i once watched a video where a man explained that oftentimes throughout history, people get similar ideas around the same time.. he explained that this indicates that we live on some sort of timeline of consciousness
i think about this in regard to race relations and black people in the united states
i liken the race situation to a woman who is being beaten by her significant other
the beatings may begin and stay the same however what will change are the woman's thoughts, attitudes, and actions
the first time she is beaten she will likely be shocked.. then after the shock of a few beatings, she will likely fall into fear.. then over a little more time her overall demeanor will be that of depression/hopelessness.. after depression will likely come anger.... after anger will be action of some sort which will likely be revenge or leaving the situation
so what u see in that timeline is a constant negative stimuli that causes different reactions in the woman's behavior over time
so when i apply this to black people in america.. i wonder where blacks are
there have been different movements based on the overall collective consciousness of the culture throughout time, but where are blacks today?
i somewhat feel that today- black people are over racism.. i feel like these days black people are tired of hearing about it and contending with it.. whether its old history or new happenings, i feel like these days black people are getting to a place where they just want to live life
i think what we will likely see in black people in upcoming years is many will turn a blind eye to racism.. not so much in the sense that they will be unaware of it.. but i feel like blacks will stop reacting and instead try to just focus on their own situations "how can i get money" "how can i get respect" "i want a valuable significant other" "i want to buy a house" "i am a business owner" "i want to have a baby" etc
i feel like tickets to race based / slavery based movies will plummet as blacks grow increasingly tired of seeing the prescribed victim role acted out again and again
i don't think black people will always contend with racism, and its already started with people like raven symone and her refusal to even really acknowledge racial roots in any significant capacity.. all the sensationalism that surrounds racism will lose its power and those who attempt to offend black people will me met with blank stares and backsides
u can fight the bully or walk to class through a diff hallway.. win or lose i think some black people will just choose the diff hallway as dealing with the same old strife is getting old
it'll be like "ok you think im a n****** so what else is new?"
it's like racist people are soon going to have to make up new words to try and get the same reactions because i think many black people are over it
i don't think there will be a fight much longer as collectively, i think black people want to just be themselves without dealing with other peoples' unfounded negative perceptions
soon, i think many racist people will find that they have no one to argue with as black people will just be too busy to care
sort of like how some foreigners are.. they come to the country and just do what they do without regard to much else
of course injustice will always be injustice.. but i think the constant war that surrounds brown skin is getting very old to black people
i think many white people (and this is not a diss) will be in for a rude awakening because if you look throughout history.. many things that have been brought through american society to destroy people are first brought to the black community
so what i mean is- things like chronic unemployment and police brutality which have been typically black male problems are likely coming to the average white citizen next.. and these problems will also include women
i honestly feel that police brutality is coming to a white female near you fairly soon.. its something we really haven't seen yet, but i feel that its just a matter of time because the orchestrated problems that plague minorities are merely experiments built by the "elite" to see if they will work on society at large
just a few of my personal thoughts on race, collective consciousness, and the future of american society
i did not write this.. i found this online and decided to share it.. link at the bottom
i'm not going to comment on this.. i feel that it speaks for itself
Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don’t marry a woman with a career.
Why? Because if many social scientists are to be believed, you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage. While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it. A recent study in Social Forces, a research journal, found that women–even those with a “feminist” outlook–are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner.
Not a happy conclusion, especially given that many men, particularly successful men, are attracted to women with similar goals and aspirations. And why not? After all, your typical career girl is well-educated, ambitious, informed and engaged. All seemingly good things, right? Sure…at least until you get married. Then, to put it bluntly, the more successful she is the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with you. Sound familiar?
Many factors contribute to a stable marriage, including the marital status of your spouse’s parents (folks with divorced parents are significantly more likely to get divorced themselves), age at first marriage, race, religious beliefs and socio-economic status. And, of course, many working women are indeed happily and fruitfully married–it’s just that they are less likely to be so than non-working women. And that, statistically speaking, is the rub.
To be clear, we’re not talking about a high-school dropout minding a cash register. For our purposes, a “career girl” has a university-level (or higher) education, works more than 35 hours a week outside the home and makes more than $30,000 a year.
