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i think our society is a joke in a lot of ways a lot of the 'glue' that used to hold families together and keep order is gone two of the main things i will quickly touch on are porn and successful women women are going out and getting all these degrees and all these medical jobs and their more mild nature assists them in climbing the education and corporate ladders.. they are oftentimes making more money than men but this usually alienates the couple from one another the woman feels she doesn't need the man and the man can't shake the feeling that he has no defined role in the relationship the man and the woman are at odds- that is, if they establish any sort of connection at all under such circumstances we also have the issue of pornography women used to be the only place for men to find that sexual intimacy outlet.. well today men can find a sexual outlet on a computer screen it is not only anonymous but also free and convenient men no longer have to deal with the challenges of women and their changing moods and desires even when men don't seek out porn, many women will put out freely, thus FURTHER alienating men from women by making marriage seem impractical or even altogether unimportant conclusion: a man's role has been not only devalued- but also basically abolished sex has been devalued to a point of it going from a sacred special act of bonding, to becoming the subject of hollow idioms like "no strings attached" or "friends with benefits" i for one still want to be a strong provider for a family unit.. i still want defined gender roles in my household and i still value sex and its ability to bond... call me crazy but i happen to WANT strings attached unfortunately i cannot speak for anyone but myself so i quietly type as i watch society chase its own tail
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I found this on a forum today. I'm 22 and a single mom of a 2 year old. My son's dad left while I was pregnant. That's beside the point. It seems like most guys I meet want nothing to do with a girl who has a child. What are they afraid of? I can have the best connection with someone and the second I tell them about my son, they lose interest. Are they immature? Worried about my lack of freedom/spontaneity? Are they scared of a possible commitment to that child? I don't expect them to become instant Father. Anybody have opinions on this? I want to take the time out to break this down from a man’s point of view. I'm 22 and a single mom of a 2 year old. My son's dad left while I was pregnant. you got pregnant and the guy “left”.... ...no, the guy was never "there" ..you basically just said “I was some guy’s jump-off.” the crazy part is you sound completely unaware let me break it down for you... if the guy left as soon as you got pregnant.. trust me, you were always a jump-off That's beside the point. No it’s not. i now know the shallow extent of your backstory... you're not a widowed single mother, you are a former jump-off, you're also gullible, and a bad judge of character in other words, you're not looking too appealing to most men right now It seems like most guys I meet want nothing to do with a girl who has a child. No… Really? What are they afraid of? What are they AFRAID of…….. AFRAID… lol We are not "afraid," there is no fear involved, we just legitimately don’t like what you are offering us “hey what's up would you like my damaged goods?” “how about a tired single mom with baggage?” put yourself in a man’s shoes.. do you want a pretty, bubbly, clean slate whom you can grow with? ..or a woman who already has seen and done everything and has the stretch marks to prove it a real man wants to show you new things and be a prominent and inextricable part of those things.. he wants to be the one you choose to marry, he wants to see you when you're at your best and hold you when you're at your worst.. he wants to be the one you have kids with, he wants to be the reason for your transformation from skinny single woman to wife and mother with curves and hips.. BUT YOU'VE ALREADY ENJOYED MOST OF THESE MILESTONES WITH THE INCREDIBLE DISAPPEARING MAN!!!!! you want "a" man.. see that's the problem.. men don't want to be "a" man.. we want to be "THE" man in your life YOU HAVE EFFECTIVELY ROBBED ANY FUTURE MAN OF TAKING HIS RIGHTFUL PLACE IN YOUR LIFE furthermore; if you went to foot locker and you saw brand new jordans for $100 and a used pair of the same jordans for $100 which f*cking jordans would you pick? this may seem crazy to you but.. *gasp* men have options too. SO NO ONE IS "AFRAID" ...THE BOTTOM LINE IS YOU HAVE A CHILD YOU IDIOT! AND YOUR KID LOOKS LIKE YOUR EX BOYFRIEND SO EXCUSE ME FOR NOT WANTING TO JOIN YOUR ALREADY ESTABLISHED FAMILY!!!! I can have the best connection with someone and the second I tell them about my son, they lose interest. What can I say? Sanity works in mysterious ways. Are they immature? Here we are again with the shaming language. Why would you even suggest that a person is immature because they don’t like your drawbacks, dysfunction, and baggage? that would be like a guy saying: “Girls are too immature to date a guy like me who lives with his parents” how f*cking deluded can you possibly be!? Worried about my lack of freedom/spontaneity? I’m worried about your lack of ability to spontaneously combust. No but seriously, no guy is even thinking along these lines. You have to put yourself in a guy’s shoes.. what guy would say something