i want to talk about winning over lust.. now i want to make it clear that i am saying this with humility
i don't want anyone thinking i am saying this like "i got it all together and u don't" ...not too long ago i facetimed a girl and she was showing cleavage, and her boobs were literally stuck in my head for days afterwards
i only say that to explain i am saying this in humility and not in pride.. because i know how weak we can be when it comes to lust
anyway here are some things u can do to overcome lust
one thing u can do is to stop listening to music that talks about sex or music that has foul language.. music seems to have a subtle way of eroding our morals without us really noticing it... if you hear a song with foul language or a song that talks about fornication then just turn it off.. i honestly believe this helps.. it helps to bring u out of the world and it helps your conscience to be healthy.. its good to not allow uncleanness into your mind through songs.. i have a scripture for this also: "blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly" (i believe this includes unhealthy music)
another thing to do is when you get a lustful thought.. just put it out of your mind IMMEDIATELY... see when u think on them too long then you may be tempted to act on your thought... don't allow the thoughts to take root in your mind.. as soon as the thoughts come- put them out of your mind.. the battle is won in the mind
take everything one day at a time.. if you say "how can i not lust for the next 5yrs?" you're approaching it incorrectly.. just focus on today and then when tomorrow comes, focus on that day... chances are you can handle yourself on a day to day basis.. if you think too far down the line then the task of purity may look too daunting
don't allow curiosity to get the best of you.. chances are one day something will make u curious- but don't go down that road.. for example.. a lot of people saw r. kelly's sex tapes out of pure curiosity.. but that type of thing can be avoided.. enable tunnel vision and don't allow curiosity to take hold of you
this one seems unrelated but it's not.. forgive people.. when you don't forgive then its like you keep animosity in your heart.. however the problem with this is after a while you will want a "release" from the inner tension that has built up... this can easily lead to misdirected hosility, drinking, drugs, or lustful actions
my last tip is spend time with the Lord in your life (because that will help you to become more like Him) and call on the name of the Lord to help you to resist if you feel like your lust has you on the brink
now that i've said all of that, i want to explain why its important to put lust out of our hearts and minds
the reason is because this is a great way to detach yourself from the world and be set apart the way the Bible tells us we should be
if you detach from the sexual debauchery the world has to offer its one of the quickest ways to really be in a different "zone" than many others around you
you will likely find that you think clearer and see clearer and you will likely find that you don't waste as much energy and time as many others
you will find yourself free to pursue worthwhile and productive hobbies and endeavors since you have unplugged from the push and pull of lust
furthermore, it will help you to get your power back from women... even though i don't have sex i have had issues with being led around by a woman's beauty but killing lust entirely in your life can spare you from such an existence
you will have a newfound freedom to plot and plan your life as opposed to be pushed around by the pitfalls associated with lust
For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
there are benefits to killing all forms of lust in your life
good luck i hope everyone who reads this is able to attain freedom
this isn't an all out diss to street fighter 5 but i just want to quickly give my thoughts on it
i've had this game i think for over 6 months now and it's just underwhelming to me
i honestly still enjoy playing street fighter 4 more than 5.. i'm not even joking, when i bought sf5, i played it for a little bit then i bought sf4 on ps4 because all 5 did was make me want to play 4 again
now since then i've still tried to allow 5 to grow on me but it hasn't really done that
5 doesn't have any HUGE issues.. but it has a lot of kinda small issues that add up and ruin the experience for me
i am still going to try and let it grow on me some more i think.. however as of right now the game is underwhelming
here are my current issues with the game
--did you ever play street fighter x tekken? that game was terrible... well here's the deal.. street fighter 5 feels like its a middle ground between street fighter 4 and street fighter x tekken.. you know how street fighter x tekken felt like an arcade game for noobs? street fighter 5 doesn't feel as bad as that, but like i said- it feels like its halfway between sf4 and sf x tekken.. it doesn't feel as noobish as sf x tekken.. but it also doesn't feel as technical and precise as sf 4
--sf5 ruined zangief.. zangief is my favorite character but in sf5 they just ruined him.. there's no green hand to quickly get across the screen and his ultra move is ridiculous.. it's totally anticlimatic and doesn't even make any sense.. the game seems to need another traditional grappler type of character
--i am so over the little closeup character intros at the beginning of each fight.. i want that to end.. i want the fight to start just showing both characters ready to fight.. i don't need to see a one by one closeup pose for each character before every match.. JUST START THE MATCH WITH THE CAMERA PULLED BACK WITH THE CHARACTERS READY TO FIGHT!!!! alpha 2, alpha 3, and snk vs capcom were great for that.. show a quick animation for both characters simultaneously and then start the match.. stop wasting time with the stupid closeup poses
--the music is trash and forgettable
--the menu is atrocious.. the menu to street fighter 5 is just ridiculous.. i mean.. the whole "pick a main character" thing is ridiculous.. and the choices you get after a match don't make sense either.. its like "redo the match" or "exit to main menu" ....shouldn't there be a "switch character" option? like what is that about?