If a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research).
Why? Well, despite the fact that the link between work, women and divorce rates is complex and controversial, much of the reasoning is based on a lot of economic theory and a bit of common sense. In classic economics, a marriage is, at least in part, an exercise in labor specialization. Traditionally men have tended to do “market” or paid work outside the home and women have tended to do “non-market” or household work, including raising children. All of the work must get done by somebody, and this pairing, regardless of who is in the home and who is outside the home, accomplishes that goal. Nobel laureate Gary S. Becker argued that when the labor specialization in a marriage decreases–if, for example, both spouses have careers–the overall value of the marriage is lower for both partners because less of the total needed work is getting done, making life harder for both partners and divorce more likely. And, indeed, empirical studies have concluded just that.
In 2004, John H. Johnson examined data from the Survey of Income and Program Participation and concluded that gender has a significant influence on the relationship between work hours and increases in the probability of divorce. Women’s work hours consistently increase divorce, whereas increases in men’s work hours often have no statistical effect. “I also find that the incidence in divorce is far higher in couples where both spouses are working than in couples where only one spouse is employed,” Johnson says. A few other studies, which have focused on employment (as opposed to working hours) have concluded that working outside the home actually increases marital stability, at least when the marriage is a happy one. But even in these studies, wives’ employment does correlate positively to divorce rates, when the marriage is of “low marital quality.”
The other reason a career can hurt a marriage will be obvious to anyone who has seen their mate run off with a co-worker: When your spouse works outside the home, chances increase they’ll meet someone they like more than you. “The work environment provides a host of potential partners,” researcher Adrian J. Blow reported in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, “and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals.”
There’s more: According to a wide-ranging review of the published literature, highly educated people are more likely to have had extra-marital sex (those with graduate degrees are 1.75 more likely to have cheated than those with high school diplomas.) Additionally, individuals who earn more than $30,000 a year are more likely to cheat.
And if the cheating leads to divorce, you’re really in trouble. Divorce has been positively correlated with higher rates of alcoholism, clinical depression and suicide. Other studies have associated divorce with increased rates of cancer, stroke, and sexually-transmitted disease. Plus divorce is financially devastating. According to one recent study on “Marriage and Divorce’s Impact on Wealth,” published in The Journal of Sociology, divorced people see their overall net worth drop an average of 77%.
So why not just stay single? Because, academically speaking, a solid marriage has a host of benefits beyond just individual “happiness.” There are broader social and health implications as well. According to a 2004 paper entitled “What Do Social Scientists Know About the Benefits of Marriage?” marriage is positively associated with “better outcomes for children under most circumstances,” higher earnings for adult men, and “being married and being in a satisfying marriage are positively associated with health and negatively associated with mortality.” In other words, a good marriage is associated with a higher income, a longer, healthier life and better-adjusted kids.
A word of caution, though: As with any social scientific study, it’s important not to confuse correlation with causation. In other words, just because married folks are healthier than single people, it doesn’t mean that marriage is causing the health gains. It could just be that healthier people are more likely to be married.
1. You are less likely to get married to her.
So say Lee A. Lillard and Linda J. Waite of the University of Michigan’s Michigan Retirement Research Center. In a paper, “Marriage, Divorce and the Work and Earnings Careers of Spouses”, published in April, 2000, they found that for white women, higher earnings, more hours of employment and higher wages while single all reduce the chances of marriage. “This suggests that (1) success in the labor market makes it harder for women to make a marital match, (2) women with relatively high wages and earnings search less intensively for a match, or (3) successful women have higher standards for an acceptable match than women who work less and earn less.” Some research suggests the opposite is true for black women.
Source: “Marriage, Divorce and the Work and Earnings Careers of Spouses,” Lee A. Lillard, Linda J. Waite, University of Michigan, Michigan Retirement Research Center, Working Papers, April, 2000.
