i was talking to a girl not too long ago and we were talking about broken women slash narcissistic women slash jezebels
the reason i was talking to her about these types of women is because she used to be one of those types of women.. so i was able to pick her brain about why these women act the way they do
in the conversation i said: these women have nothing inside.. they have no heart strings to pull on.. they're just empty.. moments where they're supposed to care they just don't because there's nothing inside, they're just a shell
the girl responded, oh there's something in there, its just deeply hidden
she said there's a wall, then another wall, then a brick wall, etc
so i accepted that in the moment... but over time i realized that while she may have been right.. it doesn't matter because if something is hidden then it might as well not even be there
maybe the woman knows deep down that she has feelings but no one else does
maybe she knows she cares but no one else does
maybe she knows she has vulnerabilities but no one else does
maybe she knows she is afraid but no one else does
maybe she knows she loves the man sitting across from her but he doesn't
since no one knows how she really feels, no one can respond to her "properly" in other words, no one can really give her what she wants
in proverbs 27:5 the bible says: Open rebuke is better than secret love.
what that means is that positive feelings and sentiments are utterly WORTHLESS if they're hidden
i remember at my previous job, talking to seniors on the phone and realizing they had REAL problems.. like losing coordination or getting dementia
that caused me to understand that i was more fortunate than i realized.. because something as simple as having a working brain is a great blessing
this then led me to going back to school because what is the point of having a healthy brain if you're not going to use it?
and THAT is the problem with these women.. what is the point of having femininity if you always deny that side of yourself? what is the point of being in a relationship if you never show that you care? what is the point of having a heart if you never allow it to grow attached to anyone?
so basically- in short.. while that girl may have been correct that damaged women do have feelings... they might as well not because no one is made aware of them
if a woman is closed off, and disagreeable, and invulnerable, and has walls up, and is standoffish, and comes off as uncaring, disinterested, and unimpressed....
THEN IT DOESN'T MATTER IF THEY ACTUALLY DO HAVE THE CAPACITY TO CARE
IT ALSO DOESN'T MATTER IF THEY ACTUALLY DO WANT WANT LOVE, ATTACHMENT, AND COMMITMENT
BECAUSE NO ONE WILL BE ABLE IDENTIFY THOSE WANTS, NEEDS, AND DESIRES IN HER
THUS NO ONE WILL BE ABLE TO PROVIDE THEM
if a woman is on the whole "i'm a strong independent woman who don't need no man!" thing and her loving feminine heart is completely hidden from the world.. then the fact is, it might as well not even be there at all
Open rebuke is better than secret love.
broken women's hidden love, care, attachment, and femininity, aren't doing them any favors.. they will have to open back up if they want to heal the existing wounds
they will have to either do that or stay on that neverending cycle of acting like superman and suffering in silence