one thing i've been wanting to say
i don't think women should choose a mate throughout time women have never picked a man, the decision was always someone elses her dad would be a part of the decision making process the man who wanted her would be a part of it her family i could be wrong but i think only fairly recently in time did we get to a point where women make their own decisions about who to marry i feel like if women are the gender that wants to be loved, then they should not be choosing a spouse, the LOVER should choose.. meaning the man, the one whose job it is to love should choose the one who is seeking love should wait until a man is interested why would a person who wants to be loved try to choose a mate? again the lovER should be the chooser.. if a woman chooses a man, then how can she guarantee he will love her? maybe he is just taking what is offered and honestly we see this all the time don't we? we see women talking about "i gave and gave and gave and all u did was take" well see.. in my opinion, once u went out and found a dude u liked and started giving yourself to him, you messed up.. you should've just waited for a man who thought the world of you, and let him in but women don't do this, they want to be in the driver's seat but if you want love you cannot be in the driver's seat the lover is in the driver's seat, the one who is being loved is in the passenger seat i think about this a lot lately.. like i think about all the women who like me and how weird it is having women like me.. and how i am not always feeling them like that.. sometimes i'm just like.. uninterested.. so even if they got me to care about them.. i am not sure if i would ever truly LOVE them... and since husbands are commanded to love their wives, that would be out of order but when u flip it around.. if i am the one in the driver's seat and i get to choose the woman.. then everyone wins the woman knows she gets a man who loves her.. and i get the woman whom i love i really wonder why women don't submit to this type of thinking why do they always run from men who care about them, and run to men who have a high level of disregard concerning them? isn't this like counterproductive? like i was walking through the hall at work recently and i asked myself a question.. i said "james, if you could be with anyone you know, who would it be?" my answer was this girl named meagan who is short and cute.. this girl is so pretty to me.. she is chubby and she has short hair and she wears weird looking clothes because she can't seem to find a good balance between underdressing and overdressing.. she has a picture of her niece at her desk which i like cuz it tells me she is motherly and likes babies.. she is actually holding the baby in the picture so for a long time i thought it was actually her baby... she also is very giving, she was bringing a lot of candy to work and just telling people to come to her desk and get some.. she offers things to people a lot which i like.. she has a sort of selfless quality to herself but its not a loud selflessness, its very quiet and understated.. she also really likes music and she knows lyrics .. like not just choruses, she really listens to songs and knows lyrics.. and i think about her and i think to myself... wow.. i love everything about this girl but when i tried to talk to her she turned me down and i think.... sometimes like... do women want a guy like me who really is truly interested in them for every reason? like isn't that what women say they want? they want a guy who really loves them inside and out right? well why do they always diss us? even this past weekend, a girl told me she told a guy she didn't want to talk to him anymore.. this was after the guy offered to even move to be closer to her... to me that sounds like a serious guy.. like a guy who really cares about you and wants to be near you but she legit said she told him she didn't want to talk to him anymore and i was thinking to myself.. wow and here she is talking to me and i have avoided her for about a month see what i'm saying? why are you calling me when i have ignored you for the past month yet you tell the guy who is legitimately willing to MOVE CLOSER TO YOU TO BE NEAR YOU, that you don't want to talk to him anymore i guess i feel like women are supposed to be submissive and it has to start somewhere it has to start somewhere it has to start with a "he really likes me so i will let him take me out" or "he is really into me and i'm not that into him but i'm going to at least talk to him on the phone to see what he's about" or "this guy loves me, i'm going to let him get to know me a little" like why don't women ever want to be with the guy who really is into them? should women give up this whole "i'm going to choose what i want" thing? or are they just going to keep doing it? are they ever going to get back to letting the man choose? i always hear women say they want to be chose, but they never allow it i even spoke to a woman a few years ago who had been married for like 15 yrs.. she told me when she met her husband, she turned him down for a date, but he was really eager to spend time with her and somehow she finally gave him a chance, and then they ended up married but it seems like most women don't give that guy a chance.. that guy who is like really feeling her is left out in the cold while some guy with a baby mama and 2 girlfriends gets that woman's best should women be able to choose a spouse? or should it go back to a more patriarchal setup, where men, women's fathers, and extended family help her to decide who to marry? what u peeps think?
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