The following information was taken from Wikipedia under “psychological manipulation”
It popped up when I searched “emotional manipulation” The reason I searched it is because I feel I have been lied to and manipulated and emotionally abused by someone (for the last time) Ok so here it is: According to George K. Simon, successful psychological manipulation primarily involves the manipulator:
Here is another interesting segment that COMPLETELY mirrors my experience According to Robert D. Hare and Paul Babiak, psychopaths are always on the lookout for individuals to scam or swindle. The psychopathic approach includes three phases: SIDENOTE FROM ME before we continue: I know this uses the word “psychopaths” please keep in mind that psychopaths, sociopaths, and manipulators can almost be used interchangeably.. think along the lines of people who find ways to take advantage of, or use others for their own desires.. the main difference between each is probably only the METHOD they use to achieve their goal.. ultimately these people are selfish and negatively and/or deceptively persuasive…. Ok back to the three phases… 1. Assessment phase The psychopath is constantly sizing up the potential usefulness of an individual as a source of money, power, sex, romantic relationship, or influence. Some psychopaths enjoy a challenge while others prey on people who are vulnerable. During the assessment phase, the psychopath is able to determine a potential victim’s weak points and will use those weak points to seduce. 2. Manipulation phase Once the psychopath has identified a victim, the manipulation phase begins. During the manipulation phase, a psychopath may create a persona or mask, specifically designed to ‘work’ for his or her target. A psychopath will lie to gain the trust of their victim. Psychopaths' lack of empathy and guilt allows them to lie with impunity; they do not see the value of telling the truth unless it will help get them what they want. As interaction with the victim proceeds, the psychopath carefully assesses the victim's persona. The victim's persona gives the psychopath a picture of the traits and characteristics valued in the victim. The victim's persona may also reveal, to an astute observer, insecurities or weaknesses the victim wishes to minimize or hide from view. As an ardent student of human behavior, the psychopath will then gently test the inner strengths and needs that are part of the victim's private self and eventually build a personal relationship with the victim. The persona of the psychopath - the “personality” the victim is bonding with - does not really exist. It is built on lies, carefully woven together to entrap the victim. It is a mask, one of many, custom-made by the psychopath to fit the victim's particular psychological needs and expectations. The victimization is predatory in nature; it often leads to severe financial, physical or emotional harm for the individual. Healthy, real relationships are built on mutual respect and trust; they are based on sharing honest thoughts and feelings. The victim's mistaken belief that the psychopathic bond has any of these characteristics is the reason it is so successful. 3. Abandonment phase The abandonment phase begins when the psychopath decides that his or her victim is no longer useful. The psychopath abandons his or her victim and moves on to someone else. In the case of romantic relationships, a psychopath will usually seal a relationship with their next target before abandoning his or her current victim. Sometimes, the psychopath has three individuals on whom he or she is running game: the one who has been recently abandoned, who is being toyed with and kept in the picture in case the other two do not work out; the one who is currently being played and is about to be abandoned; and the third, who is being groomed by the psychopath, in anticipation of abandoning the current "mark". I am currently a victim who is in the abandonment stage... i've looked up and my "friend" is nowhere to be found because they have gone on to their next target When I read this my eyes began to get wide. I mean this is what happened to me down to the letter. One good thing about reading this though is, it confirms all my thoughts and suspicions. I shouldn’t have given this person the benefit of the doubt I should’ve stuck to my guns when they came back into my life and just left them alone because I felt in the back of my mind that they’d either have an ulterior motive and/or they’d leave me and hurt me again. Even though this actually did happen, I don’t feel as stupid anymore now after reading this because I see that these people do this all the time and that their whole life can be a lie. i wondered what i did wrong but the truth is some people are not showing you who they really are, they are playing a role to reach a goal they have.. this is a pattern they have, so when they are done trying to use you then they just move on like you didn't exist.. you didn't do anything wrong, its just that all their "care" for you was a facade here are the specific tactics they used on me:
I just have to let this all go because like #3 stated, I have been abandoned, so what the f*ck else am I going to do? lol my options are limited.. All I know is it hurts and I should’ve known better but trust me this will not happen to me again. I’m not going to be bitter or anything because I already gave it to God but I have learned to be nothing less than vigilant when pondering whom I should allow into my circle. Here is the link for anyone who would like to read about this in its entirety: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation its very informative.. I suggest you read it because you may find A. you are a manipulator or B. you are being manipulated knowledge is power oh yeah… and I know its cliché but remember to stick to your gut instincts
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