--the game doesn't load updates while the ps4 is on rest mode.. why? everytime i get on my ps4 i can see that some of my games updated, like horizon zero dawn for example.. however street fighter 5 doesn't update until i actually start the game.. so i turn it on and i have to actually wait for it to update to play the game when the game just could've updated while the system was in rest mode instead
as it stands- the game is just a disappointment, but i still want to try and see if i can have some fun with it so i am hoping to keep trying to see if i can get into a groove in the game if possible.. we'll see
i want to quickly get this off my chest
i was talking to a guy on youtube in the comments.. in his video he said he had sex with a woman who already had a man
i commented "you're a part of the problem" i was basically saying to him that he contributes to the fact that there's almost no wife material out here
he responded back to me: "these hoes are for everybody"
i just want to point out my issue with this guy so everyone can see my stance on this
he displays a lack of accountability which is one of the main things we dislike about modern women.. he needs to own up to his crap
the other thing is... this guy always blames simps for women's bad behavior.. he says that simps are giving women high expectations and bowing down to women and this is causing women to be unreasonable in their dealings with men
while i agree with that to some extent- i also think he is a hypocrite for blaming simps yet not accepting his part in women's demise also
how can you blame the simps and "nice guys" because they make it too easy for women, but you refuse to blame the "bad boys" and players who sexually imprint women, leave them with broken hearts, and also are willing to just bang anyone's woman?
that is a joke to me and very hypocritical.. like would you rather have all your neighbors be male simps, or all your neighbors be players without conscience out to bang your wife?
like get real.. you can't complain about women being useless untrustworthy skanks when you contribute to the problem.. i don't have sex so no one can say "james you totally ruined this woman and turned her from a potential good wife into a smut or bust-down" ... but i can't say the same for that guy online
anyway.. i just wanted to point this out.. we need to call out the hypocrisy we see amongst men.. it's true that they may not listen or take heed but we should at least call them on it when we see it
i had to post this.. the reason i had to post it is because it is in line with a lot of the things i talk about here on the site
here karceno explains that this guy eli is going through a bunch of crap because his mother is causing a ton of problems
women more often than not make no sense and operate with zero integrity.. they operate from a selfish and spineless standpoint.. what is an organism with no spine? a snake.. get my drift?
