today i realized something about women and that is that they don't really hear words when you talk to them- it appears that they are using your words to gauge what they believe to be strength and weakness
the less you divulge about yourself, the better off you are with a woman the more you divulge, it seems the less they are inclined to respect you when i speak to men its like they hear what i am saying but its like women are just taking what i say and putting it in a vault of "he is weak" or "he is strong" for example if i say to a man "i like to play video games" he hears "james likes to play video games" if i say to a woman "i like to play video games" she may take that information and associate it with children and so she reasons "james is childish" and that is a strike against me as that gets placed in the "weakness" box if i say nothing about myself and just ask her about herself then i can remain in the "vague" or "mysterious" category and she likes that... when she has to wonder about a man she seems to really like that i've also noticed today- that women appear to make a lot more snap judgments about people than men.. not only are women's judgments extremely fast- but they also appear to be permanent like for example, a man might go to work and see a person do something embarassing and he will laugh at the person but he will still esteem and respect them as a person if a woman goes to work and sees a person embarass themselves, she will be likely to put that person in a category of "screw up" and that person is then locked into that category in her eyes for an indefinite amount of time i think this is why women are so obsessed with their image, because they tend to believe others are judging them as hard as they are judging other people for men we don't really judge people this way, we are more likely to separate things like "she's fat but she's cool" "he's broke but he's responsible" type of thing women are more likely to see a fat man and categorize him as a loser.. or see a broke man and say he's a lost cause this type of thinking is actually like a box or a cage though.. and this is why women are so uptight in comparison to men because of the fact that they judge people quicker, harsher, and more permanently- they either A. are judged the same way or B. THINK they are being judged the same way as men, the lesson we get from everything i've just stated is basically... don't divulge any type of weakness to a woman because she will not process it correctly, and she is very likely to use it against you or hold it against you think about samson and delilah ideally, we should keep our talk with women to a minimum because even things that are not actual weaknesses are likely to be processed as such by women.. and actual weaknesses are likely to be exploited a lot of us men probably haven't been privy to this type of thing because we don't really think this way.. but knowledge is power all in all- we might as well use women's image-conscious mindset to our benefit and give them the illusion they are seeking
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