i succeed in framing myself this way i'll never actually have to be confronted with the truth") one more thing about framing.. framing is essentially living a lie.. and a lot of these people who are led by evil spirits do in fact live a lie so cheating, insincerity, wrong motives, and subtle attacks disguised as “jokes” and things will likely follow this person as well anyway.. those are some of the things you may encounter or come across when you find yourself dealing with a person who is led by an evil spirit if they are led by an evil spirit and they are in your life then i have a question for you who sent them into your path? if you have answered that question correctly then you also know what to do about them again here's a recap: if a person is never really at a loss for words, or if a person never concedes even when you know they should.. chances are that person is led by an evil spirit.. they have a plethora of phrases, devices, and tactics they can use to confuse you, cause you to question yourself, destabilize you, make you crazy, etc this seemingly endless and infinite ability to speak everything to you but the truth imo comes from those spirits.. the spirits tell them what to say to you.. the reason i say this is because...... let me put it like this have you ever looked into the illuminati before and said to yourself "how can people even be this smart and diabolocal? this isn't even natural, how deep does the rabbit hole go? Wow smh!" it’s just like that but on an individual scale just like how the illuminati and its parts are very subtle, diabolical, and smart.. these people who are sent into your life are the same way.. they don't lack words and tactics because they are being fed them from the enemy when you marvel at their ability to make u feel worthless, or their ability to make you concede and apologize to them even when you know it’s actually their fault.. when you see how they have you always confused, tense, and on emotional highs and lows.. understand they aren’t that smart to be able to do these things to you- you’re dealing primarily with a spirit that abides in that person.. and that spirit has been sent to harm, confuse, consume, destabilize, depress, and ultimately (this is the honest truth) destroy you in short- a human being should at some points accept higher knowledge and/or be at a loss for words or "comebacks" ....if you find a person who never accepts the truth or never stops having a rebuttal or comeback.. chances are that person is receiving their fuel from the enemy this is why u can never paint them into a corner or get them to concede.. this is why the things they say never really make sense yet they can squeeze EVERY LAST BIT OF JUICE out of every lie they tell and cause you to question your own sanity this is also why when they leave your life you will just be confused about the entire relationship as a whole.. you may look back and say “did they ever care about me at all?” and the answer is probably no.. the cold hard truth is that spirit in them sent from the enemy just wanted to get to you to change the direction of your life example? Think about a good guy who wants to do right by women and get married, but then one girl he really likes treats him terribly.. and once it’s all over he is bitter and angry and becomes the biggest fornicator in the city… he has the coldest heart and is only out for self.. this type of thing is oftentimes what that evil spirit’s intent is.. to take away your pure intentions and stain you with ongoing bitterness and lust and pride and selfishness my advice is when you recognize that people have evil spirits (typified by many of the things I have described in this post).. get away from them they are often packaged in beauty and/or charisma but always remember that is just the surface.. everything inside is bitter and liable to corrupt you after my ex I literally wanted to hurt people.. and luckily I was able to get prayer and get that stuff off of me but what if I didn’t get the prayers and the instructions on what to do? I mean I was being tormented and for a while it seemed the only relief I would get would’ve been to hurt someone else so with all that said.. if you see the warning signs.. RUN, pray, and only listen to the right people.. search your conscience for whether or not a person’s advice on a potential narcissist, or jezebel is of God.. best of luck to you and please learn from my mistakes this is from a previous entry i did but i wanted to just isolate it here and highlight it for impact:
you can't say "not all women are crappy today" and also say "virtuous/submissive women are a thing of the past" and have them both be true i hear this crap all the time.. women saying "not all women are like that" when you say women are not good anymore.. but if you say you want a submissive, woman or a woman who cooks and caters to you, or a woman with no body count, or a woman who isn't combative they will be quick to say "you won't find that today.. go back to the 50s" so which is it? are not all women bad? or are all women bad? so i started talking to a new girl she was really pretty and i was happy to talk to her however we got on the subject of marriage and last names and she said she won't let go of her last name.. she said she will hyphenate her last name with whoever she marries after my last relationship i pretty much realized i put up with too much.. so instead of overlooking this or hoping she comes to her senses, i told her no i'm not up for that i said i want to give my wife and kids my last name and if you reject that symbolism then it's a sign that you also reject the idea behind it... i said flat out i know what i want and apparently you know what you want so i'm not going to waste your time and i kept it movin she didn't really say anything i think she said "ok" or something but basically rejecting my last name is basically rejecting what marriage is supposed to be.. you're telling me you don't want to be my wife all the way, you don't want to let go of your family and cleave to me all the way, you don't want to let go of your past all the way, you don't want to submit, you only halfway respect me, etc etc etc all of marriage is symbolism.. father giving away daughter is symbolic... white dress is symbolic... woman taking on husband's last name is symbolic since my last craptastic relationship i have learned not to overlook women's nonsense.. and i also learned that you can't really argue with a fool (not trying to call anyone specifically a fool, but you get what i mean) ... so your best bet in my opinion is