i've dealt with so much of this crap in my life that i just had to share this
found in Revelation
15 I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. 16 So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.
found in James
he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. 7For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. 8A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.
u have to choose to be hot or cold because the lukewarm aka the double minded will receive nothing
in other words
the hot and the cold both prosper over the lukewarm
think about that.. the cold prosper over the lukewarm
the unrepentant sinner who is doing everything they want to do prospers over the lukewarm who only does half of the bad things they want to do
why is this? because the lukewarm is a complete failure.. the lukewarm isn't a good good person or a good bad person
i've been really unhappy lately with weebly because they won't let us use the old templates
the new templates they have are really stupid looking and they don't lend themselves to a blog site.. they lend themselves to sites where people sell things but i don't do that
because of this, and the fact that i've used up all my space here, i think i'm going to go to a different site
i will let u all know what site i move to when i move.. i won't leave anyone hanging
so if anyone wants to keep up with me just check back here maybe once every 2 months or so and i will post a link to my new site
this one will stay up, i don't plan on ever taking it down.. but like i said, i just hate the templates and i also used all the space
this is a good time for me to try a different site because i have disliked the look of my site for about a year
i have a LOT of stuff i can write about however my output has been slower because my life has been out of control
i may sit and write about my 2018 one day but the jist of it will just be that nothing good happened to me the entire year... i lost my job, my church, my apartment, and even started talking to my ex again only to lose all my respect for her in like less than 10 seconds one night smh
if anyone wants me to speak on any of this let me know..
but i want anyone who may like what i write to know this
even if i'm not on here writing as much as i used to, my heart is still in this..... so just bear with me
soooooo apparently the blog limit on this site is 10.. so i will have to figure something out for 2019
as u can see i've been doing 2019 in my 2018 year.. but i'm hoping that's temporary so give me some time to figure something out peeps
i was talking to a woman at my job and she said some things i want to talk about here
ok she talks about God and stuff and she says things sometimes that don't really make sense to me
like she says she's learning and growing in God but then she turns around and says she realizes she shouldn't withhold sex from her boyfriend
ok if you're growing in God shouldn't you be shying away from fornication?
you're shying away from manipulation but not fornication
another thing she said to me was she said she is very blessed, she said she feels like she is more blessed than most people
then she went on to say she has to change one of her tires every month.. but she was saying since her car has never broke down on the highway she is blessed
to me, its seems like being blessed would include not having to change a tire once a month.. not being in a car accident and being alive is cool and is a blessing on some level but being alive doesn't necessarily mean you are blessed.. you can be alive and cursed
she also ended up having a toothache and ended up missing like 4 days of work over it.. and even after she got back to work, one day i offered her some of this huge cookie i bought and she wouldn't accept it because her tooth still hurt
then she went on to tell me about her brothers and when she did this she was saying her brothers have kids and careers and money.. meanwhile this woman doesn't have these things.. she said she had a miscarriage.. her relationship with her boyfriend is going on 10 years long and it is fruitless as in no marriage and no children.. and when it comes to her relationship, it's long distance.. she currently lives with her parents
so my point was that she doesn't seem blessed.. don't get me wrong, i understand she could be blessed but it doesn't really sound that way to me
i'm not saying she can't be blessed one day or whatever but right now i wouldn't say her situation is that great
so now you may be wondering what my point is..
my point is i feel that she is a bit delusional.. there is a chance she may have been given a delusional spirit
in haggai the bible says the following:
5Now therefore thus saith the LORD of hosts; Consider your ways.
6Ye have sown much, and bring in little; ye eat, but ye have not enough; ye drink, but ye are not filled with drink; ye clothe you, but there is none warm; and he that earneth wages earneth wages to put it into a bag with holes.
7Thus saith the LORD of hosts; Consider your ways.
