one thing i want to talk about is how black women put such a big emphasis on skin color
i am not saying women's experience is wrong, i just want to give my take on it as a guy again.. I AM NOT SAYING WOMEN'S EXPERIENCE WITH DISCRIMINATION DOESN'T EXIST.. this is just my take from the male side from my point of view, beauty isn't as much about skin color as women think it is because there are other factors involved in a man's selection process boobs, booty, face, teeth, body shape (proportions), personal style, attitude, etc are all considered for a man, when we are looking for women, her looks are the most important factor.. i say this because.. no guy says "i can't wait to grow up and marry an ugly woman" if she is not cute then her personality doesn't really matter.. women are offended by statements like this but its actually a good thing for them because if a man approaches a woman and is interested, then that means she has passed his looks test on some level one thing women need to remember though is this... you should not have sex until you are married because the looks test is only fully passed when a guy is willing to commit.. if he only wants u for one thing then you may have only passed his looks test in one or two ways.. this essentially means u are headed for rejection.. so keeping your legs closed keeps u as a woman from experiencing rejection.. because if a guy knows he has to marry u to sleep with u then he will think "proceed or leave her alone" however if he knows he can have sex with u and not marry you then he will possibly just proceed because he likes your butt cheeks but he may honestly think your face is busted.... so he will take u on dates and make u laugh and have sex with u but ultimately he is also going to leave you if he doesn't really value u every man's looks test is a little different.. and this gives every woman an opportunity to be loved by someone like.. i have seen some women that i think are ugly but some other men think they are gorgeous a lot of black women say "guys like the light skinned women but don't like the dark skinned ones" however imo that is not really true when you are considering all the factors for example, one time on youtube i saw a dark skinned girl talking about how hard it is to be dark skinned, but she had huge boobs.. i mean...... is the glass half empty or half full? i'm sure there's some light skinned girl somewhere with no chest who wants to trade places... whether or not a man likes her dark skin, she still has this obvious asset that is likely to attract men there are pretty dark skinned women and ugly light skinned women and vice versa, so you can't just say men like this skin tone or that one.. there are more factors involved i saw a thing where lil kim said she had a complex because men kept leaving her for lighter skinned women but she would have been protected from all of that pain if she just kept her legs closed from the jump... if she told men "i am waiting for marriage" then ONLY MEN WHO PRIZE HER HIGHLY WOULD REMAIN biggie prized faith evans highly, so that's why he married her when women are allowing men to have sex without marriage, they are not filtering out the men who do not prize them she blames men for liking this or that but the reality is she had all the power in the first place to attract the right men and deter the wrong ones i think women sometmes think that if they don't have sex then men will not stick around but actually the opposite is true because if a man was looking for a wife and he met a woman with no body count, he's going to be impressed and even if he decides to keep looking, it won't be without some consideration u may not be able to get around a person's preference, but u as a woman can protect yourself from feeling the rejection of someone's preference so anyway.. back to skin tone.. imo there are more factors than just skin tone involved in men choosing a woman i have been accused of only liking light skinned women but i disagree with that... i've actually rejected white women so that whole theory is debunked.. a woman is a woman.. not saying black women haven't experienced some discrimination, but i will say overall, guys are not choosing you based on skin tone... there may be a stigma or whatever but that does not beat out reality.. here is my advice to black women who are irritated with negative effects of colorism in society 1. understand ignorance exists and we live in a fallen world 2. really ask yourself if you want short term relationships or marriage and act accordingly 3. be your best self and focus on the parts of yourself that you like these things will help u to get over some of the negative comments u've experienced and also set you up for a better future
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