i found out my ex g/f was seeing someone when we were still talking
of course we weren't TOGETHER but we were still talking and she was seeing someone i want to talk about some of the things that i felt were suspect during our relationship (in no particular order) 1. i noticed a few times when she talked about the concept of friends with benefits, she would get this smirk/smile on her face.. it hurt me to see that and it of course just didn't sit right with me.. it just made me feel like that type of setup is something she likes but would never really say outloud to me that was also something i felt she could do behind my back, like say if i ever made her upset or something.. why not cheat on james and come back later like nothing happened 2. she accused me of talking to other girls or "cheating" or not being committed... what i mean by this is like... she would sometimes want to see my phone and if i said no she would make it a big deal and say i had something to hide looking back, i just feel like she did that because she knew what she was doing and/or had a propensity to do.. its like when a thief suspects other people of wanting to steal from him she was talking to other dudes so she felt i was talking to other girls 3. she never said anything about having a sexual standard.. most people at some point will say something like "i'm waiting for marriage" or "i will only have sex if i'm in love" or they will express some type of standard i never heard anything like that from her.. it was like she wanted me to believe she had the mind of a virgin but she never said anything that resembled a conservative sexual outlook one time i asked her if she would compare me to other guys she's been with if we ever got married and had sex and she said something like "i really don't know much about sex.. i act like i do but i really don't" it just sounded like lip service to me.. like let me act like i'm innocent now- but any other time i'm talking like a sailor about sex i think her standard was for a man to have a pleasing body and she wants him to manhandle her.. outside of that there is no standard.. i never heard one.. even when she accused me of saying she was a slut (which i never said).. she still didn't offer up a disclaimer or a standard.. it was just like "you think i'm loose" as opposed to "i will only have sex if...." tip for women: offer a standard.. this will help your man to trust you.. if u do like my ex and say things like "i didn't care about any of my ex boyrfriends" you will make yourself look like u have ZERO sexual standards because we both know u had sex with them.. so if u had sex with men u don't care about- u look whorish 4. she would sometimes give short replies in text messages, or not answer her phone, or she would refuse to meet me, or cancel plans, or hours to reply to a simple text message, or sometimes not respond to a text when i know she should technically be free keep in mind i'm just giving u all these examples because these are red flags 5. here's a good one... but it has to do with me instead of her i started feeling less trust... looking back.. i even remember looking up things on youtube like "how to know if your girlfriend is cheating on you" she had a few of the signs also the thing about situations like this is you still sort of wonder "is it just me?" if u are losing trust- while it may be subtle, i'm going to just tell u- its probably not just you so if u find youself just feeling weird inside about the person you're with deep down... u may need to let it go 6. sudden mood shifts.. which was common with her anyway, but like.. if its a sudden mood shift that affects your relationship.. that's prob a red flag what i mean is.. there may be an argument which has a sudden mood shift in it.. that may be normal if that's all there is to it but if an argument has a sudden mood shift where she verbally questions the relationship or sets up a boundary or creates a distance between u two.. this is something diff 7. rudeness and lack of respect.. these things are red flags.. if she does this, drop her so these are things where i look back and see them at times and i see she wasn't being 100 with me.. of course we weren't TOGETHER but still she could have and should have been more forthcoming because u have to treat people the way u want to be treated.. and i know she wouldn't have liked to know i was putting her on the backburner and entertaining other girls in secret before i go.. here's suspect action #8 if she wants to kiss you without tongue.. something is not right i have experienced this not only from my ex, but also from another girl... when women only want to kiss with their lips.. something just isn't right... its almost the same as like a closed body language that says "i'm hiding something" both times this happened to me- i knew something wasn't right.. i won't get into all of that right now but if ur girl does that- u need to leave her, or look in her medicine cabinet, or look in her phone UNDER EVERY NAME because they are prob saving males under female names.. my ex one day accused me of doing this when the reality is i NEVER thought about doing that.. so it just made me think she is the one who does things like that or one time she said she was going to watch porn on her phone and she had some browser that wouldn't keep her search history.. so what i'm saying is- women know how to appear innocent ... u might look in her phone at first glance and see nothing... u may need to look closer hopefully these tips help u men out there in relationships with the scumbags we call women
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