9Ye looked for much, and, lo it came to little; and when ye brought it home, I did blow upon it. Why? saith the LORD of hosts. Because of mine house that is waste, and ye run every man unto his own house. 10Therefore the heaven over you is stayed from dew, and the earth is stayed from her fruit. 11And I called for a drought upon the land, and upon the mountains, and upon the corn, and upon the new wine, and upon the oil, and upon that which the ground bringeth forth, and upon men, and upon cattle, and upon all the labour of the hands.
ok so here's what i am trying to point out
the Lord used hardship as a way to get peoples attention and get them to come to him and repent and do His will
so my point is.. if you are a person who feels like they are blessed, when they actually aren't then wouldn't that indicate strong delusion? wouldn't that indicate a delusional spirit?
because you are experiencing hardship but since you are viewing it as blessing, how can you really repent or change or ask God for mercy or ask God for favor?
if you are being afflicted and you don't even notice it, then you are essentially lost
here is more from haggai that explains the point i'm trying to make:
16Since those days were, when one came to an heap of twenty measures, there were but ten: when one came to the pressfat for to draw out fifty vessels out of the press, there were but twenty. 17I smote you with blasting and with mildew and with hail in all the labours of your hands; yet ye turned not to me, saith the LORD. 18Consider now from this day and upward, from the four and twentieth day of the ninth month, even from the day that the foundation of the LORD's temple was laid, consider it. 19Is the seed yet in the barn? yea, as yet the vine, and the fig tree, and the pomegranate, and the olive tree, hath not brought forth: from this day will I bless you.
so in there you see that sometimes people are afflicted and it is meant to bring them to the Lord but in the yellow you see that sometimes people don't recognize this affliction and/or just don't come to the Lord
and this is what i saw in that woman at work.. she had a lot of issues, changing a tire once a month, a miscarriage, a 9 year boyfriend girlfriend relationship, lack of success or accomplishment, toothache, not prospering like her siblings, living with parents, etc etc
but since she doesn't see these things as being much of an issue its like she doesn't understand maybe the Lord is trying to get her to change her ways or grow (for example, maybe trying to get her to stop fornicating or stop having a stubborn, unsubmissive spirit)
so i just wanted to point this out for anyone reading to see that we have to be sensitive to what is going on around us because it could be the Lord using our circumstances to speak to us
the worst thing for us would be to be delusional about where we are.. and i feel that this female is a bit delusional .. i could be wrong but based on our conversations we've had, this is my assessment
so again, to anyone reading this don't be that woman.. be aware of who u are and where you stand and where you need to grow and what your life is saying to you.. and put away sin and iniquity and you will likely be able to see clearer and this will help you to get in line with where the Lord wants you to be in your life
lastly, i currently live with my parents and i'm single and not in a great job etc. so i'm not saying i'm better than her.. i'm just saying one of us sees the dysfunction and therefore the need to change and grow in the Lord and seek His favor, while the other one doesn't seem to see it
u want to see dysfunction for what it is as opposed to accept it as normal
recently an older woman said some things that were ridiculous to me
she said her in-laws didn't care about her
when she explained it she was saying it was because "they didn't accept her"
when i asked why, she went on to say they didn't want women to wear pants or makeup and they didn't believe in things like dancing to worldly music, but she didn't agree with those rules
the problem i have with this is she doesn't see her own fault in this relationship breakdown
she was saying how one day her in-laws were going to do a Christian mission trip or something and they didn't want women to wear pants or makeup etc and instead of just falling in line, and wearing a dress or skirt and leaving the makeup at home, she started asking why she couldn't do those things and saying she feels like she should be able to
the problem with this is that you as a person should have a submissive or cooperative bone in your body.. like even if you disagree why don't you have enough humility to just ride with the program for a few hours? also, if you disagree why don't you have enough character to keep quiet until the proper time and place to ask about dress code? (likely behind closed doors)
for anyone who may not feel me let me paint this in a different way.. imagine if i was going to a men's church function with a group of guys and they said "we won't be wearing hats at this function" and my immediate response is, "why can't i wear my hat?" "i should be able to wear my hat!" "wearing a hat isn't a sin!"
