in dealing with my apartment about a month ago i went in the office and asked for the form to break my lease
they were like why are you breaking it so soon? i was like "there are holes in the floor.. and a bunch of other things that i wrote down on the inspection sheet" they were like oh really? well how about we fix it for you... would you still want to break the lease? i said yes.. so they decided not to fix the problem my whole problem with that interaction was a very clear lack of integrity from my apartment complex 1. you inspect apartments before new tenants arrive so why didn't you fix the holes and the other issues prior to me coming in? 2. why is fixing a problem being used as a bargaining chip? like wouldn't it have made sense for her to say "we will fix that for you (and for the next tenant) whether you leave or not" but the whole thing got me thinking about how women see us men when they meet us, they probably see me the way i see my apartment complex i know my apartment wants money, and in exchange for my money they should know i expect a decent place to live.. if i give my money and don't get a decent place to live, that's a problem so women are looking at us men like.. "i know he wants a good woman, so in exchange for me he should know i expect a few things.. dress decent, have a job, have stability, have a car, have some college or a trade or something maybe.. but if he doesn't have these things but he still is trying to keep me, then that's a problem" even though the apartment tried to use fixing my apartment as a bargaining chip, i saw that as a very sort of low class thing to do because they should have had enough integrity to fix the problem without me promising to stay and that's probably how women look at us men.. like say a guy meets a girl and over time the girl realizes "hey you don't have 6-pack abs" or "hey you don't have a masters degree" or "hey you don't make $80,000, you make $35,000" then the guy may say "hey don't go! if you promise to stay then i'll go back to the gym!" or "if you stay i'll go back to college!" the girl is like.. "you idiot.. you should be able to do that without me promising you anything.. the problem is not about whether i go or stay, the problem lies in your own complete lack of energy, ambition, and/or integrity about yourself... GOODBYE!" why would a girl want to be with a guy who is that needy and weak? she wants a man who has integrity who does right regardless.. not someone who hinges their actions or lack thereof on a woman's responses what do u guys think? am i speaking the truth? i think this is a sound lesson that i have learned here so i want to try harder to show that i have a personal integrity without having to be thrown a bone first.. a girl shouldn't have to ask me to be on point or on my A-game in life.. the best version of me should exist preeminently it might take a little time for me to perfect these ideas but i'm thankful for that lesson.. i feel like through that whole apartment situation, i can understand women a little more
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