she deserves a huge THANK YOU for saying this and posting this.. this is a breakthrough video which i think is why it has some audio issues.. trust- the enemy DOES NOT want this message to get to women bravo to her for saying this im hoping this will be the last video I upload on this topic.. but this one was one of the main videos I listened to during my last relationship that opened my eyes.. according to this one- she would have fallen under the borderline category.. the borderline description starts at 4:20.. I told my ex she was jeckyl and hyde multiple times but I don't think she knew what that even meant.. anyway.. peep if u want, I am just posting this because its cathartic for a brotha.. she definitely fell under his borderline description no question... I have very little tolerance for women acting in these ways at this point one pet-peeve of mine is when people say they faked it during sex, or they fake moaned, or they say porn isn't real, or they say sex scenes in movies don't bother that person's spouse
i feel all of these are a form of denial and they are outright absurd ok let me break some of these down saying u faked it during sex meaning you faked an orgasm or you fake moaned is so ridiculous to me because you actually did the actions.. u went through the motions you made your partner more aroused, you actually acted like you orgasmed and you actually let out a sound of pleasure now when u say you "faked it" what you're actually saying is you did these things for a reason different than what was expected... but my point is YOU STILL DID THEM why are you fooling yourself saying "i totally faked it?" what does that matter? how do u "fake moan?" you moaned, your reason for moaning doesn't change ANYTHING then people say porn isn't real.. what does that mean? how is it fake? what you're truly saying is you only did it for money, or it wasn't as enjoyable as relationship sex... BUT THE SEX WAS STILL REAL saying porn is a fantasy is such a joke.. there is nothing fake about what you're doing that's like me punching you in the face and saying "that was totally fake" as if that changes the fact that i punched you in the face when it comes to people doing simulated sex in movie scenes... all that crap people say about "we're all adults, this doesn't bother my spouse because we're all professional" is DAMAGE CONTROL the fact is- your spouse doesn't want to watch that part in the movie now do they? what does that tell you? i hate the denial people are in concerning these types of things.. so you can just put your tongue down someone's throat and it "doesn't count" because you had cameras and lights around you right? so you can simulate the most intimate act a person can possibly do with another human being and that's just business as usual right? i HATE this type of stuff.. anything involving sex, just keep it real about what's going on- stop with the damage control Did I ever tell the story about the reese’s on here?
I feel like I shared this already.. if I did, someone please leave a comment and let me know One day my ex g/f said she wanted a peanut butter cup really bad but we were just at her house or something so there was no access to one So the next time she came to my house I had a reese’s waiting for her.. it wasn’t like a big deal or anything, it was just a small thing I did I gave it to her and I was like I know u said u wanted a reese’s the other day so I got this one when I was at the store She was like me? I said that? I was like yeah the other day, you said you were craving them She was like me? I don’t think I would say that, I don’t even like reese’s like that, I think you’re imagining things.. do you really even know me? This threw me WAY OFF I didn’t know how to respond because I was expecting like a “thanks that was thoughtful” but here I was being actually dissed for this gesture.. I didn’t understand where this was coming from at all and I’m fairly humble so I actually almost started to think “hey maybe I heard her wrong” but I didn’t actually believe I got it wrong, but at the same time I didn’t see why she would lie so I just decided to put it out of my mind altogether So fastforward to when she leaves my house.. the reese’s was in the same spot the whole time she was there, but when I looked up after she left- it was gone after she made me feel like she didn’t even like them and only ate them once in a blue moon or whatever stupid thing she said.. she took it with her and made sure that whenever she took it- I didn’t see her take it I knew when I looked and saw that it was gone that I was right- she really did say she wanted it.. but she just wanted to give me a hard time and also find a way to not say thank you I am not sure if you guys understand how something like this makes u feel because it sounds small but its not.. its “crazy-making” ..keep in mind I just wanted to do something nice and this is what I got for it It would be like if I said “I want air jordans for my birthday” and then someone buys them for me and I say “I didn’t want air jordans you always get everything wrong” then I take the box and just go home Its confusing and hurtful and that was an example of when she gaslit me.. she gaslit me a lot looking back (if u don’t know what gaslighting is, look it up) She would do that to me and I would get upset and she always acted like she didn’t understand why I was upset That’s