like: “I really dig this single mother but I’m worried she won’t be spontaneous enough to keep up with my active lifestyle” LOL like seriously does that sound right to you at all? Are they scared of a possible commitment to that child? If their dad doesn’t want em', neither do we. I don't expect them to become instant Father. that's fair but the sad part is your kid needs a father asap.. see here's the thing.. men are looking at you like "why didn't you go the respectable route?" why didn't you look for and/or wait for a guy who was willing to commit to you before breaking him off? at the end of the day your child is still without a father and IT COULD HAVE BEEN PREVENTED the reason i put so much blame on women is because THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN OPPORTUNITY FOR WOMEN TO SCREW SOME GUY in case you haven't noticed, men like booty.. oh you thought men just liked buying you drinks for fun? since there will ALWAYS be a man seeking sex, women need this little thing called discretion remember, a lock that is opened by 100 keys is a crappy lock (and women, YOU ARE THE GATEKEEPERS) men honestly do have sympathy for your child but not for you at all because all you had to do was use discretion, close your legs, go the respectable route but you didn't hold out for commitment, you had sex out of wedlock, so now you have single mother problems... it's as automatic as gravity Anybody have opinions on this? my opinion is you need to WAKE UP. Your questions are so dumb that they reveal you know NOTHING ABOUT MEN. your ignorance is mind-boggling HOWEVER i will throw you a bone get with a guy who has kids (and yes, it is just that simple) i think God spoke to me on june 1st of this year
today is june 7th today i looked in my bible and i paid attention because this is what it said: In the second year of King Darius, in the sixth month, on the first day of the month, the word of the Lord came... it went on further than that, but that stuck out to me because (again) here it says God spoke on the first day of the 6th month way back in the Bible days and i think He spoke to me personally on the same day in 2013 so since i saw that similarity, i continued to read and i think God wanted to tell me the same thing he told them here's what God said to them: You say, “The time has not come, that My house should be built.” Is it time for you yourselves to dwell in your paneled houses, and this temple to lie in ruins? Consider your ways! You have sown much, and bring in little; You eat, but do not have enough; You drink, but you are not filled with drink; You clothe yourselves, but no one is warm; And he who earns wages, Earns wages to put into a bag with holes. Consider your ways! Go up to the mountains and bring wood and build the temple, that I may take pleasure in it and be glorified You looked for much, but indeed it came to little; and when you brought it home, I blew it away. Why? Because My house is in ruins, while every one of you runs to his own house. Therefore the heavens above you withhold dew, and the earth withholds its fruit. For I called for a drought on the land and the mountains, on the grain and the new wine and the oil, on whatever the ground brings forth, on men and livestock, and on all the labor of your hands. later in the chapter when they obeyed God and built His temple then God said: From this day on I will bless you. conclusion: i think God is telling me to get more involved in the church so that He can bring about blessings in my life from my perspective it seems like He's saying He wants to do more with me but He wants me to get more involved, be more active, give more, and be more helpful to the church first.. probably because whatever blessing He has for me CAN ONLY BE FOUND in that arena I am happy I was at least able to contribute to a church performance recently but it looks like i'll have to amp it up do u guys think i'm right on this or what? i read an article online today, i just wanted to share the jist of it.. here it is:
men chase after women in hope of sexual intimacy women chase after men in hope of commitment many men get a woman in bed and then immediately lose interest many women get a man to commit and then immediately lose interest men who do this move on and look for a new woman to chase women who do this move on and look for a new man to chase what exactly is the answer? should men hold out on commitment? should women hold out on sexual intimacy? perhaps if a person feels that they "earned" the thing they want then they will hold onto it when it finally comes i guess this is what people are talking about when they say we all like a "challenge" what do u think? i really don't know the solution however it was eye opening to think about women chasing commitment, i never really thought about that side of it before but its true i think every guy has been uninterested in a girl, then she charms him over a period of time so he finally concedes and agrees to 'be together," or get engaged, or get a house together but once you've fallen for her then she starts acting up.. she says you're "boring" or something and as a man you're dumbfounded but here's my overall conclusion: men and women are very different yet very similar this is about how black men are bashed in the media i'm not complaining about it i'm just exposing it normally they use one or two token black people to hold a conversation or forum where they bash "other" black people |
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