here is a comment thread from a pastor's youtube page i left the top and bottom comments here in the video the pastor was saying he wanted his wife to be supportive to him but she wasn't doing it.. she was saying she wouldn't do things in the ministry that he wanted her to do he started making excuses for her and saying he was learning to be selfless through his wife now i want to make it clear that i am not here to speak against a pastor so maybe he is right and i'm wrong but i still want to give my take on this as you can see he began making excuses for his wife's behavior and he began saying that he was learning humility through his wife
again he is a pastor and i'm not, but my take is that his mindset doesn't really make sense.. i feel that he absolves her of fault and responsibility by saying "God is teaching me through her" also if you are the head- then why are you subject to dealing with her whims? why do you have to deal with her telling you no when her job as a wife is to support you? patience is fine but ultimately she needs to comply he wasn't saying he wanted her to do anything bad or wrong, he was saying he wanted her to support him in his ministry but she treated his desires like something she didn't need to pay any attention to if she didn't want to.. he made it sound like they were married but she was just content in "doing her own thing" in the marriage i was trying to explain to him that she is not doing her wifely duties and that's a problem.. it's a lack of proper respect and reverence and love and support but i wanted to post this discussion to show that this is what we men have to stop doing.. we have to stop this thing where we try to make excuses for a woman's behavior.. we have to put our foot down and say "look, do it or we're done" because as long as we try to justify women in their disobedience, we are not getting our needs met, we aren't getting the respect we need as men, and we are not helping to keep our women out of hellfire because think about it- if you are a perfect husband you can make it into heaven but if she is a bad wife where do u think she will end up? ..a woman is supposed to submit to her husband according to the bible and she is to be a suitable helper to her husband according to the bible what men like this pastor are doing these days is letting women get away with not doing their part.. this pastor in my opinion is allowing his wife to get away with disobedience.. not only to himself but also to the Lord because the Lord told her to be in submission to her husband as unto the Lord in ALL things i was trying to get this man to understand this but i don't think he was grasping it.. but at the same time maybe he did grasp it because he didn't respond back to my second comment.. maybe he took a moment to think about it i think a lot of men don't know what to do when their wives are not in their place.. when their wives refuse to be caring or supportive or attentive these men are likely ill-prepared and confused... but i believe these are the answers: 1. wash her with the watering of the Word meaning show her in the Bible where she is wrong (this only works if you are both saved and equally yoked.. which you should be) 2. ALWAYS be willing to let her go... ALWAYS be willing to move on without her.. ALWAYS be willing to cut her off that whole "give an inch, they take a mile" phrase definitely goes for women and their irreverent behavior you must ALWAYS be willing to leave her with your head held high- not in pride but in knowing your position and mission, and with the determination that her sin will not become your stumbling block or your folly (as it became with adam and eve) also DO NOT give her any power in your relationship or marriage.. if she feels she can divorce you and take half your money then why would she hesitate to do so? of course if she is submitted to the Lord she will not do that.. but since we don't know if her salvation is a lasting one- do yourself a favor and work it to where u have the power... work things to where if she treats you with contempt, you still have everything and she has nothing anyway.. what do u all think.. do u agree with the pastor or do u agree with me? i think he was selling himself short personally.. and btw he said this is his second marriage anyway just my thoughts
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