some girl said i was shallow because i rate women on their bodies and looks or whatever
i want to explain this really quick i could say a lot on this but i will only touch on one main aspect here it is every girl should be judged on her looks why? because every girl should have the opportunity to feel gorgeous think about it.. what girl wants a guy who thinks she's a 5 or 6? seriously i really want you to think about that if a guy is very 'take-it-or-leave-it' about you, does that make you feel good about who you are? i doubt it say a guy married a 4 out of 10 because he "didn't judge her based on her looks" what the f*ck would that ultimately amount to? lack of enthusiasm on his part (kissing is a chore) (watching her try on new clothes is a chore) less protection on his part ("oh you wanna go out? fine stay as late as you want") in other words hes saying NO ONE WILL WANT YOU EXCEPT ME.. as much as you women say you don't like jealous men though, YOU DO LIKE MEN WHO GET JEALOUS OVER YOU sex would rarely if ever happen and here's one of the biggest consequences: i want you to imagine what you would feel like 20 years into a marriage where you look back and realize your guy has never said you were pretty men are not nearly as pretentious as women, men are unassuming.. we are generally more honest than women (imo at least) we say what is real, not just what you want to hear, but what is real... in other words, a woman might say you're pretty just to be nice, a guy generally won't do that.. if your b/f or husband doesn't say you're pretty then you're probably just not pretty to him if a man doesn't think you're pretty you won't get red carpet treatment from him.. don't women want the best treatment? don't they want a man's patience? don't they want some sort of power or leverage? don't they want a strong jealous protection and care? don't they want to be a prized possession/trophy? don't they want to be complimented and caressed and appreciated? no guy wants to f*cking caress a 4 out of 10 i don't care how much money she has or how "smart" she is or how big her heart is.. men want someone we think is gorgeous if men didn't judge women on how they look, and instead judged them on book smarts the world would be a terrible place.. we would not be excited to see you or anything.. it would be like.. "here comes that stupid smart girl again" question: should girls be treated like princesses? if the answer is 'yes' then that means women must be appreciated it just so happens that men appreciate beauty (not ONLY, however it is big to us) so this is why women should be happy to be judged on their looks, because if a man thinks you are a 6 out of 10 then he's not for you.. you don't have to waste your time on him once you meet a guy who thinks you're a 9 or 10 and he makes a fuss over you wearing that backless gown.. chances are he thinks the world of you **get ready for what is possibly the most important part of my argument** women say i'm shallow cuz i judge girls on their looks, but think about this: what if instead of saying "i only want pretty women" i said "i only date ugly women" which one sounds worse to you? if i said "i only date ugly women" you'd assume i do that to control or abuse them, because you already know i don't VALUE them SO HOW ABOUT UNDERSTANDING IM NOT SHALLOW, WHEN I SEARCH FOR SOMEONE I THINK IS BEAUTIFUL I AM DOING WHAT SHOULD BE DONE.. FINDING SOMEONE I CAN APPRECIATE! THIS WAY I CAN SHOWER THEM WITH COMPLIMENTS, TAKE CARE OF THEM, HOLD THEM CLOSE TO MY HEART AND BLESS THEM think about it
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if you are reading this please pray for me to get a good paying job soon
i want to move out of my parents house i am thankful that i graduated college but even though i have that wrapped up, i have to continue to look forward.. not to sound unappreciative of graduation but there is just no laurel resting for me cuz I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE here are the worst things about living with your parents in no particular order -they control the heat and air temperature -you can't have anyone over so you are constantly lonely -when THEY have people over you never want to be around -they are always asking you to do chores and favors -(personal one) my dad sneezes WAY too loud.. i kid you not, it is THE WORST, LOUDEST, and MOST OFFENSIVELY ANNOYING SOUND.. and he let's out this exaggerated "HOO!" yelp after the sneeze every time making it even worse than it already is........... to really understand it.. imagine you just made your morning coffee and you're walking with your mug to another room and out of nowhere someone walks behind you and screams in a megaphone.. its like that.. its just super super annoying to the point where you literally get angry about it -girls don't understand why you live at home.. but girls never live with their parents because of a few reasons 1. they all have jobs coming right out of school because they are in the medical field or the teaching field.. both of which are fairly easy to get jobs in because of the need.. and due to the programs they get training and get paid SIMULTANEOUSLY which is priceless when you have no work experience.. SOME PEOPLE WORK UNPAID INTERNSHIPS FOR EXPERIENCE.. working full time + no money = living with parents (not saying this is me but its just a common scenario for why some people live with their parents) 2. girls without jobs are always shacking up with a guy and living rent free.. well you and i both know that doesn't work the other way around now does it.. i can't depend on a girl for sh*t.. not that i want to, but don't condescend to me for living at home when you live off your boyfriend and you don't even have a job, or you work part-time in a department store.. you have bomb-ass clothes and a great apartment but you are not exactly the 'miss independent' you portray yourself to be -you don't get enough privacy (why is my mail open?) -you get tons and tons of unwanted criticism and unwanted opinions -you can't come and go as you please -can't cook at 2am overall, please just pray for me to get out of here.. i am not perfect so i need all the help i can get.. i just need something steady to get a place and have a better situation.. once i have that then ill pursue