i think one of the most destructive things that is taught to men is to pursue women
we've all heard it our whole lives "women like to be pursued" "pursue women" "show her you care" etc etc i realized years ago that it never worked (although i haven't really understood why until recently) whenever you pursue a woman all she does is run away whenever you avoid a woman she chases you this explains why i always ended up with ugly women while the pretty ones always ignored me i seriously used to wonder (not even that long ago) why is it that i always attract ugly women but the ones i really like avoid me like the plague i couldn't figure it out i remember one day i was talking to a girl named toya and i explained it and she said "well treat the ones u like as if u don't like them and treat the ones u don't like as if u like them" while what she said made sense on some level- i still didn't even try it or consider it because my thought process at the time was- "if i pay the ones i like no attention i'll surely never get them... and if i treat a woman i don't like as if i like her then i'll be leading her on" however today i look at this a little different women only look at things through lenses of strength and weakness and value and non-valuable they don't see effort, commitment, care, adoration, etc they only see through a lens of what they perceive to be strength and weakness.. and they consider the ability to leave and not care, the ability to not call, being busy, being preoccupied, not being available as strength they are viewing that as either "he is pursuing his purpose" or "he has women already" both of which make her want you women don't view longsuffering or patience as strengths in a man.. they view a man's ability to leave and not care as strength.. this is why the nice guy always loses, and women chase the guy who doesn't care about them.. because they only see what they perceive as strength and weakness.. nothing else.. if you put up with her out of love she sees you as a weak coward... love, caring, and giving do not register in her mind at all.. this is why she will pay for a hotel with a guy who uses her and ditch you even though you had a nice date setup for her and paid for CARE DOES NOT REGISTER TO WOMEN so anyway.. my thought process today would probably be "just treat all women like you don't like them" whether they are pretty or not the idea that men should pursue women is literally the absolute worst advice anyone could ever give you women HATE being pursued because if you pursue them they will automatically place you in the "weak" and "not valuable" category i used to think women like being treated like crap.. but i've realized that women don't even perceive how they are being treated.. let me explain ok say you hand a dog some food and you're wearing gym clothes.. the dog will eat the food say you hand a dog some food and you're wearing a 3 piece suit.. the dog will eat the food say you hand a dog some food dressed as a dog.. the dog will eat the food your choice of clothing doesn't matter to the dog in that scenario because the dog is fixated on the food that is how women are.. they don't even perceive treatment at all because they only see what they deem to be strength and weakness so you have to see what women view as a trait of strength and exude that... and also remember women are irrational beings- so what does that mean? i'll explain it but let me tell a little story i remember one day i was talking to a girl and she said something that stuck with me we were talking about how we were both single and couldn't seem to find what we were looking for i was telling her my issues and she replied "you just want what you can't have" i didn't want to break the flow of conversation but that was just crazy to me.. i asked her to explain that and she explained it.. but i was still just sitting there like.. trying to make sense of what she said like i said- i didn't really want to break the flow of conversation so i dropped it but i knew that i had stumbled onto something what i realized was that when she told me i "want what i can't have" the reason that made no sense to me was because that's how SHE thinks.. and more importantly? THAT'S HOW WOMEN THINK women want what they can't have.. i have literally never desired something i can't have.. like that makes no sense to us men.. it makes more sense to just get something that we can have.. it makes sense to get something that can be ours to keep in peace but women legit want what they can't have and this is why they hate being pursued -they want the guy they can't catch -they want the guy who is already married -they want the guy who is out of their league -they want the guy who ignores them -they want the guy who is too busy for them i want you all to think about this also in a pursuit... who is in the position of power? the person who pursues? or the person who is being chased? i'd say the person who is being chased is the one in power because they set all the parameters of the interaction.. and so with that said, this is also why women hate being pursued.. because they perceive you to be in a position of weakness the person being chased is in control because the chaser must adjust to the chasee's program.. the chasee creates the standards and boundaries which the chaser must abide by so right from the get go as soon as you chase a woman, she perceives that you are in a position of weakness and this is why they run away.. and women view things from a social lens anyway, so what that means is, when there are any social dynamics at play- chances are she has a greater sense of them than you do.. so in some cases, before you even notice you're being perceived as weak, she has already moved on from you pursuing them doesn't work.. they don't view it like "oh he is showing me he cares, so let me open up to him" they view it like: "he is too nice" "if he has time to pursue me then he has nothing else going on" "if i'm the only girl he has then obviously he is a low value man" "i can jerk him around so i don't respect him" literally the idea that women like to be pursued by men is one of the biggest lies perpetuated in modern society its just a FLAT OUT LIE i will say it again THE IDEA THAT WOMEN LIKE TO BE PURSUED IS ONE OF THE BIGGEST LIES PERPETUATED IN MODERN SOCIETY DO NOT PURSUE WOMEN, if you do they are automatically going to go into "i can ignore you" mode or "i can devalue u" or "i don't need you" or "i'm too lazy to answer my phone" or "i was washing my hair" or "he's too available" etc etc women only react well to your scarcity which actually kinda makes me think women WILL NOT act right unless they believe they have an incentive which come to think of it- supports my belief that women are men minus integrity (and logic) anyway.. the key is to look at what women deem to be strength and/or value and exude that and then disappear.. let her come to you you may be thinking "well what if she doesn't come around?" that's the whole trap many men get caught in.. you're LEGITIMATELY supposed to not care.. women are essentially trying to detect whether you have an abundance mentality or not.. and a man with an abundance mentality probably will not sweat the loss of a woman because he will have more.. that's why women consider not caring to be a trait of a man who is valuable.. women are trying to gauge whether or not other women like you or whether or not you have options through your conduct if other women like you then if they have you they get a status boost.. its the same reason women like men who are already taken.. they have a herd mentality- they want who all the other women want.. if none of her friends see you as valuable you're probably on thin ice now learning this has brought me to a place where i can see how easily women can be used and manipulated but i'm christian and i would honestly rather be alone than partake in sin and iniquity.. because if i partake in that for a woman then that means the woman is my lord as opposed to Jesus so for me- i'm just going to fly solo unless the Lord gives me a good, virtuous, and submissive woman from His hand because His will is perfect.. remember... "art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife" "a prudent wife comes from the Lord" so we have a choice.. to beat women at their games, or just wait on the Lord like diddy said... "i got no time for fake ones" don't pursue women.
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