how do you love yourself?
it has become apparent to me that loving yourself is important i have noticed many of us throughout our lives feel that love is not worth giving if it is not for someone else but why overlook just loving yourself? seriously think about that.. why overlook it? say u are single.. do u feel worthless or like u don't have purpose? maybe your purpose for the moment is to invest in yourself i totally believe in giving back and being pro-active about giving and loving others but if you find yourself alone with no one to love, no one to give to.. why not just focus your attention on you? ask yourself.. what are you lacking? ask yourself.. what do i want to be? who am i and what should i be doing? when you are single do you ask these questions? do you take the time to answer them? do you actively pursue things that would make you a better person? or do you focus on the fact that you feel low because you are alone ? what would it mean right now for you to love yourself? maybe it would mean looking for a better job maybe it would mean losing weight maybe it would mean some sort of personal growth where you train yourself not to procrastinate or be late anymore why do we always have to look for outside validation? if you have no significant other, does that mean you have no life? no goal? no mission? no enjoyment? no fun? no drive? must you have someone validate each and every thing you do? i will give an example of what i'm talking about ok say you like to cook big meals.. maybe you never do it because you reason "i have no one to cook for" or "i have no one to tell me it was good so what's the point?" i am saying do it because you like to do it.. maybe do it just for fun and eat it at lunch at work.. maybe just give it to a homeless person.. i am saying FORGET ABOUT GETTING VALIDATION FROM PEOPLE love yourself and just do what you think should be done, because success is when opportunity meets preparation.. meaning you might as well prepare now and loving yourself now will help you love someone else later say you cook and you have no one but yourself to cook for but you find out an amazing recipe during that time then you meet someone and you say "come to my place i'll make dinner" and you cook that recipe.. they'll probably be like: "WOWZERS THIS TASTES BETTER THAN EVERYTHING!!!!" well see your preparation has met opportunity.. had you said "i'll cook when i'm married" or something then you'd be putting off something that is 'profitable' and fun for who knows how long.. something that u love, and something that could possibly open up some sort of door or opportunity don't say "i'll lose weight when i meet the right person" no, love yourself and lose it now so again, what does it mean to love yourself? should we overlook it? should we put it on the backburner? i say do it nowz don't wait for love to find you.. invest in yourself and others right now.. don't feel bad if you are single.. don't focus on that and even if you are single and you want someone just pray about it but don't worry.. just pray and leave it in God's lap so i'm just saying overall, change your focus ^did any of this make any sense? let me explain why i said this.. let me explain where it came from i sometimes miss a girl who isn't in my life anymore and that somewhat led me to feel worthless however when i focus on bettering myself and my situations.. when i focus on becoming a better james.. when i love myself i feel a lot better i start to think i can set myself up to find someone just as good or better, and that even if i don't.. at least i'm trying, at least i'm having fun, at least i'm striving for something, etc kinda like the get rich or die trying mentality u don't have to necessarily count on finding love when u know you can create and facilitate some of your own (in the meantimez)
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Giles
6/20/2012 10:58:02 am
working on yourself makes you have more to offer your mate
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jaims
6/20/2012 11:34:10 am
man.. so true.. i can attest to that from experience.. u try to get too much validation from the other person and they will likely be turned off
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