i am getting a mixed message from women
they say they want you to love them and they want to be important to you.. they want to mean a lot to you.. they want their presence to be missed.. they want to affect your decisions.. they want you to care for them over other things however there is another place where it seems like women want to be in a lesser place in your life.. a lot of times it seems like if you do things to please them, they feel like you're not a leader.. they'll sometimes say things like "i don't want that kind of power" or "i don't want to be his whole life" or they will say "he does whatever i tell him to" and they will see that as a negative so which is it.. do women want to be number one in a man's life, or do they want to be relegated to a place where they are considered to be fairly easily replaceable? a girl will one day say "why are you spending so much time with your friends" but on the other hand she will also say "i don't want to be your whole life, you don't need to be up under me every moment" SO WHICH IS IT me personally.. i lean toward giving a woman a very important place in my life.. that's what i naturally WANT to do.. but if they're going to see that and say i'm weak and emasculate me and use it against me then i am going to show them another side and they probably won't like it
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dlux
3/6/2014 01:54:23 pm
I think women are indecisive overall on what role they wanna play or have a man play. personally I believe a woman's innate desire is to be protected (on many levels) but social norms now also create a contradictory desire to control. I can't imagine how confusing that'd be not figuring out the happy medium wit females can be...I think another side is for so many females not havin decent male role models to show what a man is "supposed" to do. they've nothing to compare it to. idk...definitely would take some honest conversations to flesh out expectations and desires on a practical level...like "Susie, what does this look like to u?" lol messed up it is
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jaims
3/7/2014 04:05:10 am
yeah ur right.. i think women resent love and trust that they feel they haven't earned
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