peep the video and i have a few more words below
look here's the deal.. some guys can't even trust their own mothers and that is sad
but the solution is simple.. don't give women any power.. don't place any trust in them.. don't surrender any money to them.. don't even listen to them.. if that means you must keep a certain amount of distance away from them then make sure to do that... because here's the thing- women a lot of times use our love for them against us
if you feel comfortable giving a girl $50 then give her $50.. however if she comes to you with a sob story, don't give her more money.. just say "that's too bad" and keep it movin.. because some of these women want to turn your $50 into $5000
my point in saying that was- use that mindset in all your dealings with women.. meaning ONLY DO WHAT YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING
if you don't want to spend 10 racks on a wedding.. don't do it
if you don't want to take your girl out because she's ungrateful- stick to your guns
if you are tired of her mouth, just say you're tired of her mouth and hang up on that skank
ALL INTERACTIONS WITH A FEMALE MUST BENEFIT YOU AND/OR AT LEAST MAKE SENSE TO YOU
if you find yourself doing things you don't feel comfortable doing to keep a woman happy- realize A. she will never be happy because she will try to use your desire to make her happy against you to extract more out of you B. she is not only utterly useless to you- she actually is bad for you and will bring you down unless you cut her off
KEEP WOMEN'S POWER, INFLUENCE, AND MONEY AT EITHER A MINIMUM OR ZERO
they aren't like us.. we get power, money, and influence and we seek to bless those around us... women get those things and just go straight into "see look where i am, i'm here because i deserve it" and they stunt on all the women around them.. they don't have integrity or humility or even a concept of limits.. women never say "hey that's too far"
example? ..look at how often we see women keeping their kids away from their fathers.. what man would do that to a woman? we say "hey its her child too, who am i to get between that and deny that relationship" but women don't have that type of brain.. their brains are like.. i don't even know there's probably a hamster wheel between their ears... and the hamster is dead
anyway.. this brings me to another point
to anyone who thinks i am bashing women on this site.. i feel more like i am protecting men.. like when u look at this post- you can see i am doing this to warn men not to allow women (even their mothers) to derail their focus
we don't need anymore samson and delilah stories.. why didn't samson just realize delilah is a dime a dozen? his crime was loving a demon
and that's what i want to save men from.. i want to save them from loving these demons called modern women
i honestly hope some men stumble onto my site and are helped by some of what i write
anyway.. men, don't let women have any power over you.. don't gawk at their beauty, don't let their vain words of being "not like other women" reel you in, don't listen to their "i'm a victim" sob stories.. don't give them any space for anything because women today are using any little piece of love you give them as a weapon to stab you with
pay these sub-human skanks no attention.. stay on your mission men- heed my words
i want to point out something from the bible that i think is a misconception
many women say "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord." which is a legit scripture, however i believe their understanding is off.. when women say this scripture, they are saying it to say two things typically:
1. women are a blessing
2. men should seek and pursue women.. because they think "findeth a wife" means men should actively seek
i want to point out that i believe both of these ideas are false or incomplete
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
^makes sense right? yes.. however don't forget corinthians...
1st corinthians 7:27-28
Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned.
lets look a little closer
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing
Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
as you can see here.. if "findeth" means for men to "seek" in the proverbs verse, then it contradicts "seek not a wife" in corinthians
so then what is the scripture in proverbs saying?
let's take a look at another scripture
proverbs 31:10-12 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
so.... here is my point.. i'm no preacher but i don't believe the "findeth a wife" points to "men better be looking for wives" or "men better be taking women to dinner" or "men better be asking women out" .. i don't believe "findeth a wife" means we need to seek women
i believe "findeth" refers to the rarity of good women.. her price is far above rubies, she is trustworthy, she does him good and not evil ... the scripture is saying that a trustworthy woman who acts right is a rare thing
so "findeth a wife" to me is not saying "go out and look for a woman!" or "shrug off all women's rejection until one says yes" or "dedicate yourself to appealing to women and you'll eventually get one" ... it's actually more saying something like: "you're lucky if you find a $100 bill in the street" ...it's not so much that you were looking for it.. but if it happens, A. it's RARE and B. it's a blessing
this is somewhat how i think of it: "he who comes across a woman who is good enough to marry is blessed" ... i wholeheartedly disagree with the "women are a blessing and so you should cater to them" belief that some people seem to have surrounding this verse
based on the "who can find a virtuous woman?" scripture- i actually believe the bible is flat-out saying most women are untrustworthy and selfish... because those things are the opposite of "the heart of her husband doth safely trust in her" and "she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life"
so imo, the bible actually cosigns what many men (including myself) say about most women being useless and scumbags
let me break down why i don't believe it means 1. women are a blessing and 2. men should seek and pursue women
the reason it doesn't mean women are a blessing is because all women do not fit the category of "wife" ... a woman must be wife material to be a wife... so women using that scripture to make themselves look like they are good just because they are female are wrong... if you are a female who is not marriage material- you are not a "good thing"
and the reason it's not saying men should seek and pursue women is because: "art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife" ....the bible literally tells us not to seek a wife
also you can't forget this scripture..
