so i started talking to a new girl she was really pretty and i was happy to talk to her however we got on the subject of marriage and last names and she said she won't let go of her last name.. she said she will hyphenate her last name with whoever she marries after my last relationship i pretty much realized i put up with too much.. so instead of overlooking this or hoping she comes to her senses, i told her no i'm not up for that i said i want to give my wife and kids my last name and if you reject that symbolism then it's a sign that you also reject the idea behind it... i said flat out i know what i want and apparently you know what you want so i'm not going to waste your time and i kept it movin she didn't really say anything i think she said "ok" or something but basically rejecting my last name is basically rejecting what marriage is supposed to be.. you're telling me you don't want to be my wife all the way, you don't want to let go of your family and cleave to me all the way, you don't want to let go of your past all the way, you don't want to submit, you only halfway respect me, etc etc etc all of marriage is symbolism.. father giving away daughter is symbolic... white dress is symbolic... woman taking on husband's last name is symbolic since my last craptastic relationship i have learned not to overlook women's nonsense.. and i also learned that you can't really argue with a fool (not trying to call anyone specifically a fool, but you get what i mean) ... so your best bet in my opinion is to see the nonsense and leave immediately with your head held high... not in pride but in faith that God can provide you someone who will not sorely disappoint you or attempt to shortchange you from things you are supposed to have/receive if marriage didn't come with something then no one would get married women get children, protection, commitment, love, etc men get respect, support, sex, deference, etc women get their cars fixed and they get help with electronics men get cooked meals and a clean house we all give and receive right? but what i've noticed (again, mostly from my last rel) is that some people want to receive but they do not want to give you what you are owed its not even something that you haven't earned, you have earned it and it is rightfully yours, but they don't want to give it to you for whatever reason this is what its like to have a woman say "i'm not taking your last name" she wants her side of things, but she is telling you straight up- "your side isn't important to me" what if i said something to her like "yeah when i get married i'm not wearing a tux, i'm wearing shorts and a t-shirt" she would be like "no way" why? because she wants that tradition what if i said "i'm not getting my wife a ring when i get married, i'm not spending money on that" again.. she wouldn't want to hear that would she? because the ring is symbolic.. so if i said no ring, she would say no marriage and we men have to put our foot down and be the same way... you want to hyphenate my last name with yours? NO MARRIAGE by not taking my last name she's saying: i want you to claim me, i want you to take me from this meaningless life of friends with benefits and pump and dumps.. i want you to be God-fearing.. i want you to be presentable to my family.. i want you to have earned things in life.. i want you to have your own things.. i want you to have education under your belt.. i want you to love me and i want you to protect me and care for me............ but i want to hyphenate my last name with yours. why? because A. i am selfish and independent and want to keep my identity even though i'm supposed to leave my old life and cleave to my new one and B. i tell you i respect you but i really don't and i don't believe in you and i think our marriage is 50/50 meaning you are not the head (since i don't submit) WE are the head.. we are a two headed beast.. and i am too dense to understand how that leads to constant arguing and bickering.. long story short i believe we need to share the role of wife because some days i want to be the husband as i told that girl today: "yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyeah NO." i was happy with myself to see my growth because i didn't skip a beat i sent her packing.. no anger, no bitterness.. i just basically said we want two different things which was true... and i kept it moving i didn't waste any time at all on her and her crap.. and even better still- i didn't try to talk sense into her... you can't argue with foolishness just leave these women on their own.. they can go back to their life of getting pumped and dumped if they refuse to fall in line i have worked for years to be considered a decent man so why can't i have one decent wife who actually WANTS to take on my name? the bible legit says God called them Adam in the bible.. that's where that whole same last name thing comes from "In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made he him; Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created." women will do this thing where they try to make you feel like your requests are too big or too large.. that's why you can't argue with them.. because they won't listen to logic or reason or anything, they will just try to make you feel guilty.. women oftentimes like to project false guilt onto unsuspecting men instead of understand that marriage is a tradeoff where there's a give and take between two people she will try to make you feel guilty for wanting what is owed to you.. she doesn't want to give you what is required of her so she will say something like "why can't i keep my last name if you can keep yours? blah blah blah blah blah" the more you listen to their crap the more time you waste if i were to argue with her i would likely say "that's funny that you say i'm asking for too much because your mom didn't think it was too much when she married your dad" or "your grandmother didn't think it was too much when she married your granddad" or "women didn't think it was too much to ask for 30, 40, 50 yrs ago" it's only this generation that takes it upon itself to question all normalcy, and decency so men, it is up to us to let these ungrateful, headstrong, uncooperative women destroy themselves i know you want a good woman by your side but the truth is you can't make a woman act right.. if its not in her then its just not in her let her go back to her friends with benefits and pump and dumps and no strings attached situationships and let her destroy herself you have better things to do than waste time with someone who is inviting you to be a husband while she refuses to be a wife DONE.
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