i was watching the breakfast club on one of their nick cannon interviews
this was when he was still married to mariah
when they asked him if he is tempted to cheat he said:
"she told me if i wanna cheat, i should just go ahead because she could just be with a billionaire the next day"
can u believe that ish?
that is crazy mariah must've seriously had that billionaire on deck already.. like 'finger on the eject button' the whole time
i didn't write this, i got it off a forum called boxden
peep if u wish.. i thought it was a good read
What do women want?
.... man give me a minute because these creatures want the entire world b.
Preference for Good Financial Prospects
Too keep this as simple as possible, men cannot be broke motherfuckers and expect to have a long term mate that isn't bat-shit crazy.
"Women in 1939 valued good financial prospects in a mate about twice as highly as men did, a finding that was replicated in 1956 and again in 1967 (Buss et al. 2001)."
Preference for High Social Status
Women want a mate that are in control or have the potential to control what is around him. How is this related to social status? Social status is a universal cue to who's in control of resources. High status provides more territory, better food, healthcare, and benefits for their children.
Preference for Somewhat Older Men
"The age of a man also provides an important clue to his access to resources... In all thirty-seven cultures included in the international study on mate selection, women preferred older men. Averaged over all cultures, women prefer men who are roughly three-and-a-half years older."
Why old men? Well, women expect a man's age to be directly proportional to his income. If there's something off with that math equation, you she's already one foot out of the door if not gone completely.
Preference for Ambition and Industriousness
I think I'll let the book speak on this:
"How do people get ahead in everyday life? Among all the tactics, sheer hard work proves to be one of the best predictors of past and anticipated income and promotions. Those who say they work hard and whose spouses agree that they work hard achieve higher levels of education, status, and higher annual salaries, and anticipate greater salaries and promotions than those who failed to work hard. Industrious and ambitious men secure a higher occupational status than lazy, unmotivated men (Jencks, 1979; Kyl-Heku & Buss, 1996; Lund et al., 2007; Willerman, 1979). U.S. women seem to be aware of this connection, because they indicate a desire for men who show the characteristics linked with getting ahead."
Preference for Dependability and Stability
Men that are emotionally and financially inconsistent are considered to be a cost or a burden for a woman, something she wishes to avoid altogether. Women do not prefer men that are self-centered and monopolizing of resources, possessive and have bouts of jealousy.
Preference for Height and Athletic Prowess
Women want a tall and athletic man that is capable of protecting them and their children if the need arose. Fat and lazy men? You might want to get in shape. Short men? You may want to learn how to be a financial wizard, and look like it. Tall guys get the cream of the crop. NBA players can virtually have anyone (no matter how ugly we think they are).
Preference for Good Health: Symmetry and Masculinity
Women have evolved to prefer men that have symmetrical faces. Similar to what men want from women as well. Evidence suggests this is a way to determine if a potential mate has healthy genes, lowering the risks of birthing a defective child.
Women prefer a masculine looking face as well. Long and broad jaws, stronger brow ridges, and more pronounced cheekbones. This is a feature of men with high levels of testosterone.
Love and Commitment
Women prefer men that will make them feel exclusive (duh). Giving birth to a child is a tactic to ensure exclusivity to some degree.
Preference for Willingness to Invest in Children
Women find men that ignore or brush off children ("in distress") to be highly unattractive.
Preference for Similarity
Women want emotional bonding, cooperation, communication, mating happiness. All of those things lower the risk of breaking up, and increase the likelihood of their (potential) children's well-being.
Additional Mate Preferences Include: Kindness, Humor, Incest Avoidance, and Voice
Women love a funny man that is kind to others, but most importantly.... they have to have a deep voice. Men without a deep voice to women is like a woman that's bald and has a physique like shaq to men.
"Hypothesis for why a deep male voice is attractive are that it signals (1) sexual maturity, (2) a larger body size, (3) good genetic quality, (4) dominance, or (5) all of the above."
To sum all of that shit up?
Women don't care about if a man is "pretty" or not. They care about their height, socioeconomic status, physical build, personality, nature, and I already mentioned money right? Can't be stingy with it.