House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.
here you can see that a good woman who is worth anything comes from the Lord.. what that means is- we as men are not meant to chase women.. because we don't acquire them- God gives them.. in other words if you actually want to "pursue" a woman- you're better off chasing God than chasing a woman.. because God is telling you- "the virtuous ones are mine"
one thing i've learned over time is that the more you learn from the Lord the simpler your life becomes.. and this is no exception.. we are not meant to chase women we are meant to live our purpose both earthly and spiritual and the Lord will handle the rest
we need not be burdened with entertaining women, catering to their whims, or figuring them out, making them comfortable, or becoming their dancing jester for amusement
we are to do our duty both earthly and spiritual and that's it
no plenty of fish, no dates, no pickup lines, nothing... we are not to chase women
the bible says SEEK NOT
if you marry you have not sinned but when it says seek not- it's basically saying "let God handle that" ... when it comes you will know it.. other than that, just live right before the Lord and do you.. stay in the lane God has for you until He directs you otherwise
i hope this helps some guy out there who is wracking his brain trying to figure out why women don't like him and what he can do about it.. the answer is- PUT IT IN GOD'S HANDS and go on about your business and enjoy your current peace...
here's what i personally recommend
A. put all forms of lust out of your mind
B. think about how busy you would be if you had a wife and kids.. also think about how you would feel if you got a wife but you didn't build what you were supposed to build prior to her arrival.. now use that thought and go build
C. look around at all the divorce and unrest around you.. i mean look at the broken hearts, the split families, the lack of trust, the lost resources, and all the dysfunction... then take refuge in the fact that the Lord doesn't want that to be you.. let Him give you a wife, don't go looking for it because more than half of these broken relationships, marriages, and families are due to people not going into them the way God wanted them to in the first place
the last thing i want to say is this
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
a prudent wife is from the LORD.
we have always seen a wife as being the thing that brings the favor of the Lord... but i looked at this and saw it a little differently today.. basically if a prudent wife is from the Lord.. then perhaps it is the favor that brings the prudent wife as opposed to the prudent wife bringing the favor
in which case- it becomes even more important to seek your purpose and place as opposed to seek a woman
i hope this helps someone out
here is a comment thread from a pastor's youtube page
i left the top and bottom comments here
in the video the pastor was saying he wanted his wife to be supportive to him but she wasn't doing it.. she was saying she wouldn't do things in the ministry that he wanted her to do
he started making excuses for her and saying he was learning to be selfless through his wife
now i want to make it clear that i am not here to speak against a pastor so maybe he is right and i'm wrong but i still want to give my take on this
as you can see he began making excuses for his wife's behavior and he began saying that he was learning humility through his wife
again he is a pastor and i'm not, but my take is that his mindset doesn't really make sense.. i feel that he absolves her of fault and responsibility by saying "God is teaching me through her"
also if you are the head- then why are you subject to dealing with her whims? why do you have to deal with her telling you no when her job as a wife is to support you? patience is fine but ultimately she needs to comply
he wasn't saying he wanted her to do anything bad or wrong, he was saying he wanted her to support him in his ministry but she treated his desires like something she didn't need to pay any attention to if she didn't want to.. he made it sound like they were married but she was just content in "doing her own thing" in the marriage
i was trying to explain to him that she is not doing her wifely duties and that's a problem.. it's a lack of proper respect and reverence and love and support