to see the nonsense and leave immediately with your head held high... not in pride but in faith that God can provide you someone who will not sorely disappoint you or attempt to shortchange you from things you are supposed to have/receive if marriage didn't come with something then no one would get married women get children, protection, commitment, love, etc men get respect, support, sex, deference, etc women get their cars fixed and they get help with electronics men get cooked meals and a clean house we all give and receive right? but what i've noticed (again, mostly from my last rel) is that some people want to receive but they do not want to give you what you are owed its not even something that you haven't earned, you have earned it and it is rightfully yours, but they don't want to give it to you for whatever reason this is what its like to have a woman say "i'm not taking your last name" she wants her side of things, but she is telling you straight up- "your side isn't important to me" what if i said something to her like "yeah when i get married i'm not wearing a tux, i'm wearing shorts and a t-shirt" she would be like "no way" why? because she wants that tradition what if i said "i'm not getting my wife a ring when i get married, i'm not spending money on that" again.. she wouldn't want to hear that would she? because the ring is symbolic.. so if i said no ring, she would say no marriage and we men have to put our foot down and be the same way... you want to hyphenate my last name with yours? NO MARRIAGE by not taking my last name she's saying: i want you to claim me, i want you to take me from this meaningless life of friends with benefits and pump and dumps.. i want you to be God-fearing.. i want you to be presentable to my family.. i want you to have earned things in life.. i want you to have your own things.. i want you to have education under your belt.. i want you to love me and i want you to protect me and care for me............ but i want to hyphenate my last name with yours. why? because A. i am selfish and independent and want to keep my identity even though i'm supposed to leave my old life and cleave to my new one and B. i tell you i respect you but i really don't and i don't believe in you and i think our marriage is 50/50 meaning you are not the head (since i don't submit) WE are the head.. we are a two headed beast.. and i am too dense to understand how that leads to constant arguing and bickering.. long story short i believe we need to share the role of wife because some days i want to be the husband as i told that girl today: "yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyeah NO." i was happy with myself to see my growth because i didn't skip a beat i sent her packing.. no anger, no bitterness.. i just basically said we want two different things which was true... and i kept it moving i didn't waste any time at all on her and her crap.. and even better still- i didn't try to talk sense into her... you can't argue with foolishness just leave these women on their own.. they can go back to their life of getting pumped and dumped if they refuse to fall in line i have worked for years to be considered a decent man so why can't i have one decent wife who actually WANTS to take on my name? the bible legit says God called them Adam in the bible.. that's where that whole same last name thing comes from "In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made he him; Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created." women will do this thing where they try to make you feel like your requests are too big or too large.. that's why you can't argue with them.. because they won't listen to logic or reason or anything, they will just try to make you feel guilty.. women oftentimes like to project false guilt onto unsuspecting men instead of understand that marriage is a tradeoff where there's a give and take between two people she will try to make you feel guilty for wanting what is owed to you.. she doesn't want to give you what is required of her so she will say something like "why can't i keep my last name if you can keep yours? blah blah blah blah blah" the more you listen to their crap the more time you waste if i were to argue with her i would likely say "that's funny that you say i'm asking for too much because your mom didn't think it was too much when she married your dad" or "your grandmother didn't think it was too much when she married your granddad" or "women didn't think it was too much to ask for 30, 40, 50 yrs ago" it's only this generation that takes it upon itself to question all normalcy, and decency so men, it is up to us to let these ungrateful, headstrong, uncooperative women destroy themselves i know you want a good woman by your side but the truth is you can't make a woman act right.. if its not in her then its just not in her let her go back to her friends with benefits and pump and dumps and no strings attached situationships and let her destroy herself you have better things to do than waste time with someone who is inviting you to be a husband while she refuses to be a wife DONE. i am soooo tired of talking to people and hearing "oh ok" back
recently i was talking to someone and i said something and they sent me an emoji that was rubbing its chin and looking upward like thinking.. and then they said "hmmm" and then they said "......ohhhh ok" and they didn't say anything else and i know someone reading this thinks "james must've said something offensive" but no- because the statement i made was about me, not anyone else i have been really patient with the "oh ok" thing a lot but i have to admit i'm tired of it i feel like its patronizing and condescending like if a child came in a room and said "i like orange" you would say "oh.. ok" so when people say "oh ok" to me it feels like they are dismissing me or telling me i'm stupid in a passive aggressive way i guess i am just writing this as a proverbial line in the sand if peeps can't give me any validation, or understanding, or they can't be bothered to dignify anything i say- then i can't be bothered to continue talking like i'm a human too.. i'm not just some robot who doesn't notice when people are being facetious.. its really hurtful and frustrating to me that people treat me this way.. like i'm being dead honest right now when i say that when people treat me that way it drains me i already don't have the biggest circle but i guess i have to be even more selective |
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December 2017
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