another thing narcissist’s do- they will push you until you react and when u react they say “See! You’re a maniac!” when in reality they pushed your buttons for like hours or days I don’t know why she used to give me a hard time on things.. like I don’t understand what she got out of it.. sometimes when I’d bring up something she did after the fact, she would smile and say something like “I just felt like being a b*tch” And I would sometimes be thinking in my head “I was literally about to break up with you over that and now you say the whole thing was a joke to you” I just have to continue to thank the Lord for getting me out of that stupid relationship Anyone reading this, please pray for me to not be bitter about that stupid relationship because I still get memories and sometimes they try to take root in the form of bitterness Thanks peeps this is the missing link for me
this video answered a lot of questions for me.. it wiped away a lot of the confusion i had concerning women i can now see that women do stupid things to us to see how we will respond because they think if we show emotions then they can control us and we are weak.. but if we are unaffected then in their eyes we are strong and they can trust us this is something i have really struggled with.. like i was racking my brain trying to figure out why women did certain things and this short video has exponentially increased my understanding why couldn't a woman ever just tell me this flat out? like "james, i'm acting like a complete idiot to gauge your emotional response" this explains so much.. sometimes women are really playing a game with u that ur not aware of.. it explains why women always hide their emotions- because they must think we view them the way they view us.. they think that being stoic makes them look better in our eyes when it really makes them look way worse.. the same way we look bad to them when we lose our cool.. it also shows me that women are legit trying to make sure they are in the passenger seat of your life and not the driver's seat.. they legit want to know they have little to no effect on you.. to them that is strength, when no matter what they do- u are unbothered and still progressing in life I have explained a lot of the crap that went along with my last relationship but today I would like to express what I feel is a positive that came from it
When I say this is positive, I don’t want anyone to get the wrong idea and think that I am happy that I went through that relationship.. I am just saying- here is the good despite that awful relationship The good thing is I have realized I have my own standards Prior to this relationship I felt more like “what can I do to get a girl to like me?” or “what can I do to show her that I care?” or “what can I do to get a woman to take me seriously?” However, now I have found the ability to flip that and ask “what is she doing for me?” “what is she bringing to the table?” “is she worth my time?” This experience has led me to realize I have my own personal standards.. its not always about a woman’s standards.. sometimes its about what I think and what I want and I don’t have to make apologies for it Like if I say I want someone who is at least an 8 out of 10 to me then so be it, I don’t have to run off and cower in a corner because someone tells me I shouldn’t have that as a standard, or I’m shallow If I say I want someone with a big booty then I can dismiss flat booty women and let that be that If I want a virgin then I can have that standard and own it without feeling like people will diss me or feeling like I will never find it or like I should just give up on that and settle for another former whore Overall I no longer feel the need to justify any action of mine Whatever I want to do is what I want to do and I don’t have to listen to anyone else or hear any outside opinions.. the primary reason why I have had this shift is because my ex g/f argued with me about everything and now having that out of my life and looking back on it with 20/20 lenses, I realize I subjected myself to that when I didn’t have to If anyone wants to disagree then that is fine, I’m not really lonely or anything so I don’t have to chase people around and beg them to be cool with me.. i don't have to campaign for approval If a person wants to leave my life because of my thoughts or actions then they can do that, I’m just not going to bend anymore to appease anyone If a woman tries any of the stupid stuff my ex did- like the time she didn’t sit next to me at church, then she can catch an uber home I was always trying to make things work but despite all of my trying- her and I aren’t together.. so I figure let’s just cut out the middle man of patience and the first time you do something I don’t like, you can get up out of my face So overall, through that relationship I have realized that its not just women who have standards.. I have standards too and if they are not met, I can be alone with my playstation and gym membership or find someone else.. no matter what a woman looks like, I will leave a skank on the interstate at this point in my life I make ZERO apologies for who I am and what I want So this is the good thing I have gotten from that rotten situation Iron resolve and an unapologetic intent |
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December 2017
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