but i wanted to post this discussion to show that this is what we men have to stop doing.. we have to stop this thing where we try to make excuses for a woman's behavior.. we have to put our foot down and say "look, do it or we're done" because as long as we try to justify women in their disobedience, we are not getting our needs met, we aren't getting the respect we need as men, and we are not helping to keep our women out of hellfire because think about it- if you are a perfect husband you can make it into heaven but if she is a bad wife where do u think she will end up? ..a woman is supposed to submit to her husband according to the bible and she is to be a suitable helper to her husband according to the bible
what men like this pastor are doing these days is letting women get away with not doing their part.. this pastor in my opinion is allowing his wife to get away with disobedience.. not only to himself but also to the Lord because the Lord told her to be in submission to her husband as unto the Lord in ALL things
i was trying to get this man to understand this but i don't think he was grasping it.. but at the same time maybe he did grasp it because he didn't respond back to my second comment.. maybe he took a moment to think about it
i think a lot of men don't know what to do when their wives are not in their place.. when their wives refuse to be caring or supportive or attentive these men are likely ill-prepared and confused... but i believe these are the answers:
1. wash her with the watering of the Word meaning show her in the Bible where she is wrong (this only works if you are both saved and equally yoked.. which you should be)
2. ALWAYS be willing to let her go... ALWAYS be willing to move on without her.. ALWAYS be willing to cut her off
that whole "give an inch, they take a mile" phrase definitely goes for women and their irreverent behavior
you must ALWAYS be willing to leave her with your head held high- not in pride but in knowing your position and mission, and with the determination that her sin will not become your stumbling block or your folly (as it became with adam and eve)
also DO NOT give her any power in your relationship or marriage.. if she feels she can divorce you and take half your money then why would she hesitate to do so?
of course if she is submitted to the Lord she will not do that.. but since we don't know if her salvation is a lasting one- do yourself a favor and work it to where u have the power... work things to where if she treats you with contempt, you still have everything and she has nothing
anyway.. what do u all think.. do u agree with the pastor or do u agree with me?
i think he was selling himself short personally.. and btw he said this is his second marriage
anyway just my thoughts
i really want to say this as quickly as possible
ok women back in the 50s used to be women because of these reasons
1. they were taught to be women
2. they didn't have real jobs so they weren't supporting themselves (this kept them from getting out of line)
3. they went from their family of origin and their father's headship straight to their husband's headship and their new family unit.. so she never stopped submitting.. she just went straight from submitting to her dad to submitting to her husband
women today aren't women because of the following reasons
1. many of them were not taught how to be women
2. many of them don't have male headship to begin with as they grew up without their father being in the home
3. they work just as much as their male counterparts today which creates the following issues
-they compete with men as opposed to cooperate
-they develop pride (no more humble wives.. men must contend with prideful women)
-they become independent (they're no longer malleable, flexible, or feminine)
4. the sex they have during their time of independence between family of origin and actual husband is a detriment to their new union.. enjoyment, connection, trust, and marriage overall are severely diminished by the existence of her sketchy past
women need to go from a patriarchal family to the arms of a loving husband
but as it stands today, they just go straight from a single parent household into a decade of sex buddies
no wonder we can't find wife material smh
ok i want to explain what it means when a woman says "put me in my place"
note.. this also goes for when someone outside the relationship tells u to "put her in her place"
my ex g/f used to say she wanted me to put her in her place and i never understood what that meant..
