here's part 2, again i think my fave on this is the last one
+++++++++++++++++++++ i asked who u guys thought nicki minaj would be with back when she broke up with SB and i suspected she would be with some rich unknown guy like a fashion designer or something but she is with meek mill right now i didn't expect her to be with him what do u peeps think of this whole thing? i am not a huge celebrity type of person however i like peeping celebrities sometimes because i feel that their situations oftentimes have lessons we can learn from one thing i learned from this situation was that we as men need to stay as men.. i feel that SB sort of dropped the ball when he was with nicki he said in his song that he felt like a fool when nicki kissed nas.. smh.. AS YOU SHOULD!!! i think he sacrificed too much.. i don't care if your girl is the queen of england, you don't let her kiss another man she could be an actor, rapper, model, whatever your girl is- if she is twerking on other men, you need to put your foot down i think we as men need to put our foot down early and on everything not just on the big things.. otherwise your girl is going to feel like she can get over on you women always say they don’t like jealous men but they really do.. if you don’t show any sign of being jealous or protective over your woman she will think something is wrong.. he showed no signs of being affected by her doing all that wild stuff so she left him to find someone who would hold her in proper regard ++++++++++++++++ Here are the top people that are said to be good or talented but who aren't imo richard pryor j. cole eddie murphy notorious b.i.g ++++++++++++++++ i have noticed that in some instances there are two types of people you have people with family and therefore no true need to socialize or branch out and then you have people who don't really have a solid foundation of family who have a great need to reach out i never really realized this until one day i met a girl online and i remember the first time i spoke to her she really told me a lot about her life even though i lived really far from her i remember it really had an effect on me i was like wow i can't believe she is talking to me so much.. like i was a total stranger to her basically but when i asked her how her day was online (this was on myspace back in the day) she was really telling me about her day like in a sequence like "well first i did this, and then i went here.. etc" and one funny thing i always liked about her was how she would say something like "i went to see tiffany" or "i went to bremerton" that was always funny to me cuz i had no idea who tiffany was and i had no idea where bremerton was or what was in that city lol.. but that's why i liked her.. she would literally just tell me things as if i knew her forever and that is basically what showed me that you have people who are cool and friendly and you have people who are less open based a lot of times on their upbringing like her situation was that she only had her mom, she didn't know her dad and she likely has some brothers or sisters but she didn't know any of them.. and she moved around a lot.. i think mainly because it was hard for her mom to make ends meet or stay in a job for a long time this shined a light on me.. it showed me i've always had a pretty solid family foundation and so maybe so maybe that makes me less open and friendly.. i started to think about how i present myself to people more but over time i've realized some people don't have that foundation and so they oftentimes unconsciously seek it in other people like i remember one time this younger guy was asking me questions about life a lot and i didn't understand why until one day he explained to me that his dad used to do drugs and so he never really had a good relationship with him once he explained this to me i really understood why he was always sort of asking me questions about life or about the bible or just being extra cool toward me (because he needed/wanted someone to look up to) so in realizing this whole thing.. it has caused me to want to be nice to people more and be more friendly because.. even when its not a dramatic situation, you never know what a person is going through like when people move to a diff city/state for example.. man if you invite them to go to a movie with you they might really appreciate it because they might honestly not know anyone .. so i hope i can be there for someone in some way because not only would it help them- it is also a way to derive purpose from my own life/existence most people when you speak to them don't say much most of the time when you say "how's your day?" a person will say "its ok, how's yours?" but saying more and really engaging with a person sometimes can mean a lot ++++++++++++++++ in my life when i was in my late teens and 20s i wanted to be a rap artist over time i realized i was not successful and my thought process changed from trying to be a rapper to trying to walk through open doors i am not saying anyone else should do this however i somewhat feel that this has worked for me- at least on some levels walking through open doors is somewhat of like an act of submission instead of kicking a door down, you just look around and find the path that is laid out i kinda feel like everyone has this same struggle but people