who's fault is it? Posted by poolboyjames on July 5, 2009 at 5:01 PM comments (0)i have some things to say about "16 and pregnant"
basically.. i think the parents cause their kids to get pregnant the reason i say this is because the kids are lacking support, guidance, love, another parent, or a listening ear which is the parent's fault support- every kid needs support, they need to know they have something/someone to fall back on, or someone cheering them on guidance- i shouldn't even need to speak about this one, because its so basic to what a parent is, but apparently many parents don't parent (u liked that didn't u) its basically like kids need to be able to come to u, oftentimes kids don't go to their parents, not because they don't want to, but because their parents don't make themselves approachable on that level.. every kid wants/needs guidance and advice but straight up i see parents just being condescending to their kids rather than talking to them like people.. so these kids just go it alone for the most part love- if ur kid doesn't feel loved trust me they'll seek love in other places which will most likely be negative because the negative route is the easy route another parent- kids in single parent homes oftentimes feel like they're missing something and they go out and seek to have a need fulfilled.. think about it.. it takes a male and a female to get pregnant, that just shows u that God wanted each kid to have a mom and a dad, life from a male perspective and life from a female perspective, a lot ofthese kids with just one parent naturally feel an incompleteness and not to mention they deal with a much bigger lack of attention.. for one they are missing a parent, for two the parent they do have may be dating and have their own life, leaving the kid to raise theirself in some instances a listening ear- listening to your kid in my opinion is the #1 most important thing but the thing parents just don't do, i think its parental pride, u had this kid so why should u listen to them? what can they tell you? as a parent u think, "my kid can't tell me anything but i can tell my kid everything" parental pride.. it ends up being a brick wall for the kid.. the kid cannot get through to the parent no matter what because the parent is simply bent on their own perspective and opinion at all times like on this one episode of "16 and pregnant" the girl was going with her mom to get a car, the girl said, "i was thinkin about a ford focus" the mom said "i hate ford focuses" and basically ended the conversation like i'm right, ur wrong and i don't wanna hear anything else about a ford focus.. i am sitting there like WHAT THE F*CK!? why would u shoot down your kid like that? like even if u don't want her to get that car, at least hear her out, what are the pros and cons of the car? discuss it.. like do u really expect this kid to obey you when u never listen to her? so to me these issues are the PARENT'S issues, like the parents cause their kids to get pregnant, and then when the kid gets pregnant then the parent acts like its such a big surprise and ish look at run's house, his daughters are good role models, they have respect for themselves, they are beautiful but they aren't out giving pearls to swine why do u think that is? he and his wife are madly in love with those girls, each time they talk on the phone its "i love you" .. those girls know inside that they are valued and loved jojo got caught with marijuana.. bad yes, but the dad called it a MISTAKE.. he didn't act like he was holier than thou and say "YOU'RE RUINING YOUR LIFE! YOU WANT TO SIT AROUND AND SMOKE YOUR LIFE AWAY!" no he let him know the issue was serious but maintained that we all make mistakes, and he had different members of the family talk to him.. the bible says "victory is won through many counselors" do i think run or his kids are perfect? not exactly, but i do think as a whole, he and his wife are good parents and many of these parents i see on "16 and pregnant" are not that good i see them and they are cynical, they are always seeing the negative in any situation, and the kid reason's "i can't make mom happy so i'm gonna seek approval elsewhere" then they come home pregnant i rest my case
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JaimsThese are my blogs from 2009. I started them in May of that year when I couldn't work on music but still needed a way to express myself. Archives
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