This pretty much explains why Beyonce prefers camels over regular men.
i saw a picture of a girl on a dating site today and i was going to post the picture but i don't want it on my site
ok so in the picture she was in the bathroom doing a mirror picture and she had her gay male friend behind her
he had on a marilyn monroe shirt and he had his hand on his hip and he had on jean short shorts
i'm not even going to address him because that is just too far gone
i am going to address her and women like her though
if you are a woman and you are claiming to be christian, your male friends should not be homosexuals
its one thing to talk to someone at work here and there, its another thing to really be hanging out with people at your house and in your everyday personal life, who personify dysfunction and unrepentant behavior
i read somewhere that u are the "average" of the 5 people you hang around the most
so if u are a woman and all ur friends are gay guys who booty pop and wear high heels then u have a problem
if u don't care about God then go right ahead, however if u want to reach righteousness, you should come out from among those people who are out there like that
i know personally- as a guy, i find it to be a turn off when women are friends with gay guys.. its just weird.. like real talk.. if a woman noticed all my friends were butch lesbians, would she think that was a normal thing?
i am really asking.. would women think that was normal and ok?
i've been around lesbians sometimes who are not butch.. some act like normal women and so their homosexuality is not in my face all the time so its like its not always the elephant in the room.. but if u are hanging with a dude who is wearing booty shorts and carrying a purse.. come on man keep it real you can't overlook that.. dude is not even wearing regular clothes anymore, its like a costume ....like that shouldn't be normal to u
i'm not saying ur friends have to be perfect, but let me just say iron sharpens iron.. u are not going to be made better when ur friends are all outside of God's will
i am going to tell u right now, i am not perfect and i am not writing this to bash people with struggles, i am just saying put some thought into who u are rolling with.. and if u are not bound by the same things other people are bound by then maybe u should pray for them
AGAIN, I AM NOT PERFECT AND I KNOW PEOPLE HAVE STRONGHOLDS- i am not dissing them i am just saying sometimes we can do better with who we are calling our besties
this is another must see.. and i have to say.. 2:45 had me ROLLEN.. brah i died and came back to life on that one (but watch it from the beginning, don't skip to that)
as for the premise.. man i can't even really speak on it all i can do is laugh and smh.. if anyone wants to comment and leave their take go ahead- i'd like to see what anyone thinks of this
she's cute btw.. a little extra weight and well put together.. i tend to like that.. too bad pretty women are idiots 95% of the time... like i'm not really dissing her but what did she expect ?
i don't know much about this guy's music or anything.. but this song is really nice
i clicked a few more of his cuts after hearing this, and unfortunately it seemed like none of them were remotely close to this style
i feel like this style is amazing and could be used the entire length of an album.. the jazzy, electronic thing.. really well done
this is not my conversation, its someone else's.. but it shows how hypocritical women can be in casual interactions
one thing i've been wanting to say
i don't think women should choose a mate
throughout time women have never picked a man, the decision was always someone elses
her dad would be a part of the decision making process
the man who wanted her would be a part of it
i could be wrong but i think only fairly recently in time did we get to a point where women make their own decisions about who to marry
i feel like if women are the gender that wants to be loved, then they should not be choosing a spouse, the LOVER should choose.. meaning the man, the one whose job it is to love should choose
the one who is seeking love should wait until a man is interested
why would a person who wants to be loved try to choose a mate?
again the lovER should be the chooser.. if a woman chooses a man, then how can she guarantee he will love her? maybe he is just taking what is offered
and honestly we see this all the time don't we?
we see women talking about "i gave and gave and gave and all u did was take"
well see.. in my opinion, once u went out and found a dude u liked and started giving yourself to him, you messed up.. you should've just waited for a man who thought the world of you, and let him in
but women don't do this, they want to be in the driver's seat
but if you want love you cannot be in the driver's seat
the lover is in the driver's seat, the one who is being loved is in the passenger seat
i think about this a lot lately.. like i think about all the women who like me and how weird it is having women like me.. and how i am not always feeling them like that.. sometimes i'm just like.. uninterested.. so even if they got me to care about them.. i am not sure if i would ever truly LOVE them... and since husbands are commanded to love their wives, that would be out of order
but when u flip it around.. if i am the one in the driver's seat and i get to choose the woman.. then everyone wins
the woman knows she gets a man who loves her.. and i get the woman whom i love
i really wonder why women don't submit to this type of thinking
why do they always run from men who care about them, and run to men who have a high level of disregard concerning them? isn't this like counterproductive?
like i was walking through the hall at work recently and i asked myself a question.. i said "james, if you could be with anyone you know, who would it be?"
my answer was this girl named meagan who is short and cute.. this girl is so pretty to me.. she is chubby and she has short hair and she wears weird looking clothes because she can't seem to find a good balance between underdressing and overdressing.. she has a picture of her niece at her desk which i like cuz it tells me she is motherly and likes babies.. she is actually holding the baby in the picture so for a long time i thought it was actually her baby... she also is very giving, she was bringing a lot of candy to work and just telling people to come to her desk and get some.. she offers things to people a lot which i like.. she has a sort of selfless quality to herself but its not a loud selflessness, its very quiet and understated.. she also really likes music and she knows lyrics .. like not just choruses, she really listens to songs and knows lyrics..
