here's a link to my t-shirt
if interested then u know the drill
i was thinking about narcissists the other day and i realized this clip from superbad is a good representation of who they are
in this clip you can see mclovin was trying to get alcohol even though he is underage and he has dropped some beer on the floor
he doesn't acknowledge that he has done this because making the store clerk feel like he's in the wrong means he doesn't have to deal with any consequences.. by shifting blame, mclovin can escape accountability.. so his self preservation becomes the store clerk's bad day
that is how narcissists are.. they have issues but instead of addressing their issues, they proceed to make you feel like you're the issue.. by putting blame on you for things, they are able to escape accountability and blame and they never have to deal with the root of their problems
since the root of the issue remains, you (the non-narc) just end up inheriting problems with no actual solutions
each time u solve a problem, they move the goalpost and u have another one on your hands because the actual root of the issue is not what they say it is, the true problem is the narcissist's mindset
so their self centeredness, their self preservation, and their lack of accountability just turn into a bunch of messes you feel like you have to clean up, and it doesn't end.. its just a big cycle
btw if you are in a situation like what i have described, feel free to leave a comment... i am willing to help you through your situation through email or through the phone.. narcissists are truly one of those things where no one understands the situation until they've gone through it, and i've gone through it so if anyone is in a bad situation with a narc feel free to reach out to me
one thing to look out for when choosing women is this.. what does she do when you try to tell her something or give her good advice?
personally, what i've seen a lot with modern women is when you try to tell them something real, or give them good advice, or try to direct their path- they either say something back, deflect, or they just go silent
i think any of these things are a bad sign
when they talk back its like them just giving some type of rebuttal
when they deflect, its like them saying "you do it too" type of thing
when they go silent it usually means they know you're right but because they believe they are above you- they refuse to acknowledge it
i believe all three of these are essentially manifestations of pride
typically you can't tell modern women anything and once you recognize that, its really time to let them go
its not worth the headache of trying to get them to see the truth when all they're going to do is fight with u about it whether you're right or wrong
its better to just be alone or find a woman who can accept correction or direction without giving you pushback.... because all that really amounts to is the fact that she doesn't trust you or she doesn't respect you
if women accuse their friends of lying, watch out because sometimes what that means is they have a tendency to lie to one another
don't look at it just like "her friends lie to her" look at it like.. "she and her friends have a culture of lying to one another"
the problem is this.. if she and her friends have a history of lying and withholding facts from one another then what makes you think she won't lie to you?
one thing i've seen a lot on youtube is where guys try to have discussions about relationships or society or politics but they make the mistake of inviting women to the panel
this is seriously something that has to stop
time and time again i have seen this happen and it rarely ever goes well
why does it rarely (if ever) go well?
its because women constantly derail the conversation.. the thing i've noticed that women do is they just pick at the conversation.. they don't add to the dialogue they just take from it.. you introduce a concept or a theory or hypothesis and all they do is sit back and look for an opportunity to pick at it
and they don't even pick at it in a meaningful way, they typically pick at what you say by disagreeing with something that doesn't actually matter in the grand scheme of what you're presenting, or they just sit quietly until they think you say something disparaging about women and they proceed to insert an exception
"you're wrong, some women DO like sports.. my aunt goes to every such and such game and blah blah blah"
"women can do construction just as well as men do, we just don't because they don't encourage us to do it in schools"
they are always trying to say something contrary that doesn't amount to anything worthwhile.. they derail the conversations nearly every time
this is something that truly needs to stop.. we as men must remember women don't always belong in the picture.. just like how sometimes u will say to a child "leave the room, grown folks are talking".. sometimes we need to have that same attitude with women
and of course if you dismiss a woman from a place then you may get more backlash than what it's worth but what we CAN do is just not invite them in the first place
it just doesn't make sense to invite women to give their baseless opinions anymore.. like we need to just move past that.. i have seen so many men shoot themselves in the foot when they try to invite women to a forum or discussion because not only do they not contribute anything outside of "women's issues" (aka complaining).. they also try to poke holes in legitimate discussion that the men bring to the table.. and not only that- they are more often than not NEEDLESSLY COMBATIVE
they come onto shows and forums thinking something like "i have to represent for all women and the best way to do that is to disagree and be difficult"
of course they would never say that outloud but it is obvious that that is their inner dialogue.. and it's sad.. it's sad that they think being difficult makes them look smart.. they don't realize it just makes them annoying
women just don't have the level of objectivity needed to be of any use in debates and discussions and panels and forums.. women just aren't meant to be opinionated lets face it
since when should a follower be opinionated?
