i felt that this woman was worth a post here on the site.. i want to introduce her to u guys because if ur like me you like learning interesting things about relationships/attraction etc
i am subbed to her on youtube.. she has some decent advice i feel like she is mostly correct in her assessments however i must say she is definitely a woman.. i can tell she doesn't understand the male plight and the scarcity mentality we face when dating i very quickly noticed she has no idea what its like to have no options, and to have to literally try your hardest just to get one date and then after the date that person never calls you again women in dating generally have an abundance mentality because men approach them and men are so eager.. women get used to 'abundance' thoughts like "i command attention and i can have a man if i want one" men on the other hand a lot of times have a scarcity mentality which is born out of having nothing handed to you, instead you must fight for each and every interaction with a woman.. each little thing is a win.. a date where a girl doesn't roll her eyes at you, a kiss on the cheek, i mean something as small as a woman taking her coat off, or not looking at her phone for a while can be a big win for a man i remember once i met a girl from a dating site and i asked her why she didn't show her cleavage on the site because her boobs were huge and i had no idea her boobs were that big until i met her in real life she picked up her phone and showed me how many guys messaged her and she literally had 99 unread messages.. and it capped at 99, so there was no way of knowing how many messages she actually had (again, that was WITHOUT any indication of her massive boobs) i could be on a dating site for 10 yrs with nothing but pictures of me with rock hard abs and i STILL would not accumulate 99 messages.. so that goes to show you what is going on in the dating world men and women have completely different experiences, so i learned very quickly that this woman (from the youtube video) has NO IDEA what it is like to have a man's scarcity mentality.. she has no clue what its like to have your only thought in an interaction be: "please don't run away" .. she has no clue the desperation we feel, the balancing acts we have to pull off, and the feelings we have to hide.. its like i heard a preacher once say he had to be poor in order to be able to preach to the poor because if he hadn't experienced it- he'd be missing certain elements and that's what her videos are like to me sometimes.. they're missing certain elements... she doesn't understand the male plight or the scarcity mentality in dating, so sometimes the advice she gives can be irritating or like, overly simplistic- however she still has some great information if you overlook the things you know she does not understand or recognize peep some of her stuff if ur into interpersonal relationship dynamics btw.. i will explain "the 4th wall" subject line in the future
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