one day i got tired of her attitude and i said "don't talk to me like that" and she said "like what?" and i mocked her sternly and told her not to do it anymore
she immediately stopped acting crazy and later she told me i "put her in her place" and she liked it
i still didn't really understand what she meant by that so it wasn't like something i did that was a purposeful success- it was more like dumb luck
let me explain how i felt when i told her to stop talking to me with that attitude though... here's how i felt:
i was listening to her talk to me like she was crazy and i was hoping she would stop but she just kept going... i wanted to be patient with her but i had enough and when i decided to finally speak up, i was at a place where if she didn't comply, i was going to just be done with her
i said all of that to say this- if you want a relationship with a person then the LAST thing you actually want to do is just cut them out of your life and let them go
but that's where i was in that moment
i am not sure if women understand that.. i don't know if they understand if i have to get to a point where i just interrupt you and tell you to basically shutup then i'm actually halfway out the door
so this was MASSIVELY INQUANTIFIABLY confusing because i'm thinking... ok i was about to kick you to the curb but for some reason you like that?
what i didn't understand at the time was that women view how i acted in that moment as self respect.. women are like poking us men to try and see where our self respect button is, and if they can't find it they will assume it's not there
so in my mind, like i said, i was confused because to me- a woman should like a man who is patient.. but here she is saying she likes it when i am ready to cut her loose
so like i said, i still just really had no idea what "put me in my place" meant
to me- if a woman says "put me in my place" to me that meant slap her, or cuss her out, or deck her, or tell her she is worthless or something
but i could never do anything like that.. i mean.. i'd rather just not be with a woman than be forced to treat her harshly to have her approval
but over time, i think i have learned what "put her in her place" really means
it has been a very difficult thing for me to understand but i think i get what it means and so i want to share it with any men who want to know what that means
remember, this goes for both if a woman says "put me in my place" or if a third party says "put her in her place"
they aren't necessarily talking about an action.. they are more talking about an attitude
women want you to essentially "demote" them with your attitude toward them.. they want you to have a "take it or leave it" attitude concerning them.. they essentially like it when you are selfish because for them they see it as like- "oh he is uncompromising in his ways" or "he can't be shaken" or "oh he has a backbone" so to them they view these things as strength
so when she acts crazy she wants to see if you will be unmoved by her actions and ways or if she can shake you off your center.. if you're shaken off then in her mind- you failed the test
when i say "unmoved" that means being able to let go and also being able to leave her and be unaffected.. being able to remain focused on what you want out of life despite outside factors (including her)
she essentially wants you to treat her the way you would treat a child.. be above all of their antics
if a child was acting up, you would hit the child and then ignore them when they cry until they decide to act right- forcing them to come up to your level
with a woman, you would replace hitting with leaving, threatening to leave, or a tongue lashing, and then replace ignoring with standing in your square or not changing your stance and not even really repeating yourself.. silence or something may even work- forcing them to come up to your level
and there is one thing that ties it all together
this is the ingredient that cannot be missed.. the main thing you need to make the whole "put her in her place" thing work is this
YOU MUST ALWAYS BE WILLING TO LEGITIMATELY LET HER GO
when i say you must always be willing to let her go i mean from the heart you must always be able to let her go because the way women see it- if you are unwilling to let her go then in her mind she has too much power over you
to us men, a lot of us see being unwilling to let go as having patience which is the first trait of love according to 1st corinthians chapter 13 4-8... holding on tight to many of us men is longsuffering.. to us these are things that show our dedication and commitment
however women view your unwillingness to let go as weakness... she's thinking "i can take advantage of him so i'm stronger than him" ... she views your holding on tight as "he's just doing this because he can't get anyone else"
this is why in a previous entry i've said:
women take kindness as weakness
women take caring as weakness
and women take patience as weakness
this is also why i've said:
when men get power or money they use it to bless and uplift their family.. but when women get power or money, they use it to fight the man
again.. women view your unwillingness to leave as a weakness.. so if you try to hold on too tight they will take that "power" and use it against you
women's way of viewing things is like... just imagine a man without integrity and logic and you can see how women think and operate.. they don't think something like: "he let me get away with that, so let me straighten up since he's being patient with me" they think "he let me get away with that so i can probably get away with more"
so "putting a woman in her place" consists of an attitude of "i can let you go at any moment" or "i can replace you" or "you have no power over me" or "i am not in the least bit frightened by the thought of you leaving" or "if you leave me you will regret it, i won't" or "you can keep acting stupid, i'm above your antics" or
"I AM WHOLEHEARTEDLY UNAFFECTED BY YOUR CRAP AND IF YOU DON'T ACT THE WAY I WANT YOU TO ACT THEN YOU WILL BE ALONE AND WITHOUT ME"
women want you to exude this attitude, because they think of it as being powerful, and they think of a man who tries to show patience and politeness as a people-pleaser, and that turns her off because she feels like that should be her role, not yours.. so if you try to keep peace, or attempt to appease her then she views it as being weak
they don't really understand that these traits aren't exactly parallel to strength and weakness
they also don't seem to really understand that love- while it isn't a pushover, is also not selfish
so what women are doing is they're saying "hey i like this guy because he's not a pushover! i can't sway him at all!"
