one thing i want to get off my chest is this:
sometimes i will tell a person about a negative situation with a girl and sometimes they say to me- "you're choosing the wrong people"
my problem with this statement is how am i supposed to know what type of person i'm dealing with?
it seems to me like you are blaming the victim here
if i spend time with a girl and i find out she is emotionally unavailable, someone will say "you need to find out what makes you choose emotionally unavailable women"
smh.. how was i supposed to know what she was like in the first place?
when you say "you need to find out why you choose ____ " its like saying you think i passed by a table full of women with signs on their faces and i chose the worst one
the fact is, you meet a person and then starts the process of unlayering who they are
some weird habit, skeleton, quirk, secret, weakness, or issue is bound to come out at some point
i am sorry but i can't see inside a person's brain
next time i come home from a bad date i don't want to hear anyone saying "you choose the wrong women" because all you're doing is blaming the victim
if i date a girl and i find out she is crazy then that's just what it is, i found out she was crazy.. i didn't just see "crazy" written on her face and choose to proceed
does anyone have anything to say about this topic?
i would like to understand why people keep telling me i choose the wrong women, because as it stands.. right now it makes no sense to me
i could see if i was meeting women in strip clubs, but i'm not so.... yeah