right now i like levi's and american rag for menswear
they have a lot of good stuff stuff that fits well
good material, modern items with a classic twist (or vice versa)
if anyone is looking to get a gift of clothing for a guy, maybe try one of those they have some good stuff
just wanted to put that out there.. peep their websites and u will see what i'm talking about
i like it when i find good brands because they eliminate a lot of shopping around.. i can just go to a store or website and get what i need without hunting for 10 days
why do women like men who don't like them?
the other day at work a girl sat by me to shadow and i was cool with that but then the gay guy started talking about drag queens and so the girl who sat by me said something like "i want to be a drag queen"
i can't remember her exact quote, but she was saying how she loves drag queens and wants to do it too
when she said this i stopped talking to her and started ignoring her altogether in hope that she would just go somewhere else because at that point i was thinking
a. did you mean drag king? like are u saying u want to dress up like a man? wtf man
b. if you didn't mean drag king.. does that mean you are already a man?
c. you just said you're christian so however you meant that statement- why do u like drag queens so much?
so then i started thinking about how she said she was on anti-depressants a few hours prior in conversation
then i noticed her eyebrows were cut off and drawn back on
then i noticed her tattoos
so i just started ignoring her altogether on purpose
instead of working and engaging her in conversation i just started working like she wasn't there, and i was giving her one word answers when she would talk.. just hoping she would get away from me
so she finally got away from me and i was thinking.. this is awesome.. go sit by someone else and tell them about your drag queen aspirations cuz i don't have time for it
so then the next day she sat by me again.. then something came up and she had to move so i was like "whew"
then later on someone asked her "when are you leaving tonight?" and she said "i'm leaving when james leaves"
i was thinking... "where did that come from?" i mean you said that as if we came here together or something
so then after that at some point i decided to just pick her brain a bit and i said "what are you doing this weekend?" <---this was literally all i said.. like there was no previous conversation at all
she said "i don't know.. do you want to go to dinner?"
at first i was thinking... F*CK NO! YOU'RE PROBABLY A MAN!
but i remembered she said something about having had a miscarriage so that ruled that out
so i was like.. umm... i'm gnna be kinda busy but put ur number in my phone
then i went up to my friend jason and i was like "did you hear that?" he's like yeah.. and i made a face and he was like "don't look a gift horse in the mouth" LMAO nashville logic i guess
SO... with all that said
WHY DO WOMEN LIKE MEN WHO ARE CLEARLY UNINTERESTED IN THEM?
can someone explain this to me?
i was LITERALLY trying to sort of turn my back to her and give off a vibe like.. "go away" but it seems like it just made her more interested
and i can think of at least 2 other times off the top of my head where that has happened before
so someone PLEASE explain to me why girls run away from guys who are interested and run toward guys who clearly see them as an annoyance
someone please explain this to me seriously.. i feel like if this is reality then i don't know what to do.. how do u approach someone if everything nice you do is punished and every mean thing you do is rewarded?
like seriously someone reading this please comment.. I SERIOUSLY WANT TO KNOW
what am i not understanding here?
in dealing with my apartment about a month ago i went in the office and asked for the form to break my lease
they were like why are you breaking it so soon?
i was like "there are holes in the floor.. and a bunch of other things that i wrote down on the inspection sheet"
they were like oh really? well how about we fix it for you... would you still want to break the lease?
i said yes.. so they decided not to fix the problem
my whole problem with that interaction was a very clear lack of integrity from my apartment complex
1. you inspect apartments before new tenants arrive so why didn't you fix the holes and the other issues prior to me coming in?
2. why is fixing a problem being used as a bargaining chip? like wouldn't it have made sense for her to say "we will fix that for you (and for the next tenant) whether you leave or not"
but the whole thing got me thinking about how women see us men
when they meet us, they probably see me the way i see my apartment complex
i know my apartment wants money, and in exchange for my money they should know i expect a decent place to live.. if i give my money and don't get a decent place to live, that's a problem
so women are looking at us men like.. "i know he wants a good woman, so in exchange for me he should know i expect a few things.. dress decent, have a job, have stability, have a car, have some college or a trade or something maybe.. but if he doesn't have these things but he still is trying to keep me, then that's a problem"
even though the apartment tried to use fixing my apartment as a bargaining chip, i saw that as a very sort of low class thing to do because they should have had enough integrity to fix the problem without me promising to stay
and that's probably how women look at us men.. like say a guy meets a girl and over time the girl realizes "hey you don't have 6-pack abs" or "hey you don't have a masters degree" or "hey you don't make $80,000, you make $35,000" then the guy may say "hey don't go! if you promise to stay then i'll go back to the gym!" or "if you stay i'll go back to college!"
the girl is like.. "you idiot.. you should be able to do that without me promising you anything.. the problem is not about whether i go or stay, the problem lies in your own complete lack of energy, ambition, and/or integrity about yourself... GOODBYE!"
why would a girl want to be with a guy who is that needy and weak? she wants a man who has integrity who does right regardless.. not someone who hinges their actions or lack thereof on a woman's responses
what do u guys think? am i speaking the truth?
i think this is a sound lesson that i have learned here
so i want to try harder to show that i have a personal integrity without having to be thrown a bone first.. a girl shouldn't have to ask me to be on point or on my A-game in life.. the best version of me should exist preeminently
it might take a little time for me to perfect these ideas but i'm thankful for that lesson.. i feel like through that whole apartment situation, i can understand women a little more
do i have any readers?
