I have explained a lot of the crap that went along with my last relationship but today I would like to express what I feel is a positive that came from it
When I say this is positive, I don’t want anyone to get the wrong idea and think that I am happy that I went through that relationship.. I am just saying- here is the good despite that awful relationship The good thing is I have realized I have my own standards Prior to this relationship I felt more like “what can I do to get a girl to like me?” or “what can I do to show her that I care?” or “what can I do to get a woman to take me seriously?” However, now I have found the ability to flip that and ask “what is she doing for me?” “what is she bringing to the table?” “is she worth my time?” This experience has led me to realize I have my own personal standards.. its not always about a woman’s standards.. sometimes its about what I think and what I want and I don’t have to make apologies for it Like if I say I want someone who is at least an 8 out of 10 to me then so be it, I don’t have to run off and cower in a corner because someone tells me I shouldn’t have that as a standard, or I’m shallow If I say I want someone with a big booty then I can dismiss flat booty women and let that be that If I want a virgin then I can have that standard and own it without feeling like people will diss me or feeling like I will never find it or like I should just give up on that and settle for another former whore Overall I no longer feel the need to justify any action of mine Whatever I want to do is what I want to do and I don’t have to listen to anyone else or hear any outside opinions.. the primary reason why I have had this shift is because my ex g/f argued with me about everything and now having that out of my life and looking back on it with 20/20 lenses, I realize I subjected myself to that when I didn’t have to If anyone wants to disagree then that is fine, I’m not really lonely or anything so I don’t have to chase people around and beg them to be cool with me.. i don't have to campaign for approval If a person wants to leave my life because of my thoughts or actions then they can do that, I’m just not going to bend anymore to appease anyone If a woman tries any of the stupid stuff my ex did- like the time she didn’t sit next to me at church, then she can catch an uber home I was always trying to make things work but despite all of my trying- her and I aren’t together.. so I figure let’s just cut out the middle man of patience and the first time you do something I don’t like, you can get up out of my face So overall, through that relationship I have realized that its not just women who have standards.. I have standards too and if they are not met, I can be alone with my playstation and gym membership or find someone else.. no matter what a woman looks like, I will leave a skank on the interstate at this point in my life I make ZERO apologies for who I am and what I want So this is the good thing I have gotten from that rotten situation Iron resolve and an unapologetic intent
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