ok lets go into the double standards
we need to look at them correctly.. double standards are here for a reason.. people always say "why is it ok for men to be hoes but not women?" but lets look at a double standard for men.. unemployed married woman = trohpy wife.. unemployed married man = BUM lets be real, double standards are not a one-way street.. they are there because we all have expectations placed upon us due to gender and age.. they represent proper behavior for whatever category we fall into should women be hoes? NO should men be bums? NO and you could say the same for both genders, but the honest truth is female bums are not as bad as male bums and male hoes are not as bad as female hoes, because of the dynamics in place there are also double standards for age groups a 6 yr old boy plays with action figures and video games all day.. fine a 36 yr old man plays with action figures and video games all day.. not fine its a double standard but its proper is it not? double standards are here to bring out the best for each alotted category of person.. male, female, age groups, etc etc. NOW with that said, let me explain why its better for men to cheat than women.. i'm not saying its ok for men to cheat.. i'm saying, its better if its a man than if its a woman reason #1. women are hurt less by cheating. women say weird things when they are cheated on that men would never say .. like a woman would say something like "oh did it feel good?" "was it good to you?" a man would never say that to a woman who cheated on him because any "yes" type of reply would crush him i even personally had a girl ask me: "did any other girls kiss you as good as me?" i couldn't believe she asked me that because i would never ask her that because anything remotely resembling a "yes" would be too much for me.. as a man, i couldn't believe she asked me that, but that's what i'm saying.. its a woman thing.. they handle cheating differently than men do reason #2. when women cheat it seems to be like more than just a physical thing.. its like one of two things A. her main guy is failing at something.. or B. the guy she is with is better at something men on the other hand, can have the perfect girl at home and still cheat! we can know in our hearts that the girl is 100% for us in every way but we still want to try out another girl "just because" i mean she can be considerably uglier and more ratchet than our current girl, but we will still cheat with her.. so my point is this: when a girl cheats its more like a reflection of her main guy's drawbacks but when a guy cheats a guy might've just wanted to try ratchet booty .. it doesn't reflect his main girl's drawbacks.. so its less of an ego blow to the main spouse when guys cheat, than when girls cheat reason #3. this is the reason no one can fight me on my sister cheated on her husband.. and one day i was talking to her about it and in reflection when everything was all said and done she said: "i cheated, and i wish it had been done to me instead of me doing it to him" i can't remember, but she might've been crying when she said that so u have to understand.. i'm not just talking out of my @ss.. women are not built to handle guilt and shame and stuff the same way men are if a man does wrong, he can get on his knees and say he's sorry and take his girl out to dinner and just be like "babe i messed up" but when u flip it around.. women aren't built to handle that space the same way a man is.. women are supposed to be a man's "prize" so when the prize brings shame.. its a totally diff thing she sees a lot of her value in how her man sees her.. so if he sees her as dirty whore scum.. guess what.. its hard to come back from that.. women can't handle that position the same way a man can.. we men can be guilty and apologize and get cussed out and still be ok.. i'm actually even reminded of a song by incubus brandon boyd wrote: "say what you will, say what you mean.. you could never offend- your dirty words come out clean" .. "let your frustrations out in four-letter words" etc etc however if you flip that, and a man cusses his girl out and straight tells her about herself (the way you'd do if you've just been cheated on) she's going to be distraught and f*cked up and people are going to say he's verbally abusing her the dynamic is just way different conclusion: i think i can come up with other reasons, but i want to stop writing lol.. but what i want to say is the dynamics are what make cheating worse for women than for men I DO NOT CONDONE MEN CHEATING ON WOMEN i am just saying, when its all said and done.. there's more harm done (for both sides) when women cheat on good men than when men cheat on good women
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