but they are missing the fact that oftentimes there is no love there either... this is why that whole 80 - 20 rule exists.. where 80% of women are having sex with 20% of men.. because women are essentially bed-hopping from one self-centered alpha male to the next
what i personally find to be odd is that a woman will refuse to listen to a guy who loves her but she will run off and go be a whore for the guy who just uses her.. again this is because she views the men as strong and weak and doesn't factor in the elements of love and selfishness
so i guess that shows one of two things or both A. women flat out don't see the full picture B. women's desire for what they perceive to be male strength utterly trumps their desire for male love
anyway.. that's what it means when they say put a woman in her place
it means instead of thinking of leaving her as a last resort, its a first resort.. because women view your refusal to deal with crap (even from them) as an indicator of your own self respect and confidence
remember.. if you make sure to give a woman your best, she'll make sure to give you her worst
if she can see that you can drop her and carry on and be happy without her she will cling to you in an attempt to keep that from happening.. if you come across like you will be unhappy if she leaves, she will view that as a weakness and will want to get away from you as soon as possible
she wants you to essentially demote her to a lower place in your heart and mind and life.. "put her in her place" is pretty much equivalent to- "treat her like you don't need her"
demoting her is essentially moving her from a main role in your life to her proper supporting role..... aka her place
in paying attention to how my body acts and reacts to things, i have noticed there are 4 things we need to do to stay in decent shape
i have to be honest though.. 2 and 3 are probably interchangeable
2. eat right
3. stay hydrated
the number one most important thing we have to do is sleep.. what i've noticed is sleep is our "reset" button.. if u never properly reset then you can't be upset when things just don't work correctly
sleep seems to affect EVERYTHING.. mind, body, mood.. i also read somewhere that if you lack sleep then your body will not get the testosterone it needs.. so as men sleep is super important
good sleep is #1 so this means try to do whatever u can to get the best sleep possible (but remember- don't make sleep a god because the bible tells us not to love sleep.. God first, priorities second, then sleep... but still, if you need quiet or if you need blackout curtains then do that)
i put eating right as number 2.. when i say eating right i don't mean being a vegetarian or anything.. i just mean putting some thought into what you eat
-maybe you shouldn't eat sour patch kids every day
-maybe you shouldn't drink pop every day
-maybe you should attempt to eat something with some fiber in it
-maybe your freezer shouldn't have 10 pizzas in it
as long as you put some thought or effort into what you eat and how you eat, i think you'll be fine
however if you just eat pie and burgers, and fried food all day every day, you probably won't feel too good after a while
that lack of discipline may show in your skin and body but worse than that.. u will likely feel it and it can affect other aspects of your life
stay hydrated is 3... if you think about life.. water is what is used to cleanse things.. think of your body in the same way
if you're not drinking water then you are causing unnecessary strain on your body
make it a point to drink water and all sorts of things will be likely to work either properly or better
another interesting thing is it is great for your mood.. and overall you will begin to look healthier
exercise.. this is another one where i'm not a stickler .. meaning i don't think marathons and things are necessary.. but try to get a gym membership and get some good music for your headphones and move around some
in this climate in life many of us literally go to work and sit at a computer for 8 hours a day
we need to move around and put our muscles to use.. we can't just live a sedentary life and expect our bodies to energize themselves.. we should put some effort into it.. even if its just a little workout.. any movement helps
i want to explain what it means when women say they have nothing in common with you
i've had women say to me that we have nothing in common before and i've always thought it was somewhat of a weird statement because what do men and women really have in common?