2. If you do marry, you are more likely to get divorced.
In 2004, John H. Johnson examined data from the Survey of Income and Program Participation and concluded that gender has a significant influence on the relationship between work hours and increases in the probability of divorce. Women’s work hours consistently increase divorce, whereas increases in men’s work hours often have no statistical effect. “I also find that the incidence in divorce is far higher in couples where both spouses are working than in couples where only one spouse is employed,” Johnson said. A few other studies, which have focused on employment (as opposed to working hours) have concluded that working outside the home actually increases marital stability, at least when the marriage is a happy one. But even in these studies, wives’ employment does correlate positively to divorce rates, when the marriage is of “low marital quality.”
Sources: “A Treatise On The Family,” Gary S. Becker, Harvard University Press, 1981; “Do Long Work Hours Contribute To Divorce?” John H. Johnson, Topics in Economic Analysis and Policy, 2004; “Wives’ Employment and Spouses’ Marital Happiness,” Robert Schoen, Stacy J. Rogers, Paul R. Amato, Journal of Family Issues, April 2006.
3. She is more likely to cheat on you.
According to a wide-ranging review of the published literature, highly educated people are more likely to have had extra-marital sex (those with graduate degrees are 1.75 more likely to have cheated than those with high school diplomas.) One April, 2005 study, by Adrian J. Blow for the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy summed it up: “If a woman has more education than her partner, she is more likely to have a sexual relationship outside of her primary relationship; if her husband has more education, she is less likely to engage in infidelity.” Additionally individuals who earn more than $30,000 a year are more likely to cheat. “In a more general sense, it appears that employment has significantly influenced infidelity over the years,” Blow said. “The work environment provides a host of potential partners, and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals.”
Source: “Infidelity in Committed Relationships II: A Substantive Review,” Adrian J. Blow, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, April 2005.
4. You are much less likely to have kids.
According to the National Marriage Project, the incidence of childlessness is growing across the socioeconomic scale. In 2004, 20% of women over 40 remained childless. Thirty years ago that figure was 10%. But the problem–and it is a problem because the vast majority of women desire children–is much more extreme for career women. According to Sylvia Ann Hewlett, an economist and the author of Creating a Life: Professional Women and the Quest for Children, only 51% of ultra-achieving women (those earning more than $100,000 a year) have had children by age 40. Among comparable men, the figure was 81%. A third of less successful working women (earning either $55,000 or $65,000) were also childless at age 40.
Sources: The State of Our Unions 2006: Life Without Children, The National Marriage Project, July 2006. Creating a Life: Professional Women and the Quest for Children, Sylvia Ann Hewlett, Miramax Books, 2002.
5. If you do have kids, your wife is more likely to be unhappy.
A 2003 study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family concluded that wealthier couples with children suffer a drop in marital satisfaction three times as great as their less affluent peers. One of the study’s co-authors publicly speculated that the reason is that wealthier women are used to “a professional life, a fun, active, entertaining life.”
Sources: “Parenthood and Martial Satisfaction: A Meta-Analytic Review,” Jean M. Twenge, W. Keith Campbell, and Craig A. Foster, Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003; “Money doesn’t mean happy parenting,” USA Today, July 21, 2003.
6. Your house will be dirtier.
In 2005, two University of Michigan scientists concluded that if your wife has a job earning more than $15 an hour (roughly $30,000 a year), she will do 1.9 hours less housework a week. Of course, this can be solved if the husband picks up a broom.
Source: “Data Quality of Housework Hours in the Panel Study of Income Dynamics: Who Really Does The Dishes?”, Alexandra C. Achen and Frank P. Stafford, Institute for Social Research, University of Michigan, September 2005.
7. You’ll be unhappy if she makes more than you.
You aren’t going to like it if she makes more than you do: “Married men’s well-being is significantly lower when married women’s proportional contributions to the total family income are increased.”
Source: “Changes in Wives’ Income: Effects on Marital Happiness, Psychological Well-Being, and the Risk of Divorce,” Stacy J. Rogers, Danelle D. DeBoer, Journal of Marriage and Family, May 2001
8. She will be unhappy if she makes more than you.
According to the authors of a controversial 2006 study: “American wives, even wives who hold more feminist views about working women and the division of household tasks, are typically happier when their husband earns 68% or more of the household income.” Reason? “Husbands who are successful breadwinners probably give their wives the opportunity to make more choices about work and family–e.g., working part-time, staying home, or pursuing a meaningful but not particularly remunerative job.”
