i have to point out a pet peeve of mine
people who don't want to hear your problems. people who don't want to listen or understand you. people who refuse to validate you in your plights or plans. i don't understand these people.. what is so bad about telling a person "i feel you" or "i never thought of it like that" or "yeah thats a good plan" or "yeah that sounds frustrating" why not just let people know you heard them or let people know that you are trying to see it from their point of view? i don't understand why people refuse to validate another person's thoughts.. its an honor of sorts that a person would trust you with some kind of thought or feeling or information.. so why do people shut others down when they do this? is it pride? like trying to make it seem like you make all the right decisions while that person next to you is a screw up? you don't "confess your sin" or issue to them- instead you just listen to theirs and offer a criticism that's condescending and not even constructive the people who don't try to understand others and the people who refuse to validate others only hurt themselves.. how? well its like this.. they don't feel you when you come to them but one day the tables will turn and they will need someone to talk to or they will need someone who understands GUESS WHAT? NO ONE WILL BE THERE FOR YOU i know a girl right now who doesn't validate any freaking thing i say and she goes to a damn therapist.. so she keeps all her life bottled up and doesn't share and doesn't ever become vulnerable and just criticizes people when they come to her with real issues and as a result, THE MORON HAS TO PAY SOMEONE TO LISTEN TO HER dumbass... look, no one will want to hear your shit when you don't open an ear to someone else.. and another thing.. even if other people DID open their ear to you in your time of need.. your own guilt (from shutting so many people down) won't allow you to talk to your friends and family i will even give an example from my own life.. ok my sister and i in 2013 had a lot of issues.. primarily i felt like she was being condescending to me.. like if i'd come to her with an issue or frustration she'd turn it around on me and instead of being like "yeah i feel you" or "i feel that, but maybe you could" ..instead she just shut me down.. this drove me insane for a while and we had some fights over it until i said f*ck it and kinda just gave up trying to have a decent relationship with her fast forward a few months and here she is calling me on the phone crying talking about how people are judging her for cheating on her husband and how she has NO ONE TO TALK TO yeah of course you had no one to talk to! you probably shut everyone in your life down the same way you did me a little while prior!!!! did i rub her face in that or diss her or refuse to hear her and be like "fix your life" and hang up? no, i listened and even met up with her and let her vent and tried to help her get her thoughts out and offer some understanding and that is the problem with these morons.. they don't realize that one day they will need help too.. one day they will need a listening ear or a favor so to reiterate. i am SO over these people who don't understand anyone's life but their own... God don't like ugly so they will get theirs so to each and every one of you prideful "my ish don't stink" people... WATCH YOUR BACK BECAUSE ROCK BOTTOM IS COMING FOR YOU AND YOU AINT GNNA BOUNCE WHEN YOU HIT CONCRETE, BITCH!!!
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