don't realize it you have things that you really want in life and you have zeal for them and you go after them but there are other factors that you are likely not taking into account where will you be in 5 to 10 yrs going after that fun thing? In moving toward your allotted goal, what are you giving up/turning away from? in life there are open doors all around us.. should we walk through the open doors or should we chase things that are elusive? i see this with women a lot they have a lot of decent men talk to them but women don't want the 'open door' guy..... women want the man they have to chase, they want the man they have to fight other women over.. they want the difficult thing but what is the cost of that highly coveted man? do you live in a mansion while your man travels and sleeps with other women? is that worth it? not saying this is the case every time but i am just pointing out an example so we can see the decisions we are faced with (btw I have an audio on this topic I may post one day) ++++++++++++++++ does anyone remember playing mario brothers back in the day and you played it so much that you remembered where all the invisible blocks were? so then you would be playing it and whenever someone would be watching you play it they would be dumbfounded like "how did you know that was there?" LOL man what were those programmers smoking back then? i mean 30 years later, mario brothers is still crazy lol ++++++++++++++++ i have had various people ask me why i don't go on christian mingle or some christian dating site i want to answer this i have been on christian dating sites before the problem with them is the women who are on them there are some good christian women.. so what i am about to say does not apply to all christian women, but it does apply to a lot of them first of all- the christian faith has a lot of sayings in it that make women feel like "princesses" or "prizes" i am not against women feeling good about who they are and their role in a relationship but i believe things are taught in a way that sort of misconstrues biblical teaching many christian women look at men through a weird lens.. like "i can say this to you but you can't say this to me" sort of lens.. like "you should do this because you're a man.. but because i'm a woman i shouldn't have to blah blah" this sort of entitled personality mixed with the confusion of how men are perceived amount to what i call the "princess" "prize" viewpoint that many christian women have how many women out there would like for their man to say something like "i shouldn't have to touch a dish in my house" does that sound like the man you want? THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH A WOMAN COOKING OR CLEANING BUT YOU CANNOT GUILT TRIP SOMEONE INTO SUBJECTION OR LORD A GENDER ROLE OVER THEM.. WHY? Because before you are a gender, you are a human being many christian women don't seem to understand that yes- men have gender roles but we don't need you acting bossy saying things like: "my granddad did this for my grandmother so you should do this for me" its thoughts and statements like that that make women sound annoying to us men.. if i said to a woman "my mom did it like this so you should too!" wouldn't that sound demeaning to you? that is a big problem with many christian women.. they have "traditional" views but only during times that are convenient for them "its time for you to mow the lawn" "defend my honor" "you should be happy to pay my bills because you’re the man" Modern secular women usually are too independent, but a lot of Christian women are like too traditional to a point where it sounds like they are delegating to men who and what they should be all the time i only date christian women but what i am saying is i don't generally date the christian women whom i am speaking of right now.. the christian women whom i am speaking of right now tend to be on sites like christian mingle or whatever the christian women who are tolerable and cool tend to be on the "secular" dating sites when i say tolerable and cool what i basically mean is like.. women who are more casual about their relationships women who understand, yes their are gender roles but A. i don't have to fulfill it to your particular standard to be accepted.. meaning I AM NOT YOUR ROBOT BOY TOY and B. she still should be grateful for what i do.. me "being a man" doesn't mean i don't deserve a thank you if my wife cooks me dinner that's like a part of her gender role but i still need to say thank you its not just "my job" to mow the lawn or risk my life for you or pay for you to go back to school i am still human and i am still doing it out of love and care many christian women just think "you're a man- you should be doing this anyway, and if you're a real man i shouldn't have to say thank you.. you're a man and i'm a prize.. i'm a princess" there's more to it than that overall: I am pro gender roles, but I do not believe they should be dogmatic, they should be done in humility.. a lot of christian women say things like “I shouldn’t have to open my own car door” which comes across as bossy and kindof annoying.. these are the reasons why I never used the Christian sites, because I ran into a lot of that “do it or else” “knife to the neck” traditionalism
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