Sources: What’s Love Got To Do With It? W. Bradford Wilcox, Steven L. Nock, Social Forces, March, 2006; http://www.happiestwives.org.
9. You are more likely to fall ill.
A 2001 study found that having a wife who works less than 40 hours a week has no impact on your health, but having a wife who works more than 40 hours a week has “substantial, statistically significant, negative effects on changes in her husband’s health over that time span.” The author of another study summarizes that “wives working longer hours not do not have adequate time to monitor their husband’s health and healthy behavior, to manage their husband’s emotional well-being or buffer his workplace stress.”
Sources: “It’s About Time and Gender: Spousal Employment and Health,” Ross M. Stolzenberg, American Journal of Sociology, July, 2001; “Marriage, Divorce and the Work and Earnings Careers of Spouses,” Lee A. Lillard, Linda J. Waite, University of Michigan, Michigan Retirement Research Center, Working Papers, April, 2000.
here's the restaurant my job took my co-workers and i to called connor's in franklin.. about $40 per meal.. nice place to take a date
here's the tv i bought on april 30th
i like eating at zoe's.. their greek salad is phenomenal.. i highly recommend the chicken pita pizza meal which comes with a small greek salad (do no onions)
here's me at work with the people i work with.. i am the only black person so u know i had to represent with a fly pose lmao
the park i like to go to in brentwood.. fun to walk around.. get some sun.. think.. exercise
i have developed a hatred for many aspects of rap
i feel like i will always love creating songs.. that has always been a great thing to me.. just like how i write in this website- i enjoy creating songs.. making songs with humor and/or real world situations is something that is very cathartic
however i hate a lot about rap.. here are the things i hate about it
i don't really like attention, it took me a while to become comfortable with this aspect of myself.. i like being low key, i am not an attention whore.. but if you do a show people are looking at you as opposed to listening to the music.. i would prefer to be like an accessory to the crowd as opposed to the main focus.. i always thought crowds at shows should talk and dance and walk around as opposed to stand there looking at you
i also hate the thought of entertaining people.. for some people- entertaining others is fun, or its like an honor.. however to me its like being a court jester.. being someone's entertainment makes me feel like an idiot
i much prefer to just make a song and give it to you than to actually perform for you like a monkey in a suit or like a twerking female.. performing just has a negative connotation to me.. i see so many people lose their identity to perform or i see people compromise their beliefs to entertain
women like beyonce and rihanna are basically on stage pole-dancing to keep your attention.. people are resorting to pyrotechnics, people are flying in the air on harnesses and they have dancers gyrating everywhere
to me its almost like saying "my music can't stand on its own" or "i'm appealing to everyone's lower self and their foolish priorities"
i would much rather on any day listen to an album than watch someone perform an overhyped yet second rate rendition of their album
so that's one thing, the pandering to people.. the dancing, the trying to look cool.. JUST LISTEN TO THE SONG.. it is not my job to live up to your perception or to try and be an extrovert for your amusement
i even feel this way in youtube, that's why whenever i do a youtube video, i just talk the way i normally talk.. i don't over edit it or act like a big extroverted moron.. i just talk the way i always talk... i just don't like how there is a certain pressure to be "on" or to be disingenuous because people want to be entertained or because they expect you to be a certain thing
another thing i hate about rap is all the "dreamchasing"
when you identify as a rapper, you are likely chasing a dream, a fantasy life you saw on tv
have you ever seen a 17yr old girl who was told she could be a model? she then begins to try and chase that dream and she likely ends up in some situations she shouldn't be in.. taking pictures in some 36yr old man's seedy motel room... and he has some perverted plans for her
she is chasing a pipe dream.. people will see your desire and try to sell you a dream, and there is a LOT of that in music.. sometimes you are better off just going and getting a 9 to 5 or going to school.. modeling is the pipe dream that is sold to young women, and rapping is the pipe dream that is sold to many young black men
rappers sell this dream through their constant lies.. like for example, many rappers lie about their age.. they are like 36 saying they are 28.. calling themselves "young" or calling themselves "kid"
another thing they lie about is how they got hot in the game.. what u don't know is many of them are having their lyrics written for them and they are essentially business men in a rap costume
they are selling you a pipe dream by saying "i just started rapping last year and i got huge" or "i dropped out of college and got signed" or "i don't even write my lyrics, i just go in the booth and spit"
