i hate it when people say men should pursue women
they have all these notions about what a man should do to get a woman's attention or love none of it ever works as i look over my life, going after a woman has ALWAYS guaranteed one thing.. that she will run away if a woman likes you she will make it known i remember like 2 yrs ago i was working at directv and some girl was saying "james no stop touching my thighs" and laughing.. sort of teasing me and trying to get my attention.. and this was in public so women have their ways, both overt and subtle but never in my life has a girl ever liked me when i pursued her i literally can't think of one time where i have expressed interest in a girl and had it work out on any level NOT ONE TIME but every single time a girl invites herself into my world, then we can get along and have a friendship or we can date or get to know each other or whatever i have a few theories on why this is 1. women don't know who to trust.. so when u go after a woman, she is already looking at you with suspicion.. she is saying "who is this guy? what does he want? does he have bad intentions?" ..by pursuing her, you are actually making her walls go up as opposed to come down whereas if she goes after you- then she already feels two things about you A. curious and B. safe 2. women like male validation a lot and i feel like they fear it will go away if a man gets to know them for who they really are so say i go after a girl and show interest and tell her she's pretty, and i am excited about her- she likes that attention, and she feels like if she really lets me see who she is- that attention will not increase, it will only decrease.. in other words she feels like she has nothing to gain, only something to lose.. you have already given her what she loves, so she doesn't imagine things being better over time, she imagines you becoming familiar with her and thus losing that 'excitement' this is why pursuing a woman leads to just being "strung along".. because she doesn't want the attention to go away she would rather go from invisible to visible to you, than visible to invisible this is why women say they "like a challenge".. because growing in your affection is far better to them than the prospect of losing it these are just my opinions, i could be wrong but those are my theories on why women don't react well to a man's pursuit now.. i have a wrench to throw in the system SEX. now, if a man pursues a woman for sex, he may get her to like him, the reason i believe this is so is because many women will let you have their vagina before they let you have any pull on the strings of their heart this is why men who are whore-ish, usually have a lot of women.. because here's the thing.. a woman will say "hey its just sex" and have sex with a guy she doesn't really fully 'approve' yet.. but then you have a little situation occur and i have questioned this before.. is it- where the heart goes, the body follows? or is it where the body goes, the heart follows? well it may be diff for some people, but for the most part, for women in 2015, where the body goes, the heart follows thus seeking and acquiring sex can lead to a woman's heart and affection, so it is in a sense- an exception to the rule of pursuit not working on women.. but i will say- this leaves pool boy in an odd position because i don't believe in sex prior to marriage.. so when you have women who only feel like they know a man after sex, what happens is, i meet women who always have a wall up.. it never comes down because sex is a prerequisite for that they have developed habits over the years that exclude a man like me being #1 in their lives so with all that said i believe there is pretty much only one option for a guy like me that option is to not focus any attention on women, because they are essentially a waste of time.. pursuing them without pursuing sex will get me nowhere most women will A. get bored B. go have sex with a diff guy thus ruining our connection C. just never let the walls down so i have one option since pursuit will usually not work for a God-fearing man in 2015.. that is to try and attract a woman to come to me by her own free will which basically means... women might as well not exist to me, because i cannot control a woman's free will on any level... i am thus free to do and be whatever i want in layman's terms- i have zero control over the situation genesis 2:22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. a suitable woman will either be presented to me, or she won't there is no pursuit
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