**i want to preface this by saying this is not an entry i made up to pick on women.. this whole entry is literally made up of happenings from my own personal experience** i recently hung out with a girl and when i was talking with her trying to sort of see who she is she literally said the following (paraphrased) "i'm mean and standoffish and i'm proud of it" i was like.. "why are you proud of things that would likely keep people out of your life?" she's like "because i like it that way, and i have family and that's good enough" i was like: "family is cool but you're a grown woman you should have your own family situation going on.. you know like your own kids, or your own man.. not just your siblings and parents/grandparents" she's like "i disagree" i had a lot more to say but i just had to let it go because it wasn't going anywhere i don't get why a person would be proud of things that are negative.. why even date or try to meet guys at all if you're not going to act right i.e. approachable/friendly/cool? think about it- you show up at a date on time, dressed nice, and wearing makeup....... but then you are "mean and standoffish" WHAT IS THE POINT OF SHOWING UP AT ALL? you're literally spending time, gas money, and effort only to coerce the person to reject you each time you make a sarcastic comment at someone's expense, or you argue with them over semantics over something they said, or you just sit back and look or act disinterested.. you are just hurting yourself because they might take it for a while but there will come a time where they stop calling you many women these days are severely misinformed in my opinion its the culture of today.. the whole: "women are mature and men are childish" sort of belief we see today.. women can't be told anything anymore.. as far as they are concerned they are the perfect catch already the other main destructive belief is the whole: "women don't have to put effort into a relationship, that's the man's job" women.. you cannot expect a relationship to work with a man if he has everything you want but you don't have anything he wants that is where your ACTION comes in.. you need to put in some effort too, men have expectations just like women do.. and guess what? mean, standoffish, argumentative, and bossy are not anywhere in a man's expectation of what a woman should be
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