the big lie today is rappers are saying they are independent when in reality they are backed by a major.. they do this because of the rocky theory.. they feel fans will root for someone who is perceived to be an underdog.. the easiest way to see an artist is lying about this is to look at their video.. if you have a professional video yet you say you have no backing then........... look- i'll put it like this.. a red dragon camera alone can easily cost $50,000.. that's not a tool regular people have access to
its like when u are in school and you take a test and the kid next to you gets an A and he smugly says he didn't even study.. when in reality he studied more than everyone else in the class
the purpose is to make you further idolize someone and aspire to be them or be like them.. that is how many of these rappers eat.. by appearing to everyone else like a superhero or an anomaly.. but they are really just actors and liars.. look at rick ross for example.. he took a drug dealer's name and then started acting like a crime boss when in reality he was a correctional officer
i even wrote about this in a song once when i said
"if you take the name of someone that's dead or in jail/
you're destined to fail, i don't care how many records you sell/
cuz once integrity bails then longevity trails/
just what a person gets for tellin them tales/"
so rappers lie to you and appear like something they are not, and so you look at yourself and feel inadequate because they achieved all these amazing things.. but the reality is, they are business men, they are older than what they say they are, they aren't always writing their own lyrics, some of them appear ignorant but they went to college i.e. 2 chainz..
many of them even do rituals for success.. or they join a brotherhood, there is evidence of this in their imagery.. like that cartoon image of kanye with his head cut off and a sword in his ear.. that is supposed to represent some occult death and rebirth or something... or eminem's picture where he holds up devil horns over one eye.. or how he replaced his cross necklace with a triangle (pyramid) necklace.. you can see their affiliations
and what's worse today is many of the necessary affiliations are gay these days.. hence rappers having to wear skirts and dresses and calling eachother "bae" and all this crap... these secret societies that run the industry are pushing bisexuality today
even if you don't do anything gay, there is a gag-order on you, if you say something they consider "homophobic" or the new "transphobic" (smh) they will oust you from the industry.. the industry is against free speech in that regard
so there are many lies involved in the industry.. seeing the effects of this has caused me to have a certain disdain for rap as an occupation.. this is why i have relegated it to something i do for fun in free time as opposed to something i actively chase like i did 10 yrs ago
i am always interested in male/female relations and so i happen to watch a fair amount of divorce court.. about 40% of the men you see on that show are broke aspiring rappers
they are grown men chasing a pipe dream.. they have a wife and kids, and they are shooting music videos with women twerking, cars that aren't theirs, and fake jewelry trying to stunt for teenagers
then they go home and argue with their wife because their wife is tired of working 40 hours a week while the guy does a show and only makes $55
once you see how absurd it all is, you stand back and say "wow"
another thing i hate about rap is the lack of respect you get from it
you could be the illest rapper ever but it will not garner you respect among women.. see you might get respect from men, you might get props in the barber shop, you might get dap from men.. but women are looking at you like you are nothing until you have proven success.. you can't spit a hot 16 to a female and get her to think you're cool.. i heard women like musicians, but its not true... WOMEN LIKE SUCCESS
so you would be better off telling a woman you have a job, a car, a place to live, benefits, and a degree or two, than saying "hey i have a hot mixtape"
especially these days.. maybe 30 yrs ago having an album was a big deal.. but these days since everyone can make an album in their home.. having an album means nothing.. and its actually gotten to where women hear you have an album or a mixtape and they immediately tune you out because it has become like a euphemism for "i'm unemployed" or "i chase pipe dreams" or "i have nothing to offer"
these are the things i hate about rap.. this is why i have given up on rap.. i haven't given up on rapping.. i still like to do that when i have time.. but i have given up on the performing, the pipe dreams, and all the pomp and circumstance in the industry
i still like spitting a hot bar here and there but its just something to do in your spare time, not something to aspire to
a lot of times when i look at dating sites i think women are lying
they lie about education and jobs.. and sometimes u can see what their house looks like in the background and you can tell they live with their parents, but they try to front like they are super independent