we have to get back to some sense of gender roles.. and one place to start is youtube.. STOP INVITING WOMEN TO SOUND OFF ON THINGS ALL THE TIME
if you're doing a video on fashion tips, or weddings, or cooking, or raising children- then sure, invite a female
but if you are trying to have a real discussion about life and far reaching concepts, or a discussion on something mostly male (like sports or video games) then don't invite a woman because whatever she "contributes" will likely be biased and slanted and/or useless and needlessly combative
women don't say anything of value when you ask them about video games.. all they ever say is something like "there needs to be more strong women in games" which A. isn't even true because i can name like 10 modern games with female leads off the top of my head.. and B. here they are again monopolizing the conversation and bringing feminism into a discussion about video games
when you ask them about politics- again, all they do is try to monopolize the conversation and make it about women and the "wage gap"
you ask them about relationships and all they do is try to blame men and exonerate women.. there's no objectivity.. they just speak from a place of emotion
you ask them about life and they give you nothing but tired cliches.. they have nothing worthwhile to contribute to the discussion
we have to stop inviting them because they ruin our conversations... we can't build the way we are supposed to build when we have women sitting around inserting their nonsense and useless rhetoric.. no one takes their child to work with them, because the child would ultimately be a needless distraction.. similarly, we should not bring women into our male spaces and think tanks
i've realized that oftentimes women don't even really understand the underlying purpose of our discussions.. when you hear women say things like "why do you care?" or "why do you keep talking about this?" or "i wouldn't look so deep into it if i were you" then you realize they just aren't built for that type of discourse
we have to stop allowing them to have a voice just so they can sit there and try to turn a large important discussion into a tiny nitpick-fest.. we have to just put an end to it because women oftentimes are contrarians for contrarianism's sake.. they think saying the opposite of what you say makes them your equal.. they are looking for validation in the form of an argument basically.. we give them what they want when we dignify their ridiculous thoughts with responses.. and it needs to stop
even today i saw it on a video a guy was trying to discuss how being physically unattractive can affect people and the woman had to complain about him using the word "ugly"
like he wasn't even referring to anyone specific, he was just saying it to be able to address the topic in a clear fashion, but it upset her
awwwww, poor baby can't deal with words that upset her.. awww, so sowwy let me ESCORT YOU OFF THE PREMISES
come on men we just need to stop inviting women to many of our forums where the idea is to build precept upon precept because women aren't logical enough to handle it
and the WORST is when there's a topic about dating or men and women and our differences because women are going to try and turn it into a battle as opposed to a necessary discussion on gender relations
if u say anything less than flattering here they come with some huge dissertation.. meanwhile she thinks its ok to say things like "men are pigs" or "women are smarter than men" ..even a concept as common as "women's intuition" is sexist and should no longer be tolerated.. i haven't seen any evidence that women have some otherworldly sense that men don't have... also women's typical "i like bad boys" choice in men seems to point to a complete lack of intuition and foresight as opposed to an abundance of them
i just wanted to speak on this
we as men have to stop giving women the opportunity to stomp on what we build.. verbally or financially or in any other way
rethink giving women a voice in your space
i think the main meaning of mgtow is that peace is more important than sex and relationships
as men our first inclination is not to just give up on our pursuit of women no matter how taxing it becomes.... but mgtow is the first thing that has really reminded us: "oh wait, i do have a choice, i can just stop caring"
men everywhere are waking up:
"oh wait, i don't have to be stressed out"
"oh wait, i don't have to be on her emotional rollercoaster"
"oh wait, i can save money"
"oh wait, i was only doing a, b, and c for her... but i don't want to do any of those things"
"oh wait, i don't have to put up with this"
"oh wait, i don't actually have to compromise, i can just walk away"
we wanted women so bad that we were mesmerized.. we didn't even know there was another option
we didn't realize we don't have to chase
we didn't realize "no" is a word we can use
mgtow has helped men to stop defining themselves through the thoughts and ideas of women and instead define themselves in other ways
it has given so many men their peace back.. so many men have left relationships and left the rat race as well.. and they are indeed oftentimes synonymous.. i even remember writing about this in a song once when i said
i wanna be an attractive guy/
i want chicks to see that i'm fly, and be magnetized/
but take a close look at my life/
to see exactly why, its like a maze that i'm trapped inside/
i want chicks but the chicks want money/
i try to get money and it just runs from me/
so the cat-chase leads me to a rat-race/
and peeps wonder why i stay havin' bad days/
men are exiting that maze, exiting that cat chase, and exiting that rat race..
men are leaving in droves
mgtow is constantly censored and banned everywhere because the powers that be don't want men to have peace and freedom.. they don't want men to exit the matrix
but the idea that maintaining peace is more important than maintaining a woman is just the truth
so the contrary arguments really just fall flat
i had to post this.. this was SO true... as soon as he said it has more to do with them wanting to avoid their own issues than it is about you messing something up- i was like wow i think he's onto something, then when he explained it i was like wow he is 100% on point with his analysis here
this video may help any man who is frustrated with being ghosted.. as men we are natural problem solvers so we want to know the "why" behind the situation, and i believe this video helps tremendously with the "why" behind why we are ghosted by women sometimes
wow look at what the media does with language to throw men under the bus daily