a career in my field and save up enough to move out of state but right now i just need to get out lol i really struggle a lot with thoughts of worthlessness i remember in 2010 a girl told me she hates herself i thought that was very weird well the funny thing is, i actually understand that now it is oftentimes a byproduct of rejection when a hard rejection occurs then the inner dialogue begins: "what am i doing wrong?" "why don't they like me?" "i must be unlikable" "i am a terrible person" "i hate myself" i've come to the conclusion that i just have to deal with it.. and by deal with it i mean go about my day regardless of how hollow my heart is i can't use my feelings as a crutch.. i can't just stay in bed and mope even though i want to- i have to get up and make wise decisions for myself despite circumstances a bleeding heart isn't a pleasant thing but... *takes a second to think* i knew i had a song for this so i was watching something on tv and this older woman's brother was killed by someone
she was on tv reflecting on this and she said: "why did this have to happen? why did he have to die this way? my brother was in vietnam, he could've died for a purpose instead" ok i'm not trying to crap on her brother being killed, that is lame.. but with all due sympathy.. that was the dumbest statement ever like what kind of fake made up world do you live in? DO YOU KNOW WHAT VIETNAM ACCOMPLISHED!? NOTHING!!!!!! we killed a few million people over there and basically even broke out in civil unrest over the whole thing stateside after all was said and done, our military eventually just pulled out of the whole thing and nothing was accomplished a waste of time, a waste of money, a waste of resources, a waste of lives.. like wtf man people were being drafted for that bullsh*t being taken from their homes and dropped in foreign countries with guns strapped to their backs like are you retarded? that was one of the DUMBEST statements i've ever heard. "my brother could've died for a purpose IN VIETNAM" IN VIETNAM!? like open your eyes i don't get why people think our country never does anything wrong or never makes mistakes as if everything the u.s. has done throughout history has been for the good of everyone no.. vietnam was b.s. and the people who forced us into it didn't have to lose anything at all.. unfortunately, they appear to think average citizens (especially men) are just disposable look.. i'm going to wrap up with this newsflash: THERE WAS NO PURPOSE TO VIETNAM the fact that you make it to 2013 and don't know that is f*cking mind boggling to not only me, but humanity dying by falling off a rooftop building a house for a poor family is an honorable way to die because you were trying to accomplish something noble vietnam on the other hand was conceived by a lot of american fear, pride, and stubbornness and i'm not devaluing the lives lost in that war.. with all due respect, i am just saying we shouldn't have been there in the first place.. its kinda common knowledge at this point so you're a Christian humanist? do you know what a humanist is? it doesn't say humanitarian, it says HUMANIST as in 'secular humanism' which is essentially the opposite of what a Christian is ALSO... here's what she wrote on her profile: First off, I'm a mother of a two yr old boy who is the sweetest thing (most of the time lol.) He comes first! Secondly, I am a full-time student, majoring in cyber and network security. I live off school loans and scholarships (yes, it can be done!) I love scary movies and believe in a more traditional style of dating. In other words, no Friends with benefits or f### buddies and no sex on the first date. WHAT THE F*CK IS "TRADITIONAL" ABOUT YOU HAVING A CHILD OUT OF WEDLOCK? you say you want to date traditionally? really? nothing about YOUR behavior is traditional but you want a guy to be "traditional" with you right like wtf is this about and "no sex on the first date" ? lol.. wouldn't traditional be "no sex before marriage"?? trust me a guy will buy you dinner twice for second date dessert if you know what i mean you're going to have to do better than that for standards if you want true commitment someone is confused. i'd tell you not to procreate but its too late. really? you're really going to write "looking for my one and only" and capitalize "only" ??? with your three kids in the picture with you? really? if i got with you i'd be a lot of things.. like "FATHER" for example, or "next on your conveyor belt of men" ..but your "ONLY" is NOT something i'd be checkmate. i want to talk a little bit about the dichotomy of desire
here it is. bad things often come with good things good things often come with bad things it is up to you to deal with the bad that comes with the good of your desire i learned this on a personal level recently i will give an example that closely mirrors my experience ok as a man a lot of times you want to be depended upon.. you want to be there for a girl and make her life easier and better.. it makes you feel good like you're being a help or like you're inextricable or like you provide something very important to the situation/relationship well i've noticed one negative aspect of being a full-on hero and dependable person is a lot of times people begin to ask you to do things when you aren't in the mood or when its not convenient for you.. "take me here" "mow the lawn" "pay for this" blah blah blah... its the negative side to being the "rock" in the relationship or family.. on one hand you have the privilege of being there for people, you aren't left out of things, people trust you, you are respected and you can lead but the top leader is the top server so when it becomes overwhelming then what? what do you do when the payoff no longer feels like it is worth the effort? STOP. take a breath. try to remember what is important.. don't make any rash decisions.. think on the situation and pray.. be patient.. wait it out you will likely be tempted to go off on someone, have a bad attitude, cheat on your spouse, give silent treatment, or something else that will come off as negative and break the trust you've worked so hard to build calm down, ask God to help you through this trying time.. thank Him for the situation you're in because remember.. this is the dichotomy of desire