today i feel like i caught a girl in a lie
a few days ago i was getting ice out of the machine at work and i saw a girl who works in the call center
i said hi and kept it movin
so then today i was perusing a dating site (pof) and she's on there and she said her occupation is "behavioral health"
see this is what i'm talking about.. i just saw you at work this week.. you work in a call center, but you said you work in "behavioral health" ... and who knows when you wrote that (btw, i have seen her profile before and it didn't say behavioral health the first time i saw it, so she changed it within the past few months.. but the problem is, she has worked in the call center the whole time)
this type of thing makes me hate women
why lie? all these women do is make it so men feel inadequate.. there might be a guy somewhere who works in a call center and he will read her profile and be like "dang she probably makes like $65,000 she'd never talk to me" and he will keep it moving
but he might be a good catch.. they might be a good team.. they might be able to grow together.. but women lie.. they are always on these sites lying about everything.. trying to look thinner than they are (when a lot of men actually like bbws).. trying to look like they are rich and high class (when it just makes them look like they are having sex for money).. women really think men are stupid too because sometimes the lies are glaringly obvious..
like for example one woman wrote in the occupation box "professional"
PROFESSIONAL WHAT? YOU IDIOT!
"professional" is not a job.. are you a professional fry cook at mcdonald's? its like i can tell right off that she is fronting because no one with a high level job would say they are "professional" ..they'd instead just say what they do.. "i'm a dentist" "i'm a doctor" .. they wouldn't try to sound pretentious, they'd just state fact
i want to say to women, "if you were a fry cook i would never diss you for that-" BUT YOU WILL NEVER KNOW THAT because you are too busy fabricating your existence
women are so dumb because they don't know what to even lie about.. all they do is cause men not to talk to them... no man cares if u have a low level job you simple minded oaf.. man women are just so dumb it is mind boggling
they are just so stupid.. i mean if you're going to lie, say something like "i like video games" don't say "i have a phd" because you're just causing men to overlook you and when u do find a man he is going to find out how much of a liar you are
i've even seen women say they are normal size when you can tell on their pictures they are fat.. i can see what u look like so why lie?
like how stupid can you possibly be?
and women have the nerve to wonder why "men aren't like they used to be"
no THATS YOU, YOU ARE A DISHONEST SKANK AND YOUR LIES KEEP YOU SINGLE BECAUSE YOU DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT LIES WOULD BE ATTRACTIVE TO MEN.. THE WORD STUPID IS TOO GOOD FOR YOU, YOU ARE FILTH
I AM SO TIRED OF THESE WOMEN ACTING LIKE THEY ARE ABOVE US MEN WHEN THEY ARENT.. GET REAL WITH YOURSELF, BECAUSE UNTIL YOU DO THAT, YOU ARE WORTHLESS TO ALL MEN
1st off.. if this player above doesn't work, then download this.. its the same audio
remember these tips are for men, young men, young black men, etc
i recorded this in my phone at work coming back from lunch
the reason i say all this is because women these days don't allow men to come to them, they all want to chase the men they want as opposed to allowing a willing and able man to come to them and say "hey i like you and eventually would like to marry you"
women don't react well to that anymore.. since they don't- i say wait for women to express interest
50yrs ago, i'd say go for the woman you want- however like i said.. WOMEN DONT REACT WELL TO THAT ANYMORE.. they want all the power and control these days so they don't allow men to choose anymore.. because of this- its just easier to let them act in their stupid way- and you can just accept the woman who comes to u and who u also like
save yourself 1,000 headaches and games.. don't chase women
the problem with chasing women is you are building their ego and depleting your own.. just go out and do things that build your ego instead
women are fickle simply because they can afford to be.. i heard someone say men are like dogs and women are like cats.. if u go up to a dog, the dog will play with you.. if you go up to a cat, the cat will run away
i feel like back in the old days, women were more likely to flirt with u and give you a chance because you are respectfully approaching her and showing interest as a man should.. but these days its like if you show interest, she is automatically thinking of you as a lame
she would rather chase a tall ladies man and/or badboy type guy with 6pack abs than try to start a life with a regular honest, loving guy... people used to get married and say "hey this person may not be 100% what i want but they work for me and they love me"
but these days women aren't doing that- they are just sleeping with diff men trying to find perfection.. with the stigma of sex outside of marriage out of the picture- the game is all screwed up.. women aren't living in a way that is considerate of what we men want
