i've noticed in life that as a male if you say something it is oftentimes interpreted in a way like..... like as if you are whining or being annoying, or complaining or you are beating a dead horse or focusing on the wrong things or being a hypocrite
i run into these types of things a lot where i feel like things i say are not heard as statements, they are more received as ammo to use against me like if i say to someone "i had a bad date" they don't hear "james had a bad date, let's talk about dating and share experiences" instead they hear "james is annoying and he's trying to make me pity him" but believe it or not, i figured it out..... this sums it up: if you aren't a player in the game then you are a critic of the players so what i've noticed is i actually share my life and experiences with people- however they don't do the same.. like i will text someone and say "hey this happened today lol" and they will just read what i said and instead of share something about their own day or their own experience, they would rather critique whatever i shared what ends up happening is that person thinks they are above me because i am open and i share my highs and lows but they are cagey and will not share and so since i am the only one who is open and honest- i get criticized by the one who isn't they sit back and say "james had a bad day today because he had an issue with such and such... i'd never have an issue like that" and they sit back on their high horse like they are perfect i also feel that in general, people are not really interested in hearing what you have to say so they are likely to find a way to bite you or sting you for sharing let me give a quick example of what i mean imagine a rich celebrity shares a dirty joke with a woman... u can see her laughing right? now imagine a homeless man sharing that same joke with a woman... she is likely to attempt to socially punish him for telling the joke that's what i mean- some people may just look at you and think you are not worth hearing from, no matter what you have to say so we as men must be selective about who we share things with because many will just try to use whatever u say to criticize you or bring you down because again.. you're either a player or a critic
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