YOU WANTED THIS a man wants to be the hero and wants to be depended upon, so when he is depended upon to the point of being stretched too thin, he should remember that this is overall GOOD.. it may be overwhelming right now, but imagine if no one wanted you around.. you will see sometimes that you have good problems or the problems of someone who is very blessed you have to try to be mature about the situation you asked for for example a lot of people say "i want to be in showbiz" but they don't realize they are also saying "i want to be judged by my looks" you see what i'm saying? you ask for more than you realize sometimes, so you have to try to handle it the best way possible once you get it.. realize it may take some adjustment some people say "i want to go back to school" but they don't realize they are also saying "i want to do boring homework on saturday nights" look at marriage.. many people have the desire to be married, have companionship, be right before God, be respected among peers etc.. they want those positives that come with marriage but what people don't realize is there is a negative side as well you have to make up your mind to meet the challenges head on because overall you are blessed there may be some discomfort somewhere in your situation such as: "my wife is too needy" "my husband is boring" but OVERALL.. your situation is something you wanted and something that (i imagine in most cases) still leaves you better off than if you weren't in that scenario so are you going to throw the baby out with the bathwater? are you going to throw a fit when your husband says he doesn't want to go out because he'd rather play his new video game? are you going to flirt with the babysitter when your wife stops wearing makeup and gains 30 pounds? or are you going to hold on, remain committed, and work on what the problems are? are you going to be weak or strong? are you going to honor your vows or break them? and its not just marriage either.. in ANY arena there may be some negatives to things that are overall positive can you keep your eyes on the prize? can you stay focused on what is important overall, or will that nagging negative thing destroy something that is more significant? these moments in life are more than likely a test i'm givin out study sheets brah good luck i've noticed there are a few diff ways to look at racism
here are two that i've seen 1. they don't like me so i'll act however i want to act because i can't (and its not my responsibility to) change their opinion of me and my race 2. i want to appear pleasant so that i don't give them a reason to dislike me or my race any more than than they already do i'm not saying choose a side, i'm saying be aware of which of these stances you might be choosing and why there may be other options but those two are what i thought of also these approaches may possibly apply to more than just racism btw: i became aware of these diff outlooks one day when a younger black man who was apparently type #1 was telling me about an "irritating" older black man who fit the description of type #2 it occurred to me that they had different ways of approaching the situation it appears to me that sociology is involved i wanted to do another post on plenty of fish so here it is i split girls up into a few categories this took me like 5 seconds to make.. here are the categories: (note: pictures and profile quotes are all real, taken from plentyoffish.com on today's date) 1. ugly self explanatory ugly is offensive to men in the same way laziness appears to be offensive to women in both cases (not all the time, but sometimes) its something you can change men who have no money can AND SHOULD get jobs and money and independence women who are too fat can AND SHOULD lose weight etc. the cool thing about ugly girls though is they normally are down to earth and nice and somewhat logical 2. kids a lot of times i think these women should be with their child's father.. sometimes i also think there's no territory left to 'conquer' or even merely just 'enjoy' with them.. think about it.. already got had kids, already been married, already did this, already did that.. its just not appealing also i don't know if her child's father is crazy or if she's still having sex with him (i wouldn't put it past her) the list honestly goes on and on with this issue there is nothing about this^ picture that makes a man say "oh sh*t i'm about to message her!" LOL 3. overachievers every picture is like a glamour shot also the profile is very like.. "i have these degrees and this job and i'm on this level blah blah blah" the word for these women is this - UNAPPROACHABLE if you are so perfect, why are you on a dating site these girls either have too much pride or too much insecurity masquerading itself as pride all pictures, fully clothed, full makeup.. and hands on hips in two out of three pictures.. it signifies attitude as if to say "you can't tell me anything" .. this gesture can appear defiant at times, similar to rolling your eyes
this is unapproachable because you look like you are waiting to show or express some type of disapproval.. you look like you are possibly condescending or like you have a wall up here is what this girl said on her "about me" I strive for greatness on a daily basis and I like to surround myself with people who do the same. The people you surround yourself with can either motivate you or bring you down. I work hard (probably too hard) and my job requires that I travel ALOT. It's hard to meet new people in a new city when you are never there. unapproachable overachiever^.. in the flesh.. you're inviting men to occupy the role of 'second place' in your life 4. emotionally unavailable these women normally look a bit unhappy in their pictures.. they just got out of a long relationship or divorce and they will either use you as an emotional tampon or they will sabotage whatever decent relationship you do happen to build with them a lot of times what you see on their profile will be something like "i'm not looking for anything but friends right now" or "not looking for anything serious" she's saying "you can take me out and make me feel better" as a man you might be wondering.. "what's in it for me?" NOTHING. |
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