so wait for one who is done with the games, who is ready for what u as a good man have to offer.. this way u aren't wrestling her on everything, instead she likes what she sees in you and she is ready to ride with u
don't chase them because it doesn't work these days.. just do you
i just want to quickly talk about today.. no real reason.. just to put it out there
today is saturday.. i have sat around all day.. i love laying around at home because it feels like my body is rejuvenating or something
what's crazy about saturdays is that they come around and i sometimes think too much.. my brain just runs around everywhere.. i need to work on that
i am always thinking about women on saturdays also.. i am always wishing a woman would come to my house and chill with me
i spoke to ciarra the other day and that was cool.. she is so pretty.. i don't consider her to be a person of value to me or anything.. i'm not confused about it.. i know she never reaches out to me.. but she is just so pretty.. i just don't know what to say... i just like looking at her and knowing what she is up to
i was glad i was able to make her laugh on the phone.. i told her this tall guy shook my hand with two fingers and she was cracking up
lets see what else
i legit barfed today.. i haven't barfed since i was a teenager.. i was dumbfounded that i barfed..
what happened was i ate 3 strawberries.. i don't normally buy fruit because the acids in fruit bother my stomach.. but today for some reason i bought strawberries.. i ate 3 and legit like 10 minutes later i lost my lunch
i just can't really eat things like grapes or strawberries or fruit in general.. the only fruit i can really legit eat with no side effects is oranges.. everything else seems to have a side effect of some sort.. i sometimes just overlook them and eat them anyway, but i typically just steer clear
btw.. i have been eating more salad and i have to say this.. i have heard people say lettuce has no nutritional value... i don't know why people say that, but its not true.. i have been eating like one salad a day and i have been feeling way more healthy
i really hate how people say stupid things and then everyone parrots it "iceberg lettuce has no nutritional value" blah blah blah.. yeah it does moron.. how does that even make sense? you make it sound like i'm eating air smh
work has been rough.. lately i feel like i can't keep up.. any prayers about this would be appreciated.. i think i'm going to make a resume and see what else i can drum up.. i am super thankful for my job but when you get like 40 emails a day sometimes you're just like wondering how you are going to tackle each individual task
btw at work they took us to connors and to breakout like a week or two ago.. those were pretty cool.. connor's is a steak and seafood restaurant and breakout is a thing where you go and solve puzzles to try and escape a killer's layer.. it was a fun group activity we all did
i've been thinking about marriage and stuff like that.. i feel like i will need to get married one day.. i just feel like i want to finish school first.. i want to be the strongest, most capable man i can be prior to being married.. i hope the Lord sees my heart on this and allows me to be a great man prior to marriage.. because if He does, then i know i will be even better after- as the Bible says he who finds a wife finds favor with the Lord
if i can obtain favor or add to my existing favor, that would be excellent
sometimes i feel like that guy in the bible who worked for the woman for 7 years or whatever.. i really want to desire a woman to the point where all obstacles lose their difficulty.. if i know in my heart that i have exactly the woman i want in my corner, then i think i will feel more energized knowing i am doing things for her
it reminds me of when jadakiss said "my timbs started feeling like nike airs on me"
i think a great woman does that for a man.. she is his motivation.. she has the power to make his drudgery seem like a pleasure
that's also part of why women should stop going after men and instead let men come to them- because a man who truly loves you will be better for you than a man who just tolerates you
but let me not get started
ok well those are my thoughts for today
everyone stay up and kick back this weekend.. play your ps4 or something u feel me? ok peaCe
men generally know way more about women than women know about men
if u ask any man what women want, he will say
she wants a strong man
a smart man
an educated man
a man in good shape
if u ask a woman what men want, they will rattle off a list that looks like the characteristics of a man
she will say men want a strong, intelligent, sexually experienced, career woman, who is educated, and highly independent
women really think men want female men
and when u tell them u don't want a female man, and you say "you're wrong, i want a feminine woman who will be by my side.. someone who embodies the characteristics of a wife and mom, someone who has morals, and who is caring, etc" she will tell you you're wrong for wanting those things and she will turn it into a feminist debate
she will say "why do u want a woman who is a homemaker, you sexist pig! why do you want a woman who is sweet and nice you chauvinist!"