we like rap, they like r&b
we like video games, they like weddings
we like talking about things going on in society, they like talking about how their baby is going to look or something
i mean seriously if you're looking for a friend you may want to have things in common but if you're looking for a wife you really just want someone who fits that role.. having things in common is not really important
for example.. one time i was watching divorce court and the judge asked the couple why they wanted a divorce and they said they don't like the same music
part of the reason why that's ridiculous is because it's just not really that important.. love and commitment should trump the radio station you listen to on the way to walmart
if it was all about having things in common then men and women would be the same just with different genitals.. but we aren't.. we are totally different
so... with all that said.. what does it mean when women tell you that you two don't have anything in common? why do they harp on that?
what exactly are they talking about? males and females haven't had things in common since the age of 5 so why is she bringing this up like its a real thing?
from experience.. let me tell you what it means
it typically just means you two are unequally yoked
for anyone who doesn't know.. a yoke is the thing you use to attach two oxen together so they can plow the field
so when she says you two have nothing in common she is typically saying she can perceive a difference in how you two operate
in my experience it typically means she is not a really good person and she can see that you have morals and integrity and that turns her off
you don't drink
you don't smoke
you won't fornicate with her
you're marriage minded but she is used to guys who just want sex
you want to go to church, she doesn't
you are trying to become more righteous, she still enjoys iniquity
she cusses, you don't
you obey your conscience, she disobeys hers and laughs about it
you're humble, she's full of pride
she views her pride as strength and views your humility as weakness
you let things go, she's vindictive
she is basically perceiving these types of things and telling you outright "this isn't going to work out between us"
here's your perspective as a man.. A. you haven't seen the depth of her depravity since everyone is on their best behavior during the first two to four months of a relationship.. you know she has done some bad things but you have overlooked them because she made herself look like it was her past as opposed to her present
let me tell u right now... IT'S HER PRESENT... and this is why she is saying you have nothing in common because she knows when broken down to the most basic level- you're good, she's bad, and she's looking for a way out
B. here's your other perspective.. the things you've seen in her life that are unbecoming are things you have decided to help her work on.. you think you can help bring her up to a higher level of operating and decision making.. but here's the thing.. she doesn't want to grow or mature, or come up to a higher level... instead of seeing your attempts to bring her up as helpful- she views them as attempts to control her
saying "we have nothing in common" to you as a man means something like "we don't like the same music" or "we don't have the same hobbies" or "we have different friends"
but what she is saying is "we are unequally yoked" "we think differently" "we operate differently" "i can't tell you how i really think and feel because you will perceive it as crazy, but to me its not crazy, it's just where i am"
in other words men.. when u hear this- it's likely time for you to cut her loose
think about it like this.. u may have a friend who is on drugs right.. u may set up plans for them to go to rehab and you may work on their resume so they can get back in the workforce, you may acquire them a vehicle so they can be a normal functioning adult again instead of being hooked on a drug............. but if they don't want those things you can't help them
if you find a woman who doesn't want to come up to your level then just let her go because she ultimately won't appreciate anything you do, and she will misinterpret most of your actions
"we have nothing in common" means "we are operating on different playing fields"
women know having things in common isn't important.. or else they wouldn't go for the "alpha male" thug type who basically lives his life the exact opposite of the way they themselves live.. so they aren't talking about things like hobbies and interests.. they are talking about APPROACH TO LIFE
so men, my advice if i were to give any is this.. keep your eyes open, and don't waste your time on the wrong women.. you are better off single and at peace than you are with a gorgeous moron