i have noticed men and women generally have certain things in their lives that they have a hard time finding a middle ground on
there may be more examples than these two, but i want to give an example for each gender both of these examples are like proverbial tight-ropes for many people.. the concept of navigating properly can be difficult to grasp first lets talk about women women tend to have a hard time balancing being real with themselves and with others.. what i mean is you have women who are described as a b*tch (for lack of a better word) ... and you have women who are like human doormats the b*tch woman is selfish, cold, crass, loud, unapologetically crude, uncaring, and not well-behaved... she is ultimately too loose with her truth the doormat woman doesn't speak up for herself, she will say yes when she really wants to say no.. she is like a house with no front door.. anyone can just walk in and take something and walk out since there are no boundaries.. she doesn't show any potentially negative sides to her personality in an attempt to avoid coming across as unpleasant or to avoid conflict what is the middle ground here? the b*tch has no filter and the doormat is all filter the b*tch cares about self, neglecting others the doormat cares about others, neglecting self that is one tight-rope walk for women.. and i want to delve into why there may not exactly be an easy solution for identifying the middle ground in an upcoming entry but as for right now.. i just want to point out that we see this in women a lot.. you tend to see women one side of the spectrum or the other.. (btw im mostly talking about from a social stanpoint here.. i am not referring to a woman's personal life) now lets address the men with men what u often see is they have a hard time finding a middle ground between nice guy and player i even said this in a song when i said "i'm a nice guy who's been burned/ so now i treat a skank like an unpaid intern" in that line you can see i went from one extreme to the other that's how a lot of men are we can't seem to find a middle ground between the nice guy and the guy who just uses women as a nice guy though i can say that our heart is to bless, provide for, uphold, and uplift our women i have to be honest i don't see how these things are negative, but i will say they don't really work because women find these things to be repulsive lol i guess women feel that being with a good man is a responsibility while being with a player is like an opportunity to have no duty, restraint, or liability and honestly i would agree with women on that... but that's where they have to figure out whether they want to be baby mamas or wives anyway.. the player type of dude just gets what he wants out of women which is sex and deference.. he doesn't commit he doesn't put too much stock in women he just has his way with them and lets them come and go what is the middle ground? is there a middle ground between the guy who wants to respect a woman and eventually marry her and the guy who just wants to gratify his sexual desire? just like with the women, i'm not sure there's an easy answer here and i guess i should say perhaps the middle ground isn't the answer anyway.. in both cases you have a person who operates on base desire and impulse and another person who has a more "by the books" mentality i guess i'll just try to leave some tips for each person described b*tch - think about where you want to be in 5 to 10 yrs.. now ask yourself if you will be there if you continue acting this way doormat - are you speaking or just hinting? good job on having class.. keep that, just try to open up a little player - bottom line be not deceived fornicators will not make it into the kingdom of heaven good guy - keep your standards both for yourself and others.. just try to add value to yourself especially extrinsic because that (knowing your priorities) is likely to have been neglected on some level
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