This girl I liked I noticed would never really mention her boyfriend around me
Or if she did then she’d say something negative about him, like one of his bad habits or how she was planning to leave him My opinion on this? Its dishonest Someone suggested maybe she knew I liked her and she wanted to spare my feelings Perhaps.. But how would that spare my feelings? To me that is a narrow view I will admit, yes if I like u then I may not want to hear about the fact that u have a boyfriend, but its kinda like getting bills in the mail, u don’t want bills, but u want to keep your phone and electricity going, so u deal with it I may not want to hear this girl I like has a relationship, but in the long run that is much better for me than believing she is single If u downplay your relationship to the person who likes u, and u say your reason for doing that is because “I didn’t want to hurt their feelings” I feel like u probably either #1 have a very narrow viewpoint, or #2 u are a liar.. Because u are obviously trying to keep that person who likes u around to boost your own ego And there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a compliment or enjoying attention, etc.. its just if u are giving a person false hope then u are being selfish and hurtful to that person Its like if u met someone and u asked them “hey what’s ur status?” And they said “well I’m kinda seeing someone” when in reality they were married It’s the same thing Downplaying what u have going But I feel like if u need to downplay your relationship then u are in the wrong one I feel like a person should be proud of their relationship whether it’s a b/f g/f thing or a fiance thing or a marriage thing I believe honesty is the best policy The last girl who liked me, I told her I didn’t want to pursue anything with her because she had too much drama in her life (which was true) But also she had a kid, and when I look back I think I should have told her that also Cuz she may have thought, “if I get rid of some of this drama he will accept me” But in reality nothing she could have done would have made me accept her because she had a kid and I would never date a girl who had a kid so I may have given her a false hope I feel like I did good in that I told her no from jump and stuck to that, but maybe she would have moved on quicker if I also said “and ur daughter is beautiful but I don’t date women with kids” So yeah even I could have done better, so I ain’t sayin I’m exactly innocent of the behavior I’m just saying from my insight today Its way better just to be honest from jump if u want to preserve another person’s feelings Checklist of things u may want to be upfront with: U are in a relationship U are divorced U have kids U don’t like pool boy music (instant deal-breaker)
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JaimsThese are my blogs from 2009. I started them in May of that year when I couldn't work on music but still needed a way to express myself. Archives
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