i want to talk about "breaks" in relationships a bit
i think a break should be a time to get some space to think.. its hard to know up from down when you are so close to someone/something have you ever heard an artist say.. "i've been working so hard on this for so long that i don't know what to think of it anymore" ? they sometimes need a fresh opinion or fresh perspective so they ask a friend what they think or they take a break and come back to it i think when it comes to relationships, the theory is "absence makes the heart grow fonder" or "familiarity breeds contempt" HOWEVER. the problem with taking a break in the context of a relationship is that is a person as opposed to an object or project, so they may be thinking something way different than what you are thinking they may feel like you are playing with their emotions and there may be a serious anger/bitterness there so when ur done with the break.. you will likely A. not get the person back or B. get them back but they won't be the same i took a break with a girl i cared a lot about but she went and got married and i'm over it or whatever but i definitely would never take a break in a relationship in the future in the future it will have to be "off" or "on" and that's it.. no inbetween so at the end of the day you have to know what you want and why and be able to withstand the times when it is negative these are just my thoughts on a break in a relationship.. i don't think they are always done with some sort of malicious intent, but doing it will likely result in a negative outcome
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dlux
1/9/2014 12:29:26 pm
I can definitely agree with this...especially at this point in my life. before it may have been "doable" but I do think it's healthier to deal with whatever the issue is, as a couple--or go separate ways. you are right, the one who didn't come up with the idea may be emotionally guarded after the break...and, if marriage is an ultimate goal for someone, it's good training to be accustomed to "sticking it out." granted, there's exceptions to every rule but I felt what u were saying here.
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pool boy
1/9/2014 12:59:13 pm
thenks.. it takes a certain maturity to know what you want, why you want it, and what you want to do with it
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