if so i (somewhat) apologize for not writing much lately
i am a bit scatterbrained.. its just something that happens when you're trying to get your life together and/or make sense of your life
anyway.. i actually do have a few things i would like to tell u peeps.. but not right now because i am wanting to lay down instead
but i will say i am thinking about driving up to dickson, tn to meet this girl.. she is cute, i'm thinking about just trying to go meet her.. she is everything i like.. believes in God, big booty.. pretty face, and older than me
i have been talking to her a little but my life has been so crazy that i haven't been able to go see her
my friend josh mcintosh called me the other day.. it was great hearing from him, he was my best homie from about 1996 until i left michigan.. i always have a special place for him because i was at a new school where i was the only black male, and he was the first person to talk to me.. we had groups in class one day and literally he was like do u have a partner? i was like no and he was like cool i'll partner with u.. and from then on we were cool.. i will never forget that because like i said i was the new kid and "the black guy" so it was good to meet someone who still accepted me
like i said, i'm gnna try to tell u guys more stuff.. hopefully this weekend?
oh btw.. tonight i went to my parents house to make my lunch for the week.. i made it at their house instead of mine so i could use their plastic bags
as soon as i got the food out... guess who came in the kitchen
WITH THAT DAMN GREEK YOGURT CUP!!!!!!
this story is not important at all, i just felt like writing it.. so skip if you want
my family is from ohio.. i was born in ohio, raised in michigan, and i've lived in tennessee since i was like 15 or so
sometimes my family from ohio comes to visit us in tennessee
one time a long time ago they came to visit us and we went to thoroughbred 20 in franklin
when we got there my cousin chelsea got real hype in the parking lot.. we were like what's going on?
she was like "that's wynona judd!"
we were still like.. "what's goin on?" LMAO
for some reason she liked country music.. lol no one else in our family liked country except her.. she always liked country music as a kid.. i remember one time i went to her house and she was doin that country dance where you hold hands and go around in a circle with her friend.. i was like wtf? lol
so she ran up to wynona and asked for a picture or autograph or something and i remember wynona was pretty nice to her.. like she wasn't annoyed or anything she seemed happy to see a fan i guess, so she was cool.. and then we all went in and watched movies
i don't know if chelsea still likes country or not.. last time i saw her she was saying she likes kendrick lamar
we were always taught work before play
but have you ever met a person who refuses to leave their work to "come up for air" and see what (or who) is around them?
is work before play actually a smart way to live?
or is it a good way to miss out on opportunities and people?
maybe we should play during work from time to time? "play" being: look around, spend time with people, talk about things, go out, spend some money, etc
maybe you are focused on school and someone says "do you want to hang out?" and you say no because you have to study...
but what if something interesting were to come of the "hang out" ?
do you guys think we as people should be about our business first and foremost?
or do you think we should keep people at the forefront and try to do more even when we are pressed for time and money?
what do you guys think?
how do you balance wanting to do things on your own terms with keeping your friends and family appeased?
do the rules change if you are male or female?
do the rules change based on age?
i am a 29yr old male
so what do you guys think i should be doing? should i give the cold shoulder to people and give my life 100% of the attention?
or should i shirk some responsibilities here and there to make time for dating and spending time with friends/family?
where is the balance?
one thing about my life i've noticed is everything seems to be in order.. even when things are out of order they're still in order
what i mean is everything has come in a "proper" sequence
car, college, job, etc
right now i am still working on getting situated in a place to live.. i don't like my current place and would like to find something a bit more livable
once i get that situated (based on the pattern of my life) i will probably meet a girl
one crazy thing about my life is i graduated high school in 2002, then i went straight to college but i flunked out so instead of graduating in 2006, i graduated in 2013
that's a 7 yr gap.. in other words its like i could've been where i am right now 7 yrs ago had i kept things together back then
it wasn't that i didn't want to work, it was more that my attention was divided between music, women, work, and college... i guess today the difference is, i sort of keep women and music on the back burner while back in the past i put work and college on the back burner.. somewhere in that 7 yr period i realized music wasn't really paying off and women can be fickle
anyway.. one thing i kinda like about things being in "order" is the fact that if everything in your life comes in an orderly fashion then things should technically just get better and better
but if the order is flipped and there is too much good too soon, how do you handle it?
look at some of the child actors.. i mean if your best years are behind you by the time you're 20 then what exactly do you have to look forward to?
but regardless of the order of your life there still seems to be a struggle to contend with
the struggle of "order" is.. "how long do i have to wait?" ..like say you are wanting to be married but you can't find anyone
the struggle of disorder is "how do i keep this together?" .. like say you had a child prior to getting a job
do you guys think "order" matters?
or is it just a social norm type of thing
is car, college, job, mate, child the magic way?
or is a sequence like: child, job, car, mate, college just as good?
just a few thoughts
what do u peeps think of robin williams?
i know too much to actually readily believe everything the media tells us
don't get me wrong, he might have killed himself, but then there's weird things like this thread i ran across like 3 days before he died
^was that person clued in to who was "next" ?
anyway.. if he was killed like brittany murphy and heath ledger then that sucks
if he killed himself, that sucks too
on somewhat of a different note.. i don't get how a rich person could commit suicide.. for the most part, if you're rich you're going to want to exist as long as possible right?
people say "money doesn't matter" .....i see what they're saying.. they're saying some circumstances make money look wildly unimportant.. but in 70% of situations.. money matters...... but i WILL say money sucks if you don't have self discipline, and in such a case- you'd be better off without it
anyway.. i have nothing to say here.. just wanted to talk on that for a second