she will essentially say you should instead want a female man, an equal partner, a 50/50.. someone who will disagree with you and argue with you and make more money than you... they will basically tell you all the reasons why you should want a woman who doesn't need you
newsflash feminist skanks.. we men don't like being told you don't need us.. we want to be a hero to you, we want to be significant to you.. so if you don't need us, it makes us immediately uninterested.. you could say "i love being single and i never want a man" and it would have the same effect
women are always basically saying there shouldn't be a batman and robin, in a woman's twisted brain there should just be two batmans
i find it crazy that women even try to fight me on things like this
they say they want a strong man and a leader, but they refuse to be the inverse..
women don't want the man to be strong and the woman to be flexible.. women don't want the man to be the leader and the woman to be the follower.. no, women want two strong, inflexible people to be in a relationship
women want two leaders to be in a relationship as if that won't be conflict waiting to happen
it just trips me out that women know nothing about men at all
but its like something we learned in school in sociology.. and that was that those who don't have to learn anything, likely won't
this is why the poor know all about the experiences of the rich but the rich know nothing about the experiences of the poor.. because they don't have to learn anything about it.. they can stay in their little bubble of privilege and never leave it to witness the struggles of the less fortunate
and that's why women know nothing about what men want.. because women are operating from an abundance mentality.. they can break up with a guy and have another one in 2 days
men have to really fight hard to get a woman especially in this gynocentric society.. and especially with things like no-fault divorce where women are almost incentivized to leave their husbands (hence women filing for like 85% of divorces)
women can easily get men.. but its not the same when u switch it around because women are far more skeptical of men than men are of women
so it really just irks me sometimes to know that women know absolutely nothing about men.. you see evidence of this EVERYWHERE
like when you go on dating sites and you see 60% of the women are single moms.. if women understood the first thing about men, they would realize men don't really have a desire to raise another man's children.. seeing that women don't even know this very basic thing about men shows me that women KNOW ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT MEN.. because if they did- they would have taken strides to not be in that position
they would have told their baby's dad "we have to be married first" or they would have just kept it movin from jump.. but women don't understand that men have standards.. a man's standards are always up for debate in our society for some reason
and another thing.. i am tired of women who want "dominant" men because its not a man's job to dominate you- it is your job to submit to a man.. i've seen women say they need a thug who will cuss them out or slap them and put them in their place but that is not a healthy relationship.. a healthy relationship is a strong man and flexible woman.. a loving man and a submissive women.. not a strong woman and a dominant man to slap down that strong woman
women think we men want headstrong women with a mind of their own who will give us a "run for our money"
women are stupid to think we men want someone to compete with as opposed to someone who will cooperate with us and be a companion
i could go on but i just wanted to point this out
men know WAY more about women than women know about men
and the fact that women don't find their ignorance to be a problem is pretty sad
like 2 months ago i did a "touch and agree" prayer with my dad
i told him to pray for me to do well in school, and when he was done i asked him what he wanted prayer for
he said he wanted good health
so then i prayed for his health
well when we did it, it felt like nothing.. it didn't feel like anything happened
but then i got all A's in my classes despite some setbacks
and my dad had surgery recently (like a week ago) for some prostate issue.. and now he is back to normal, walking around doing normal things.. just in good health and good spirits.. he's happy he doesn't have to deal with the crap he was dealing with anymore
so i wanted to put that out there
remember to do the touch and agree prayers because the Lord will hear you