i should have enough decency to just respect the rules and if it bothers me that much i should wait for the proper time and place to bring up this concern, not just be contentious and tell the group "yall rules ain't workin for me" because if i do start saying "yall rules can kick rocks" then i probably won't really be fully accepted, not only because of disagreement, but because of a lack of couth and humility
so anyway, as i was listening to this woman act like a victim in the situation this is what i was seeing in my head.. it wasn't that her in-laws didn't like her, or that they were against her, it was that when they tried to include her she had a lot of contention and strife or contrarianism on deck for them
that unsubmissive heart was the problem, not the "evil in-laws"
like if you can't fall in line enough to inconvenience yourself for a few hours to do something for the Lord then you probably need to grow in maturity
i've gone to church many times and been told to take my hat off, i didn't just leave church or kick up dust about the dress code, i would fall in line because not doing so would be both petty and prideful of me
the woman's complete lack of accountability to me was mind-boggling
this is something i've seen in many women
they only view a situation from their own perspective but not the perspective of the other person or the situation itself
and what's crazy is, women are typically the first ones to tell you that YOU'RE not considering all of the other situations/scenarios when the opposite is usually true
its just like when women say things like "women are sensitive and consider the needs, wants, and feelings of others" but if you try to explain any of the reasons for the men's rights movement or mgtow then she will cover her ears and tell you you're wrong
so anyway that was really all i wanted to point out.. and at the end of the day we as men have to realize that since women want to act like children (meaning selfish, self-centered, and not accountable) we have to treat them like children
never in a million years did i think i would give derrick jaxn props but this is one of the most necessary, cathartic, and impactful videos i've ever seen
my ex used to always say this crap about putting her in her place and it was a constant source of contention between us because my stance was "you should already want to be in your place" while her stance was "u are failing because you're not putting me in my place"
well this video is 100% the truth
DO NOT deal with a chick who tells u she wants u to put her in her place because all it means is she is going to act like a child for the duration of your relationship.. she has drama quotas she must meet and the cost is your sanity
anyway this is a must see so peep the video
first off, if you click this.. the only thing that's necessary to look at is what the woman says.. the man's commentary imo is kinda unnecessary
second.. i want to say that i've seen this same thing this woman talks about.. i remember seeing it at work among coworkers, and i also remember seeing a woman say in a youtube video that she got a white boyfriend and she submitted to him but not to black guys (she didn't say it that directly, but that was the jist of what she said) and i remember i commented on what she said to bring attention to it and she said "lol" and her minions who came to comment later just said i was jealous.. i wasn't jealous i just thought that was ignorant.. anyway, very cool to see a woman acknowledge this nonsense.. white guys are not more deserving of a black woman's cooperation than black men.. nothing against white guys i'm just saying a good man is a good man.. if u date interracially that's fine (i did it for 5 yrs and would do it again) but don't treat one race worse than another
third.. the hard truth is that men want respect.. one thing that bothers me is when women say things like "what is submission?" or "what does it mean to respect my man?" ..i'm going to tell u from experience.. if a woman asks you a question like that then it means she will be utterly useless to you.. it is truly frustrating to see women respect and submit to their bosses at work but come home and treat you like public enemy number one.. treat you with disdain, be condescending to you, hit you with all types of frustrating arguments and manipulations and things.. like.. it's an awful thing when the person who is supposed to be your helper is your hindrance
but i'm happy to see men waking up over the past few years and just making different decisions.. not allowing women to stress us and not succumbing to our love for them like samson did
but that's all i wanted to share for now... ok peeps have a good day, peace
i am tired of people who hear or read the things i say and call me bitter
i'm not bitter i just have actual experiences i want to share
plus this is so hypocritical because i hear women saying things about men and no one calls them bitter
women walk around saying things like "all guys want is sex" but no one says "you need to get over the past" no one says "you only focus on the negative" or "stop being bitter"
but if i say something about women being narcissistic or manipulative or void of logic then i have to hear about how i'm bitter... how about i'm perceptive?
women are free to walk around society talking about how men rape
women kill their own babies with abortion, divorce rape men, and commit paternity fraud
the only difference is rape is illegal and all those awful things women do are 100% legal
so i don't want to hear about how i'm "bitter" anymore for telling the truth
because you know who else hates the truth? satan.. so which team are u really playing for when you feel threatened that i speak the truth?