i'm going to try and knock out my post about the matriarchy i saw during thanksgiving
i have not wanted to write this because i feel like it will take a long time, but i want to try and knock it out
so a matriarchy is when females rule
during thanksgiving, it seemed like females ruled.. men were outnumbered however i still feel that men should rule and oversee things that happen in the family.. but how can they do this if they aren't there? and how can they hold a position of authority if they have no money, power, dominance, respect?
ok so the first thing i want to touch on is this- how long do you think thanksgiving should be?
well at my house this year it was 6 days long
when it comes to men and women- women tend to be the people pleasers while men tend to be the ones who are more like.. wanting their own space.. and this is what i feel we saw this year.. the women ruled and so there were no boundaries.. not saying this is something that is set in stone, but in general terms- if men set it up, it would not have been a 6 day thing
another thing i saw was how women place a high amount of importance on social gatherings.. my 18yr old cousin told me he wanted to stay home and "stack bread," but his mom made him come to thanksgiving
he said he outside of music and videos and school, he also worked at old navy.. he said they needed people for the holidays but his mom FORCED him to call and tell them he wouldn't be coming in for that whole black friday week.. he said after he called and told them that, they stopped calling him in to work.. so he very well may have lost his job entirely
in a patriarchy, would this have happened? would a man tell his son, "don't go to work even though they need you now more than ever- instead just come see family with us for the holiday" ?
so i was just looking at all this and really thinking about it and seeing the difference between how things would run if men ruled (or were even just equally present) vs how things actually happened
another thing i noticed was the reasons for the matriarchy.. when u ask "why are women running things here?" then you begin to see a lot of things
the main things are i think
A. a lack of men.. none of my aunts or cousins who came are married except one so there were almost no men
B. the men who should be in power aren't <---and the reasons for this are twofold
1. whoever makes money makes rules.. if the man isn't making the money then in some ways he isn't really in the driver's seat.. and even if he is in it- he isn't securely strapped in it the way he should be
2. some men have conceded to feminism and the "wife knows best" mentality.. imo.. i think women have some great input however i also feel that as a man you should never allow your wife to take your place as top decision maker
women can do what they do but it should be within the confines of the boundaries you set as a man
for example, imo a proper setup would've been something like this:
wife - my family wants to come to thanksgiving here this year
husband - ok cool, how long do they want to stay?
wife - 6 days
husband - that's kinda pushin it don't you think?
wife - you're right that's a bit much let me talk to them and try something else
there you can see a man still having some control over how things happen in his house
this is what i think we need more of in society
more structure and discipline.. we need the masculine presence and we need it to be felt
i just feel like things tend to be lopsided these days.. women outnumber men seemingly everywhere you go and when men are around, they aren't occupying positions of power- neither in the family or the workplace
to any man reading this:
its up to us
you may see matriarchies popping up all around you in our society's current climate, but in YOUR world, you should strive to be master of your self and your domain