i want to point out something from the bible that i think is a misconception
many women say "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord." which is a legit scripture, however i believe their understanding is off.. when women say this scripture, they are saying it to say two things typically: 1. women are a blessing 2. men should seek and pursue women.. because they think "findeth a wife" means men should actively seek i want to point out that i believe both of these ideas are false or incomplete proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. ^makes sense right? yes.. however don't forget corinthians... 1st corinthians 7:27-28 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. lets look a little closer Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. as you can see here.. if "findeth" means for men to "seek" in the proverbs verse, then it contradicts "seek not a wife" in corinthians so then what is the scripture in proverbs saying? let's take a look at another scripture proverbs 31:10-12 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. so.... here is my point.. i'm no preacher but i don't believe the "findeth a wife" points to "men better be looking for wives" or "men better be taking women to dinner" or "men better be asking women out" .. i don't believe "findeth a wife" means we need to seek women i believe "findeth" refers to the rarity of good women.. her price is far above rubies, she is trustworthy, she does him good and not evil ... the scripture is saying that a trustworthy woman who acts right is a rare thing so "findeth a wife" to me is not saying "go out and look for a woman!" or "shrug off all women's rejection until one says yes" or "dedicate yourself to appealing to women and you'll eventually get one" ... it's actually more saying something like: "you're lucky if you find a $100 bill in the street" ...it's not so much that you were looking for it.. but if it happens, A. it's RARE and B. it's a blessing this is somewhat how i think of it: "he who comes across a woman who is good enough to marry is blessed" ... i wholeheartedly disagree with the "women are a blessing and so you should cater to them" belief that some people seem to have surrounding this verse based on the "who can find a virtuous woman?" scripture- i actually believe the bible is flat-out saying most women are untrustworthy and selfish... because those things are the opposite of "the heart of her husband doth safely trust in her" and "she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life" so imo, the bible actually cosigns what many men (including myself) say about most women being useless and scumbags let me break down why i don't believe it means 1. women are a blessing and 2. men should seek and pursue women the reason it doesn't mean women are a blessing is because all women do not fit the category of "wife" ... a woman must be wife material to be a wife... so women using that scripture to make themselves look like they are good just because they are female are wrong... if you are a female who is not marriage material- you are not a "good thing" and the reason it's not saying men should seek and pursue women is because: "art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife" ....the bible literally tells us not to seek a wife also you can't forget this scripture.. proverbs 19:14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD. here you can see that a good woman who is worth anything comes from the Lord.. what that means is- we as men are not meant to chase women.. because we don't acquire them- God gives them.. in other words if you actually want to "pursue" a woman- you're better off chasing God than chasing a woman.. because God is telling you- "the virtuous ones are mine" one thing i've learned over time is that the more you learn from the Lord the simpler your life becomes.. and this is no exception.. we are not meant to chase women we are meant to live our purpose both earthly and spiritual and the Lord will handle the rest we need not be burdened with entertaining women, catering to their whims, or figuring them out, making them comfortable, or becoming their dancing jester for amusement we are to do our duty both earthly and spiritual and that's it no plenty of fish, no dates, no pickup lines, nothing... we are not to chase women the bible says SEEK NOT if you marry you have not sinned but when it says seek not- it's basically saying "let God handle that" ... when it comes you will know it.. other than that, just live right before the Lord and do you.. stay in the lane God has for you until He directs you otherwise i hope this helps some guy out there who is wracking his brain trying to figure out why women don't like him and what he can do about it.. the answer is- PUT IT IN GOD'S HANDS and go on about your business and enjoy your current peace... here's what i personally recommend A. put all forms of lust out of your mind B. think about how busy you would be if you had a wife and kids.. also think about how you would feel if you got a wife but you didn't build what you were supposed to build prior to her arrival.. now use that thought and go build C. look around at all the divorce and unrest around you.. i mean look at the broken hearts, the split families, the lack of trust, the lost resources, and all the dysfunction... then take refuge in the fact that the Lord doesn't want that to be you.. let Him give you a wife, don't go looking for it because more than half of these broken relationships, marriages, and families are due to people not going into them the way God wanted them to in the first place the last thing i want to say is this Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. a prudent wife is from the LORD. we have always seen a wife as being the thing that brings the favor of the Lord... but i looked at this and saw it a little differently today.. basically if a prudent wife is from the Lord.. then perhaps it is the favor that brings the prudent wife as opposed to the prudent wife bringing the favor in which case- it becomes even more important to seek your purpose and place as opposed to seek a woman i hope this helps someone out peaCe
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