and i think about her and i think to myself... wow.. i love everything about this girl
but when i tried to talk to her she turned me down
and i think.... sometimes like... do women want a guy like me who really is truly interested in them for every reason? like isn't that what women say they want? they want a guy who really loves them inside and out right?
well why do they always diss us?
even this past weekend, a girl told me she told a guy she didn't want to talk to him anymore.. this was after the guy offered to even move to be closer to her... to me that sounds like a serious guy.. like a guy who really cares about you and wants to be near you
but she legit said she told him she didn't want to talk to him anymore
and i was thinking to myself.. wow and here she is talking to me and i have avoided her for about a month
see what i'm saying? why are you calling me when i have ignored you for the past month
yet you tell the guy who is legitimately willing to MOVE CLOSER TO YOU TO BE NEAR YOU, that you don't want to talk to him anymore
i guess i feel like women are supposed to be submissive and it has to start somewhere
it has to start somewhere
it has to start with a "he really likes me so i will let him take me out" or "he is really into me and i'm not that into him but i'm going to at least talk to him on the phone to see what he's about" or "this guy loves me, i'm going to let him get to know me a little"
like why don't women ever want to be with the guy who really is into them?
should women give up this whole "i'm going to choose what i want" thing?
or are they just going to keep doing it?
are they ever going to get back to letting the man choose?
i always hear women say they want to be chose, but they never allow it
i even spoke to a woman a few years ago who had been married for like 15 yrs.. she told me when she met her husband, she turned him down for a date, but he was really eager to spend time with her
and somehow she finally gave him a chance, and then they ended up married
but it seems like most women don't give that guy a chance.. that guy who is like really feeling her is left out in the cold while some guy with a baby mama and 2 girlfriends gets that woman's best
should women be able to choose a spouse? or should it go back to a more patriarchal setup, where men, women's fathers, and extended family help her to decide who to marry?
what u peeps think?
i have noticed over time that i don't really associate pretty women with anything good anymore
they have turned out to be so worthless that i now view them primarily as a waste of time, energy, and resources
the unattractive ones are way more fun to be around.. and for a long time i resisted that- because who wants a girl who is not cute?
but more and more i am just like.. screw it, why not just give in and kick it with the busted chicks? because these ugly girls are usually cooler than balls
the pretty ones are only really cool with 2 types of men
A. the ones they are banging
B. gay guys
but i will say this.. the main prob with girls who are not cute is a lot of times they want to be your girlfriend
i actually spoke to a guy about this on a forum.. he was saying he only likes ugly women cuz they are so cool to be around.. and i asked him how he gets them to leave him alone
he said he moves around a lot so he never really has to deal with them being clingy
what do u peeps think?
is dealing with women who look like gremlins the way to go?
i mean- if i was only out for sex i'd probably say yes... but seeing as how i want to be married, i know deep down i have to keep my standards.. cuz if i marry a woman who i find unattractive, i already know i am going to abuse her lmao
i've talked about women before and how they are not objective in their assessments of situations
some of you may remember when i spoke about this, i said i always knew women were not objective because my sister always did things like ask who told a joke before she decided to laugh at it, or she would always only say dark skinned women were pretty and no one else (my sister is dark skinned)
this phenomenon is why getting advice from women in the arena of relationships is always going to yield the same result
"you are wrong and the girl is right"
"because i am a girl"
and please understand- this staunch mindframe is multiplied if the girl is the same race as the girl who is giving you advice
some of you may have thought i was just talking to be talking...
well here is the scientific proof:
Rudman & Goodwin (2004) conducted research on gender bias that measured gender preferences without directly asking the participants. Subjects at Purdue and Rutgers participated in computerized tasks that measured automatic attitudes based on how quickly a person categorizes pleasant and unpleasant attributes with each gender. Such a task was done to discover whether people associate pleasant words (good, happy, and sunshine) with women, and unpleasant words (bad, trouble, and pain) with men.
This research found that while both women and men have more favorable views of women, women's in-group biases were 4.5 times stronger than those of men, and only women (not men) showed cognitive balance among in-group bias, identity, and self-esteem, revealing that men lack a mechanism that bolsters automatic own group preference.
in other words: women can be characterized as thinking "if I am good and I am female, females are good," whereas men can be characterized as thinking "even if I am good and I am male, men are not necessarily good."
i think this is also part of the reason why women are comparatively more gullible than men
have u ever noticed how the first comment on youtube ruins the video 80% of the time?
sometimes it's a comment where someone says something like "wow you say ___ too much" so then the entire video is ruined because all i concentrate on is when that person says that thing
they did that with this one show where someone pointed out that they say "at the end of the day" over and over
and once they pointed it out, i couldn't even watch the show anymore
or sometimes they will ruin the main joke, or somehow undermine the entire purpose of the video with like one sentence
i don't know man its bonkers