i feel that love is primarily made up of two things.. two sides
the first side is the very simple aspects of love such as adoration, admiration, enjoyment, the appealing nature of the thing you love.. it is very simple and pleasant to you the second side is the testing of your love.. do you love a person or thing enough to "blank" ..love generally will take you somewhere.. are you willing to withstand the bumps in the road? .. chances are, at some point your loyalty will be questioned and how you respond will show a lot about who you are, how much you want something, and your intentions the first factor is not really based on choice- it is sort of based on wants/needs/desires which can be altered over time but mostly it is like the same reason why a person prefers red over yellow.. there is no true explanation for such the second factor is based on choice.. this explains why it is good to know both what you want as well as what you will do with it when it is received (the less time spent 'on the fence' the less time wasted) i suppose another factor in love would be deciding what to do when who you love does not love you back you have to ask, do i love "blank" ? if the answer is no you should probably find the one you DO love if the answer is yes you should pursue and decide early to withstand what it will take to get this person (or even object) to love you back (or work for you) and also decide early on what you will do if things do not go as you would like them to this way- everything is about what you do with situations as opposed to what situations do to you we have to ask ourselves.. are we defined by what a person we love thinks of us? or do we define ourselves? to detach oneself from the thoughts/opinions/values of another is to accept we might be alone.. there is no safety net but it is also to take control of oneself and ones emotions it is also to understand that the underlying source of what you seek is not a person, or job, or any specific thing- the source of what we want/need is God Himself meaning limits do not actually exist and hope is infinite ask yourself- are you above or beneath the approval/disapproval of the person/thing you love most? if you are beneath- what does that subject you to? if you are above, what does that free you to become? the other day i noticed a girl at my job loves my affection toward her.. because when i offhand said something about wanting a latte- she handed me a fist full of dollars she is on my good side and somehow wants to solidify her place there by giving to me.. she is subject to being taken advantage of this way.. however i told her i can't take her money so ask yourself.. is approval a need? do you see a person or thing as a source or is God the source? who are you? whether circumstances are good or bad, who are you?
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