right now i'm reading a book called "in sheep's clothing" by george simon which is about manipulative people because i feel that questa was manipulative.. i also think many women in general are manipulative
i want to be equipped with knowledge on this stuff because i feel that i was a bit in over my head during my last relationship i've already learned a lot about narcissists, borderlines, women with the jezebel spirit, tactics they use, things they say and do, gaslighting, deception, and more but i'm hoping this book equips me for any possible future interactions with these types of people anyway i want to share some of the excerpts so here's one that i liked from today: I often hear people say that someone is being "passive-aggressive" when trying to describe their covertly aggressive behavior. Covert-aggression and passive-aggression are not the same thing. Passive-aggression is playing the game of emotional "get-back" with someone by passively resisting any kind of cooperation with them. It's giving your spouse the "silent treatment," pouting, whining, "forgetting," or not doing what somebody wants you to do because you're angry with them for some reason. ok....... now this explains a lot of what i went through with questa.. she was always upset with me or angry about something.. no amount of apologizing ever stopped her from feeling slighted and like she needed to "get me back" for something i know you may be thinking "what did you do to her?" well you have to understand i didn't do anything, she just blew everything out of proportion and then she would hold it against me and try to find ways to hurt me which tended to blindside me because i never understood why she was upset or where her actions were even coming from lets read it one more time: Passive-aggression is playing the game of emotional "get-back" with someone by passively resisting any kind of cooperation with them. It's giving your spouse the "silent treatment," pouting, whining, "forgetting," or not doing what somebody wants you to do because you're angry with them for some reason. these things were happening all the time.. i even told her she was vindictive one day and she agreed, she seemed to think it was ok though, like there was no sense of remorse- more like a sense of "yeah you will get this side of me if you deserve it" when i really was never deserving, she just blew everything out of proportion in her crazy brain another thing this has taught me is the reason why she complained so much if i forgot something- its because if SHE forgot something it would have been a purposeful revenge tactic, so she probably thought when i forgot things- i was forgetting on purpose to hurt her the way she would have done to me but overall what that quote has taught me is the reason why she never cooperated like a normal person.. the reason why she was always moving the goal posts.. making everything i say sound like it was incorrect... it was her way of getting back at me.. so when i would say something that made perfect sense and she would find a way to disagree.. i now see she was being passive aggressive because she was harboring some type of anger/animosity/unforgiveness for something she felt i did against her the victim mentality is rampant in those who have personality disorders.. so since she had that victim mentality and processed everything through a lens of "i have been slighted"- she was constantly acting out against me with passive aggression i really like george simon's work.. look him up on youtube if interested
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